is it? if you have knowledge of clinical psychology please weigh in....jazakallaha khair in advance anyway, i always feel a compulsive need to have a crush on someone at literally any given time, and that includes hours.....i can be very pushy with both girls and boys, and if i do not have someone to focus on at any given moment, i panic, sink into depression, or resort to thinking things like, "well, maybe when that little girl gets older i can crush on her..." it has totally destroyed my life, and no matter how hard i try, i can't stop sinking into bed, cuddling with my pillow, and pretending it is some girl....is this OCD?
Are you used to being around people? To be honest, I am not...that's why I like to get testosterone flowing in gym and then I become less
obsessive.
You can channel your OCD into something useful, by keeping busy. You like reading history, so continue to do that.
If you can be calm around people, they will be attracted to you as friends.
therapy, perhaps? and getting to the root of why you have it in the first place....according to the links, it often stems from a childhood trauma, namely rejection or abandonment....it also says it could stem from physical or sexual abuse as a child, but i never had such a problem Alhamdulillah EDIT: I believe my case stems from my moving away from Miami, Florida at a young age when I had autism, into a small town, then my parents getting divorced, then me moving again, then my sister running away from home, and then my good friend moving away....
is it? if you have knowledge of clinical psychology please weigh in....jazakallaha khair in advance anyway, i always feel a compulsive need to have a crush on someone at literally any given time, and that includes hours.....i can be very pushy with both girls and boys, and if i do not have someone to focus on at any given moment, i panic, sink into depression, or resort to thinking things like, "well, maybe when that little girl gets older i can crush on her..." it has totally destroyed my life, and no matter how hard i try, i can't stop sinking into bed, cuddling with my pillow, and pretending it is some girl....is this OCD?
Mustafa,
You do have a problem. However, there’s nothing wrong with you.
You’re a man. It’s only natural that you feel the need for female companionship.
Unfortunately, the Muslim Ummah, in its deplorable and degenerative state, has mostly closed the doors to halal relationships. The result of this is that the doors of haram have been swung wide open – contributing to the sad state that you find yourself in.
Our present societal setup and mentality makes it virtually impossible for a baligh male and female, of your age, to satisfy their natural sexual desires in a halal way – wrongfully turning this issue into something taboo.
I wish I had a quick fix for you. I don’t. I’m sorry.
Please control yourself and don’t do anything that’ll get you in trouble.
When I was teen sometime I interested to a girl who I met. But this feeling was always not long, and gone in few days. I never fell into dream about her. Maybe it's because I was active in my hobby, so my mind was full of the things that relate to my hobby.
My question, don't you have interest to other things?. Maybe aeromodelling, maybe bicycling, maybe other activities?.
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anyway, i always feel a compulsive need to have a crush on someone at literally any given time, and that includes hours.....i can be very pushy with both girls and boys, and if i do not have someone to focus on at any given moment, i panic, sink into depression, or resort to thinking things like, "well, maybe when that little girl gets older i can crush on her..." it has totally destroyed my life, and no matter how hard i try, i can't stop sinking into bed, cuddling with my pillow, and pretending it is some girl....is this OCD?
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