salaam sisters and brothers. a colleague just touched me well sort of pushed me forward in a joking way and i didnt like it. he keep on being cheeky with me and joking. i am a sister who wear hijaab. he doing this lots. what i do?
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Just tell him in a serious way, also just generally avoid talking to him. It also depends where you live, in places where everyone wears hijab it aint a big deal so the guys wont be put of but like in the uk people would be abit like 'erm she wont be up for anything shes wearing hijab'.
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Tell him that you want him to cut it out and act professionally. Do it in a very serious manner, make it totally explicit that he's stepping out of bounds. If he still doesn't get it, he's a moron, or he's just pretending to be a moron. Either way, if he doesn't listen, go to your boss or something, tell him he's making you uncomfortable, and that this behavior needs to stop.
salaam sisters and brothers. a colleague just touched me well sort of pushed me forward in a joking way and i didnt like it. he keep on being cheeky with me and joking. i am a sister who wear hijaab. he doing this lots. what i do?
sis chillax what are you waiting for? you got the whole Muslim nation (well a few) behind you, try and get some brothers together to beat him up, whats wrong with the other colleagues? do they not help you? I am sure you can make a complaint against your colleague. lastly try as hard as you can to ignore him and let him know you are not interested you have better things to do.
Tell him to stop this at once! Say you don't appreciate him overstepping his limits. Don't care if he gets offended and doesn't talk to you after that or whatever. He isn't worth it worrying about.
slap him and say im joking! then read him the hadiths " having a nail put through your head is better then touching a woman who isnt your mahram" and then walk away, but time the walk lol so it looks gangsta and stylee ish lol naaa just explain to him, im sure he will understand, if not complain about him
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2 words "sexual harassment". here in the u.s. that is a pretty serious charge.
hijab or no hijab, muslimah or kafir, no woman has to put up with being pawed.
tell him in no uncertain tone that he needs to keep his hands to himself or you will go to the boss.
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sis chillax what are you waiting for? you got the whole Muslim nation (well a few) behind you, try and get some brothers together to beat him up, whats wrong with the other colleagues? do they not help you? I am sure you can make a complaint against your colleague. lastly try as hard as you can to ignore him and let him know you are not interested you have better things to do.
Talk to your colleague first. We should always give a warning first since Allah states in the Quran that believers are helpers of one another. So do try to make him stop what he's is doing. It may be that the brother heeds it and Allah gives him hidayah. If he carries on then by all mean you should report him to the boss.
i did talk to manager and she said she will talk to the colleage because i explained that in islam we dont come close to guys and not to joke with them
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OK, inshaAllah. I hope that'll solve the matter. And may I add a piece of advice here. In the future be very careful about your own behavior with the opposite sex as people can take things the wrong way and assume that you don't mind what they say or do.
Always talk to him first in a situation like this - it's very likely he won't understand he's doing anything wrong and that you are genuinly annoyed. Remember he'll come from a culture where men and women can josh around freely.
Needless to say, don't get him beaten up. Besides being fundamentally wrong, all he'll know that he was beaten up by a couple of muslims for no reason. Hardly going to improve his opinion of muslims, huh?
Yeah everyone's right, I would go up to him and tell him straight up
"Keep it professional, and don't touch me. It's annoying and it's not funny so stop kay?"
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maybe he doznot realize its nt pleasin u???
you shudjust try to explain to him, and then maybe think of getin him kicke
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Talk to your boss. If you are based in the west your company should have a strict anti-bullying harrassment policy. Use it, he deserves to lose his job.
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Just tell him to stop it nicely and if he asks why, explain
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lol naaa just explain to him, im sure he will understand, if not complain about him
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