In shaa Allah I am planning to get married. I have found the right future spouse for myself Alhamdulillah. Soon we will be engaged as her parents and mine are agreed, and next year, after our graduation we will be married in shaa Allah. So I wanted ask for good Islamic books relating to marital and family issues. I found a good book named: Blissful Marriage : A Practical Islamic Guide (Dr. Ekram and M. Rida Beshir). But it's not available in softcopy. I wanted something available in PDF as we both like to read books in PDF formats. Any other suggestion for some online course in this regard or anything will be much appreciated.
Re: Suggestion for books relating to marriage and family
Assalaamu alaikum sarslanali,
Curiously enough, a local Imam showed me this book just a few days ago. (smile) The authors are part of his community. They are, he said, very decent and learned people. (smile) And I trust his word.
However, if you want to get the book in paperback form (I'd recommend it; after all, you are, inshAllah, going to be married for many years, and may have to consult this book repeatedly), I found two copies here: http://www.amazon.ca/Blissful-Marria.../dp/1590080394 The prices are in Canadian dollars. (twinkle) The same authors have books on parenting, too…
Anyway, I'm glad to hear things are going well for you!
May Allah, the Generous, Bless you and your future wife with a harmonious and beneficial marriage. (twinkle) And wonderful children!
Re: Suggestion for books relating to marriage and family
Salam Sister! Thanks for your advice Yeah I found this one, but the reviews of the formatting etc were not good, so I was looking for alternatives. But I think it I should just buy the kindle version.
Re: Suggestion for books relating to marriage and family
Waalikum Assalaam
format_quote Originally Posted by sarslanali
the reviews of the formatting etc were not good
Who needs formatting when you have such wonderful contents?Seems like a good read.
Blissful Marriage - A Practical Islamic Guide
Large [A5]+ Paperback - 292 Pages,
2nd [New] Edition,
by Drs. Ekram and M. Rida Beshir.
Includes Footnotes (Qur'an and Hadith References).
Description :
This book provides the tools to achieve blissful marriage in a pragmatic and graceful way. Readers will find the following prominent features as they read through : and wife are viewed together, as a team, instead of as two separate individuals. This is fitting since the family unit is the cornerstone of Islamic society.
> An ample amount of practical examples for day to day living, as well as examples reharging other issues facing Muslim families in North America. > Common marital problems presented as case studies with their analysis and solutions. > A detailed list of essential qualities for successful spousal harmony. book contains the right mix of theory and practice due to the authors' wealth of experience in marriage counselling.
All of its contents are based on Islamic references from Qur'an and Sunnah and their applications to the contemporary enviroment.
Table of Contents :
---Preface,
---Introduction,
Chapter [1] Family Crises in North America & Their Impact on Muslim Families,
---Introduction,
---Shocking Facts,
------Canadian Statistics,
------United States Statistics,
---Impact on Muslim Families,
---What to do : A Word of Advice.
Chapter [2] Main Objectives of Marriage,
---Introduction,
---Stronger Faith,
------Examples from the Seerah: Abu Addahdah and Um Addahdah,
------The Evening Visitor,
---Other Objectives of Marriage,
------Realising and Fulfilling the Sunnah of Creation (Pairing),
------Procreation,
------Ihssun,
------Fulfilling and satisfying the Parenthood Instinct in Human Beings,
------Progress and Advancement of Human Race,
------Stronger Society,
------Proper Distribution of Tasks & Responsibilities,
Chapter [3] The Process of Selection,
---Introduction,
---Qur'anic Advice Regarding Process of Selection,
---The Prophets' Advice,
---The North American Situation,
------How Parents & Community can help,
---Matching Questionnaires,
------Male Matching Questionnaire,
------Female Matching Questionnaire,
---How to make best use of this Questionnaire,
---Final Word Concerning Questionnaires,
---Marriage from the People of the Book,
------The Condition stated in the verse,
------The Practice of the Early Muslims,
------Muslims in North America are a Minority,
------The Reality of the North American Condition,
------The Impact on Muslim Women,
------A Word of Caution.
Chapter [4] Tried and Proven Recipes for a Successful Marrriage,
---Introduction,
---Ingredients,
------The Seven Essential 'C's,
--------Commitment,
--------Courtesy,
--------Communication,
--------Care,
--------Contentment,
--------Contribution,
--------Compromise,
------The Seven Magical 'S's,
--------Sensivity,
--------Sincerity,
--------Security,
--------Support,
--------Satisfaction,
--------Sharing,
--------Sexual Gratification,
------The Five Wonderful 'A's,
--------Adaptation,
--------Accomodation,
--------Appreciation,
--------Anticipation,
--------Acceptance,
------Other Ingredients & Qualities,
--------Rahman (meaning compassion, leniency and kindness),
--------Love,
--------Forgiveness,
--------Trust and Faithfulness,
--------Open Mindedness and Understanding,
--------Respect,
--------Patience,
---Tested and Proven Recipes for Various Occasions,
------Holiday Recipe,
------Visiting In-Laws Recipe,
------During Pregnancy and Delivery Time,
------During Conflicts,
------During Overseas Travel to Visit Family,
------During Exams and Study Periods,
------During Shopping Trips.
Chapter [5] Family Dynamics and Family Atmosphere,
---Introduction,
---How to Attain this Atmosphere,
---Things to Do,
---Things to Avoid.
Chapter [6] Essential Spousal Obligations,
---Introduction,
---Essential Shared Obligations,,
------Help each other be Better Muslims,
------Treat Each Other with Respect, Kindness and Compassion,
------Fulfill each other's Physical Intimate Needs and Desires,
------Provide Good Companionship,
------Proper Understanding of the Qawamah concept,
------Proper Understanding of the Status of Women in Islam,
---Some Essential Wife's Obligations,
------Main Caregiver of the Children,
------Obedience,
------Acceptance and Respect of the Husband's Qawamah, (Guardianship),
---Some Essential Husband's Obligations,
------Main Financial Supporter of the Family,
------Serving and Helping,
------Proper Use of Qawamah & Proper Fulfillment of Qawamah's Responsibility,.
Chapter [7] Tazkiyat an Nafs | Purifying and Cleansing,
---Introduction,
---Defintion of Tazkiyat an Nafs,
---The Qur'an and Tazkiyah,
---The Sunnah and Tazkiyah,
---The Process of Tazkiyah,
---Be at Peace with Yourself,
------Making Commitment, (Mu'ahadah),
------Watching Overoneself, (Muraqabah),
------Reviewing Assessing and Evaluating One's Actions, (Muhasabah),
------Punishing Oneself for Mistakes Committed, (Muaqabah),
------Striving for the Best, ( Mujahadah),
---Self-Search,
------Sample Checklists for Husbands,
------Sample Checklists for Wives,
---Proper Islamic Conflict Resolution,
------Islamic Guidelines for Conflict Resolution,
------Take the Initiative,
------Forgive and Forget,
------Control your Anger,
------No name Calling,
---Practical Steps for Conflict Resolution,
Chapter [8] Common Marital Problems, (Case Studies),
---(1). ''My Wife talks too much,''
---(2). ''I would love to help my Husband be a grateful son to his Mum, but ...'',
---(3). The Sister-in-Law Dilemma,
---(4). ''If you don't eat it warm, you don't understand a thing!''
---(5). ''I feel like we are growing apart!''
---(6). ''He only thinks of his Parents,''
---(7). ''My Husband is rarely home,''
---(8). ''I can't enjoy a thing around him,''
---(9). ''Where did my wife go?''
Chapter [9] Anatomy of Poblems, (Case Studies),
---(1). ''My Wife talks too much,''
---(2). ''I would love to help my Husband be a grateful son to his Mum, but ...'',
---(3). The Sister-in-Law Dilemma,
---(4). ''If you don't eat it warm, you don't understand a thing!''
---(5). ''I feel like we are growing apart!''
---(6). ''He only thinks of his Parents,''
---(7). ''My Husband is rarely home,''
---(8). ''I can't enjoy a thing around him,''
---(9). ''Where did my wife go?''
Chapter [10] Family Stages : The Husband/Wife Relationship at Different Stages,
---Introduction,
---The Sweet, Critical Two,
---Forming a Family, the Stage of Having Children,
------Pregnancy and Delivery,
------Children Take Over,
------The School Years,
------The Teen Years,
---The Empty Nest: Children Leaving Home,
---Parents Left Alone.
Chapter [11] Further Tips,
---Over 20 pieces of further practical advice and useful tips.
Re: Suggestion for books relating to marriage and family
Assalaamu alaikum,
I haven't read this book, but it looks like it might be interesting. On amazon, you can "look inside" the book and read some pages to get a feel of it.
Before the Wedding: Questions for Muslims to Ask Before Getting Married (Paperback)
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