I think you're having severe waswas/whispers of the shaytan.
I think they are unnecessary because they prevent you from doing things you want to do
You can say that just about anything. You could be in an office from 9-5 and you would be prevented from being free to do as you please. The fact is, this dunya is not meant to be one of luxury and getting all we want. We are to toil. It is one where we have to struggle.
Change the way you view life. It's not all and should not be about ME ME ME! There's several million who have to worry about where they'll get food and water the next day and despite being blessed so much, you're here complaining because you want time to do 'stuff' that children stop you from.
How about if you were to live in a place where you had to walk for miles just to find food for yourself and family. Would you still feel bad that you wasted time after such essentials, when you could have been doing 'better' stuff?
Listen bro, you're being entirely selfish and materialistic. Carry on with this and you'll grow to be a bitter old man that hates everything and complains complains complains.
You've obviously got something against children but why do you keep posting topics on it? I don't like anchovies but you don't see me posting a topic every 5 minutes.
If you want help or advice tell us the whole story and I'm sure someone will offer it.
I think they are unnecessary because they prevent you from doing things you want to do
an I bet when you go to jannah you probably not gonna able to do what you wanted to do in this dunya
I agree with Alpha Dude saying that this is selfish. The attitude is selfish and worldly. Life is not about doing what you want to. Our purpose here is not about our will, but about fulfilling God's will. We are here to do God's purpose, not our own.
children are the only innocent thing left in this world - when there are non - then the end is near.
peace
Do you think the pious don't sin?
They merely:
Veiled themselves and didn't flaunt it
Sought forgiveness and didn't persist
Took ownership of it and don't justify it
And acted with excellence after they had erred - Ibn al-Qayyim
if you want to do the things you wanna do....like advancing your career,making money and indulging in stuff thats not good for you then that makes you an egocentric person and if you're that then you'll see children as the great impeders
in islam we take care of the kids and teach them about islam to make our ummah stronger decade in decade out!
deja vu or what? btw congratulations to your brother and sister in law on their new baby, I know you were wanting to give their baby away, but I am sure he'll grow up to love you just the same.. which is quite amazing.. and I hope he teaches you a thing or too..
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
-babies are cute. all you have to do if find yourself a child who is as cute as my baby nephew (the "cute scale" rates him to be 11/10) and you'll fall in love instantly.
-babies do take up a lot of time and can be a fitnah for your iman, but i think its about time management and priority.
-when you see they fruits of properly raising them, it would be worth it.
-how do you think humanity continues.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
deja vu or what? btw congratulations to your brother and sister in law on their new baby, I know you were wanting to give their baby away, but I am sure he'll grow up to love you just the same.. which is quite amazing.. and I hope he teaches you a thing or too..
seriously dude, kids are like plasticine you can mold them to do great things for you. and its not like theyre holding u back 24/7 thats why we employ our wives for some part.
my brother's wife is getting kinda frustrated with the 2 kids because the kids are not gonna eat when its their time to eat, and the new baby wakes up and its pretty hard to make it go back to sleep.
This is the reason why i wish the baby should have died or just gave it away to someone else.
why couldn't Allah just give babies some knowledge?
my brother's wife is getting kinda frustrated with the 2 kids because the kids are not gonna eat when its their time to eat, and the new baby wakes up and its pretty hard to make it go back to sleep.
This is the reason why i wish the baby should have died or just gave it away to someone else.
why couldn't Allah just give babies some knowledge?
Why does it bother you so much? Is the baby taking away valuable attention which would otherwise have been given to you?
my brother's wife is getting kinda frustrated with the 2 kids because the kids are not gonna eat when its their time to eat, and the new baby wakes up and its pretty hard to make it go back to sleep.
This is the reason why i wish the baby should have died or just gave it away to someone else.
why couldn't Allah just give babies some knowledge?
Are you for real? If you genuinely think a baby should die or be given away because you don't like them, then you SERIOUSLY need help. I'm not going to try to persuade you to change your mind because you have issues. It is not normal to believe such things so I suggest counselling or something because it's really wrong.
The believer has four characteristics: if he is afflicted by any misfortune, he remains patient and steadfast. If he is given anything, he is grateful. If he speaks , he speaks the truth. If he passes judgment on any issue,he is just .
There are many people in this world that don't want children at all. when I get married, I will never have children, I'm gonna use a condom and contraception
This is the reason why i wish the baby should have died or just gave it away to someone else.
Brother, you're wishing death upon a baby. A POOR DEFENSLESS BABY!!!
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught that three things continue to benefit a [believing] person even after death - charity which he had given (which continues to benefit others), beneficial knowledge which he had left behind (i.e. authored or taught), and supplication onhis behalf by a righteous child (Narrated by Saheeh Muslim).
Yes and it's not that difficult to raise a righteous child. Where there's a will, there's a way.
I doubt you really think babies are unnecessary. I think you're just looking at a worthless aspect. Perhaps you haven't been able to feel children's lovely sides yet masha'Allah.
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