i dnt knw how to start putting my thought into words, or hw silly it sounds but here we go
it am just wondering, how some men and women think of marrying OUTSIde of their culture, obviously, thinking about how it can really work is very differnt to actually experiencing it.
Imagination and Reality are 2 different things!
Of course, like if u marry into a practising family,religion should outweight ny cultural conflicts and bond people closer together as one of the most beautiful things about islam is that it is for all cultures.
but would it actually work? or wud it b lyk : "the grass is greener on the other side".
I don't see a problem. As long as both husband and wife are muslim there should be no problem. I know that may be hard to see if you come from a culture that forbids you to marry from the outside, but really it's not an issue. If there is love between husband and wife and both are of good character then the marriage will work.
I think your culture is influencing your thoughts, but believe me it can work.
i married outside my race (british) to another race (indian) and we have no problems, it is only a problem if the people are cultural and put that culture before islam.
if both partners and families put the deen first then there is no reason the marriage shouldnt work, if one or both partners are insisting their unislamic parts of their culture are dominant in the marriage then thinks are likely to go wrong.
eg a friend of my wife who is a revert sister but her husband insists on chapattis and curry every day, urdu at home and that she wears pakistani clothes (not islamic clothes, pakistani clothes)
Islam is for all of mankind, Culture and nationality has no role to play in that message. Its when Muslims start to allow nationality and culture to interfere with there Deen is when things start to fall apart which rises only due to the fact of weakness in faith and narrow mindedness.
"And do not Die unless you are in the state of Islam (Submission)"
As long as both partners love, trust and respect each other, the marriage will be successful. If their cultures and/or religions are different, try to meet half way rather than insisting the man or the woman to embrace what the other wants to. Everything can be discussed. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!! Learn how to give and to take..
eg a friend of my wife who is a revert sister but her husband insists on chapattis and curry every day, urdu at home and that she wears pakistani clothes (not islamic clothes, pakistani clothes)
Does that cause tension in this couple's home, Dawud?
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
i dnt knw how to start putting my thought into words, or hw silly it sounds but here we go
it am just wondering, how some men and women think of marrying OUTSIde of their culture, obviously, thinking about how it can really work is very differnt to actually experiencing it.
Imagination and Reality are 2 different things!
Of course, like if u marry into a practising family,religion should outweight ny cultural conflicts and bond people closer together as one of the most beautiful things about islam is that it is for all cultures.
but would it actually work? or wud it b lyk : "the grass is greener on the other side".
I see that you are resident in England, if you are a British citizen then your culture should be British and as such the culture of the nation is one of inclusive integration and your parents should encourage that. If they do not you should ask them why not?
The believer has four characteristics: if he is afflicted by any misfortune, he remains patient and steadfast. If he is given anything, he is grateful. If he speaks , he speaks the truth. If he passes judgment on any issue,he is just .
I see that you are resident in England, if you are a British citizen then your culture should be British and as such the culture of the nation is one of inclusive integration and your parents should encourage that. If they do not you should ask them why not?
I'm calling BS on this one. Do you think all british people share the same culture? Not even all the whitest londoners share the same culture.
Come, let's all be fellows, make life easy on ourselves
let us love, and be loved, no one will have the world for themselves.
Oh, and about the issue, ideally that may not seem like a big deal, but culture and families play an important part. Asking for equality of stature is a given right to families. It prevents failed marriages.
Come, let's all be fellows, make life easy on ourselves
let us love, and be loved, no one will have the world for themselves.
I see that you are resident in England, if you are a British citizen then your culture should be British and as such the culture of the nation is one of inclusive integration and your parents should encourage that. If they do not you should ask them why not?
what a fool! France is over 80% Catholic, are you a Catholic? then why not?
you need, according to your silly simian simplicity, to erect some statues of the "'virgin mary," complete with "terrorist attire," toss some beads and a cross over your rearview mirror, and start eating fish on Friday. and since you haven't, now you have to go see the child rapists in a booth and tell them how grossly you have sinned.
and while you're at it, if you can't follow your own advice, stop dispensing here!
Had the non-believer known of all the Mercy which is in the Hands of Allah, he would not lose hope of entering Paradise, and had the believer known of all the punishment which is present with Allah, he would not consider himself safe from the Hell-Fire http://www.muftimenk.co.za/Downloads.html
Does that cause tension in this couple's home, Dawud?
not as much as some other things, it isnt the first time i have heard of this, some brothers and sisters seem to assume when a revert marries them they must give up everything about their culture.
this is just dumb, i am no less muslim for enjoying roast beef and yorkshire pudding or toad in the whole.
it is culture that does this though, not islam. its simular and makes me laugh when i see converts to christianity in the uk trying to out english the english.
My honest thoughts are that if someone's culture is so deeply ingrained in their way of life, then maybe Islam isn't as important to them as it should be.
Of course marriage between two cultures can work, providing the two people care for each other mutually and their deen and Allah (swt) above all.
I see that you are resident in England, if you are a British citizen then your culture should be British and as such the culture of the nation is one of inclusive integration and your parents should encourage that. If they do not you should ask them why not?
my culture should be british what way ?
i eat and dress like n indian mostly nyway
i married outside my race (british) to another race (indian) and we have no problems, it is only a problem if the people are cultural and put that culture before islam.
if both partners and families put the deen first then there is no reason the marriage shouldnt work, if one or both partners are insisting their unislamic parts of their culture are dominant in the marriage then thinks are likely to go wrong.
eg a friend of my wife who is a revert sister but her husband insists on chapattis and curry every day, urdu at home and that she wears pakistani clothes (not islamic clothes, pakistani clothes)
oh jazakillah for sharing ure example,
yh xactly as i c it , if we put the deen first then it shudnt be a problem
inshallah
what a fool! France is over 80% Catholic, are you a Catholic? then why not?
you need, according to your silly simian simplicity, to erect some statues of the "'virgin mary," complete with "terrorist attire," toss some beads and a cross over your rearview mirror, and start eating fish on Friday. and since you haven't, now you have to go see the child rapists in a booth and tell them how grossly you have sinned.
and while you're at it, if you can't follow your own advice, stop dispensing here!
What are you talking about?? First, read my profile - I am British living in France (and Britain). Next, culture is more than religion, in fact I am sure we can separate culture and religion.
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