In the past I have posted in regards to a lifeless marraige to my husband of 3 yrs.
Recently we had full on argument - blew up from something I found, although in the same house we have been living apart.
Over the last month I have felt feelings stronger than ever for him and part of me is thinking we can make it work.. allow what has happened and part of me doesn't want to know what happened in ref to what I found, but what if it comes up in future?.. should it be cleared up before we start again?
I have prayer Ishtikhara before and I did not get good signs, dreams of me and him fighting and another where I was begging him brother to let me have a divorce.
I feel I am stuck, I'm scared if I go back and things still don't work out, or if I go back am I disobeying signs that Allah swt has given me?
If I am to go back, how should I tackle the relationship in order for it to be as strong as possible, and allow us to not fall into the path we have previously....??
In the past I have posted in regards to a lifeless marraige to my husband of 3 yrs.
Recently we had full on argument - blew up from something I found, although in the same house we have been living apart.
Over the last month I have felt feelings stronger than ever for him and part of me is thinking we can make it work.. allow what has happened and part of me doesn't want to know what happened in ref to what I found, but what if it comes up in future?.. should it be cleared up before we start again?
I have prayer Ishtikhara before and I did not get good signs, dreams of me and him fighting and another where I was begging him brother to let me have a divorce.
I feel I am stuck, I'm scared if I go back and things still don't work out, or if I go back am I disobeying signs that Allah swt has given me?
If I am to go back, how should I tackle the relationship in order for it to be as strong as possible, and allow us to not fall into the path we have previously....??
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, jazakallah khayran for sharing your issue with us. My sister i think you should consider marriage counselling if you really want to try and make things work between you two. Or you can get an elder or respected member of the family to mediate things between you. You should also get some advice from an experienced and learned scholar.
It is best to get as much advice as possible at this stage and takew things from there. Divorce should always be the very last option but if all else fails then there is no choice left. Continue to ask of Allah to do what is best for the both of you and i pray that whatever happens, happens for the best. Ameen
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