I justa want some advice had amarriage proposal yestaday. The guy was actuali marrid 2 a cousin before but didnt work out for many reasons. Im worried what they might think if we say yes. but what should i look at before giving a answer? can i do istikhara? im scared.
try and find out his character and akhlaaq. there is nothing wrong with you marrying him, but there may be ill feelings with regards to your family. if youre close to ur cousin maybe you can talk to her?
this is something that although is not wrong its upto the person. do you mind that he was married to a cousin?
if not then find out how he is. ask people about him. place your trust in Allah and pray istikhara. whatever is planned for you will happen then inshaAllah
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I justa want some advice had amarriage proposal yestaday. The guy was actuali marrid 2 a cousin before but didnt work out for many reasons. Im worried what they might think if we say yes. but what should i look at before giving a answer? can i do istikhara? im scared.
why is that worrying? i mean, if they asked, that pretty much says that they already agree with you, yeah
but what should i look at before giving a answer?
i think that depnds on what your're looking for in a husband. only you can answer that. :sunny: but yeah, as suggessted before, manner, piety would be the go.
I would also find out the reason for the divorce. not to sound disrspectful or anything, but they reason for the divorce could mean a 'deficiency' in him. get where im coming from. :sunny:
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
why is that worrying? i mean, if they asked, that pretty much says that they already agree with you, yeah
i think that depnds on what your're looking for in a husband. only you can answer that. :sunny: but yeah, as suggessted before, manner, piety would be the go.
I would also find out the reason for the divorce. not to sound disrspectful or anything, but they reason for the divorce could mean a 'deficiency' in him. get where im coming from. :sunny:
"Deficiency in him" :rolleyes:
no1 is perfect every1 is lacking in something not just men women too but it just shows how demanding women are
"Deficiency in him" :rolleyes:
no1 is perfect every1 is lacking in something not just men women too but it just shows how demanding women are
do you even know what i meant by that i thought maybe he could be a wife beater, for eg. or somewhere along those lines! of course no ones perfect. what do u think i am? stupid or something. :mad:
just shows how demanding women are
oh, here we go again! demading huh? right, so i reckon if you were to right a list of what you wanted in a wife, it'll be as long as your arm!
demanding. pffftttt
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 02-13-2008 at 09:21 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
Anyway, lets avoid gender topics, and stay on THIS thread topic. If you don't have anything else to say to the thread starter then please don't post unnecessarily. Jazaak Allaah.
i didnt even mean thatffended: it didnt even cross my mind!
maybe you should reread my above post.
Ok sister but u have to accept that both the man and woman have to strive to be better if the man was so called Deficient and he was unloyal or whateva then he would change for the good and if the wife is "world class nagger" then she should change so that the marriage would work all im saying is both parties should to work to get along with each other
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