My mother passwed away, May Allah bless her, forgive her and shower his mercy on her, and I wanted to possibly give her the best continuous rewards and wondering whether anybody can provide some evidentually advice on what are the best things I could do for her now that she has passed.
May Allah Bless you Skye, It is a very hard thing to endure but I guess what keeps me going is that I remember in one of the names of Allah SWT which is the 'All Merciful' and I know he will show his mercy upon her. I just want to try everything I can to possibly continue giving her rewards inshAllah, I know as a child I can make DUA and give Sadaqa in her name and was wondering if there was more I can do. I loved my mum very much and I hope she died pleased with me even knowing I was ungrateful to her during my younger years.
Asalam alaikum brother,
I'm so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. Our parents are so special and it is hard to see them pass.
I don't know enough to comment on anything.
Take care brother and may Allah give you comfort.
May Allah ease your pain. have patience brother, Our lord has a mercy of 70 mothers. just imagine 70 mothers. He cares about us a lot rather than we can ever understand.
May He give your mother a peaceful sleep and protect her from all the punishments of the grave . Be firm in your prayers , and include this dua
Time will be pass by and the pain would lessen. Be patient akhee. And do lots of prayers as the prayer of this time that you are passing by are accepted. inshallah. May Allah ease your pain
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May our tongues be the slaves of ALLAH.May no momin wear silk.May no momin wear oufit hanging below his ankles.May all mumineen wear hijab Ameen
As difficult as this time may be, please understand it is a gift for both you and your Mother.
How can such a sad time be a gift?
Because, your life is proceeding in the order it was meant to be. You will never have to face the fear of dieing before your Mother and cause her stronger grief than you now face. That is the gift your Mother gained, she was spared the possibility of seeing you die.
Now for yourself, fear of death will diminish for you. Your Mother has lead the way for you. You will now gain the courage and knowledge to understand and follow the path that leads to Jannah and Inshallah One day you will regain what you now lost and be blessed for eternity.
May Allah place sabr and acceptance in your heart and may He place noor in your mother's grave and grant her Paradise. Ameen.
The things you can do for deceased parents are...
pay any debts they left behind
Hadith related by Ibn Majah quotes the Prophet as saying: "What is credited to a believer of his action and good deed after his death is any useful knowledge he might have taught or spread, a God-fearing child he might have left behind, a copy of the Qur'an he might have left to an heir, a mosque he might have built, a house he might have dedicated for use by travelers, a stream or river he might have caused to run, a donation to charity (i.e. sadaqah) he might have set aside when he was enjoying good health. All that catches up with him after his death." Another authentic Hadith related by Muslim quotes the Prophet as saying: "Any Muslim who initiates a good practice receives its reward and the reward of anyone who follows his example without reducing their reward by the smallest of fractions, and any Muslim who initiates a bad practice will bear its burden as well as the burden of everyone who follows his example without reducing their burdens in anyway."
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There are numerous Hadiths which tell us that a number of his companions came to the Prophet individually to ask him whether they can give sadaqah or fast or do the pilgrimage on behalf of their deceased relatives, and he always said that they may do that and the dead person would benefit by it. Al-Bukhari relates that Saad ibn Ubadah, the chief of the Ansari tribe of Al-Khazraj, said to the Prophet: "Messenger of Allah, my mother died when I was away. Would she benefit if I give charitable donations (i.e. sadaqah) on her behalf? The Prophet answered in the affirmative. Saad said: "I would like you to be my witness that I am giving as sadaqah on her behalf my orchard at Al-Meraf." Ibn Abbas reports that a woman traveled in a boat and pledged that should Allah save her life, she would fast for a month. She was saved but she did not fast before she died. Her daughter or her sister asked the Prophet about that and he ordered her to fast on behalf of the deceased woman. (Related by Abu-Dawood, An-Nassaie, Ahmad and others).
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “A man’s status will be raised in Paradise and he will ask, ‘How did I get here?’ He will be told, ‘By your son’s du`a’s (prayers) for forgiveness for you.” (Reported by Ibn Majah)
Another thing that may reach the deceased is sadaqah (charity) given on his behalf, because ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) reported that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): “My mother has passed away, and if she could have spoken, she would have given something in charity. Will she receive a reward if I give something on her behalf?" He said, “Yes.” (Reported by al-Bukhari)
SubhanaAllah u must be so devastated . May Allah grant you sabr to bear this painful loss. Ur mother is with the one who created her, who wrongs none. May Allah bring your heart ease. ameen.
May Allah SWT forgive her, have mercy on her soul, make her grave spacious and grant her the highest of firdows ameen.
La ilaha ilalah...
Learn Patience from Asiyah, Loyalty from Khadijah, Sincerity from Aisha and Steadfastness from Fatima.
brother always make dua' for her, ask mercy for her, ask her status to continue rising , you yourself be as good a muslim as you can possibly be inshaAllah
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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