ok i have posted this before in advice and support but it is awaiting approval and i dont have much time before i have to get offline so i need some advice right now, i am a muslim revert living in america and my family is catholic my mom has accomodated my request to not eat ham for the dinner and instead eat turkey but they still want me to celebrate with them even though i have already explained i cant. what should i do???
Last edited by seeker-of-light; 04-11-2009 at 04:08 PM.
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Tell your mother one more time. " Mom, I can't ".
If she still want you to celebrate, just go to your room and lock the door. Don't out of your room until celebration has over.
i cant do this unless i want to be grounded forever and told that i ruined holidays for them, i have to be considerate of my family but they also need to be considerate of me anyone have any other ideas?
what do you guys gonna do other than eating dinner with the family ?
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
well my family wants to celebrate by having me and my brother do easter egg hunting and giving both of us lots of things in easter baskets on easter morning and go to church and then go to my extended family and have dinner there, will be ham there but my mom says i dont have to eat it
So, hunting chocolate, going to Church, and eating.
I'd say the only thing worryable about there is the Church bit..
Could you convince your mother that Muslims go to Mosque not Church?
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
i have tried to convince my mom several times to not make me go to church but she insists that every week i go to church with her anyways, she will not ever let me go to the mosque though even though i asked her to let me go while they are at church...
How old are you? I mean, shouldn't your mother let you do as you please now?
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
Egg hunting!! we used to do that at school when I was a kid , it was fun... finding all that Chocolate eggs.
uhm ok so about the church, you should just stay at home and then go to the dinner.
she does know that you are a muslim now doesn't she, what about your dad or do you have any other relative that supports you about being a muslim?
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
i am 15 will be 16 in may, and no these are traditions my family has always done they want me to continue to do them with them, because they want us to be a strong family and to get along. but dont understand why i must celebrate their holidays as well, i guess it is because i have always before and then now i dont want to, easter is very important to my family. my mom is completly uncompromising...
i am 15 will be 16 in may, and no these are traditions my family has always done they want me to continue to do them with them, because they want us to be a strong family and to get along. but dont understand why i must celebrate their holidays as well, i guess it is because i have always before and then now i dont want to, easter is very important to my family. my mom is completly uncompromising...
Ahh still quite young masha'Allah.. hmm.. what if you sit down with you mother for a daughter-mother chat and explain to her in the most feminine, convincing way as possible?
I'm not quite sure, running out of options.
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
no they dont...my family only celebrates catholic holidays and when i pointed out they wont celebrate my holidays but enforce theirs on me my mom just got mad at me....
Aww sis, I'm not sure what to tell you..
I guess if there's absolutely no way to get out of this, then hating it in your heart is enough.
"Whoever amongst you sees anything objectionable, let him change it with his hand, if he is not able, then with his tongue, and if he is not even able to do so, then with his heart, and the latter is the weakest form of faith."
no, my relatives are not muslim, my mom is accepting but she is not very helpful for me to follow my religion. they know, but they still want me to do the same things like always this is what she calls "family time"...
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