‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
1st situation----
Your friend joins a forum or group....now due to his/her activity, someone adds him/her.....
Your friend tells dat person "Thanks".....
2nd situation----
Your friend's Mum & Dad present him/her with a gift (....anything....)....
Your friend replies with a "Thanks" or "Jazak-allah"
Your reaction....?????
You & your friend are strolling somewhere (lets say...a park) and both of you are engrossed in some real intense conversation....
...BANG...
Someone bangs into your friend....
Although it was the other person's fault....
But your friend says "SORRY"...
I think there is a fine line between the two. Are you saying you are too good mannered and it doesn't fit in the expected norm, hence the looks & comments?
well personally i have always believed it is better to be the first one to say sorry. even if its not necessarily your fault. It ends a lot of bad feeling and can stop many awkward situations. As with thank you....i dont think anyone can ever say thank you enough. Far too many people in this world lack basic courtesy so maybe the rest of us should make up for it
Just follow your heart and say what comes up. And what you think is the best as we do not know how your family reacts or friends reaction as you can only know that and thus only give your opinion.
Um... am I only one that doesn't understand what the reaction is supposed to be... They seem like normal scenarios to me. My reaction? Nothing extraordinary that I can think of..
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
From the way ur presenting it, we can only assume it's a general scenario...therefore in these situations the best thing you do is say thank you, being appreciative, regardless of what it is.
If there is more to your situation, I really think you need to expand. I'm not sure how much we can help you with that general piece of information. Hence why some of us are a little...confused.
Hope you understand .
*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
format_quote Originally Posted by Scents of Jannah
what I meant was, if you feel that by you being too thankful and appreciative, you're going OTT in other peoples' eyes?
Another question for the OP would be why it should matter what other people think?
If you feel that being polite to others, with the right intentions, is a good thing to be (and personally, I think so!), then just keep doing it. It will make this world a better place!
If others don't like it, that's their problem - don't make it yours!
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
Surely saying 'thank you' and 'sorry' are just basic politeness?
I know sister....but how many of us actually follow these basic courtesies????
format_quote Originally Posted by Rabi'ya
well personally i have always believed it is better to be the first one to say sorry. even if its not necessarily your fault. It ends a lot of bad feeling and can stop many awkward situations. As with thank you....i dont think anyone can ever say thank you enough. Far too many people in this world lack basic courtesy so maybe the rest of us should make up for it
Jazak-allah sister...thats exactly what i wanted...
Alhamdullilah....people here dont encounter such problems....or i was not able to convey correctly what i wanted to say.....
Anyways....I dont go trotting along the globe.....
But Ive noticed that....
Generally I would expect some kindness & courtesy from a Non-Muslim....But none from a Muslim.....
[Yusufali 48:29] {Muhammad is the messenger of Allah; and those who are with him are strong against Unbelievers, (but) compassionate amongst each other.}
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