hi,
I am a secret believer of islam, i have been attracted to islam since many
years.
i want to go to a mosque and learn more about it.
i live in the US and iam married and have one daughter.
I am so scared to take the step of becoming muslim fully as my wife will
divorce me and i will face persecution from family and parents, which i
cannot tolerate. is there any way i can be a secret muslim and go to a
mosque with out them knowing ?
i hope some one can encourage me dont know what to do
brother did you declared the shahadah? if so you are muslim, but since you will be required to pray 5 times a day and fast. i am not sure how you could hide it from your family.
I would really advice you to face the people in your life and tell them. Islam wont change you for the worst but for the better.
As TrustWorthy said, you need to declare the Shahadah first.
And find many ways to go the the mosque secretly and dont tell your wife that you are a Muslim.Start talking to her about Islam and tell her "I think Islam is true".And tell her things about Islam.May be you both will then enjoy living as Muslims after you talk about Islam to your wife.
Alhamdulilah that you have been guided to Islam. It is truly a blessing of Allah that you were not one of those with a veiled heart, who are blind to the beauty and message of Islam.
Now, I do not agree that you should hide your religion from your family. It is such a blessing that Allah has guided you to Islam, and you should not feel any shame or fear of people knowing. When we hide it from those who are closest to us, we are hiding something of great beauty from them. We may even be missing on a great chance to help them to see Islam as something wonderful and beautiful. In showing them Islam, you will be making dawah (invitation to Islam), and they may, with the guidance of Allah, accept Islam, inshAllah.
Brother, there are always the chances of being persecuted by friends, family, and the world as a whole, when we allow people to see that we are Muslim. I would be lying if I said that this was not a chance, or even a strong possibility. But, I want you to know something that is very important: whatever sufferings that you go through for the sake of Islam, Allah will reward you. We are all tested by Allah, and your sufferings would be a test. You should know that Allah will only test those whom He loves, so do not despair, or ever think that Allah doesn't love you (the concept does not hold up in Islam. Suffering is not equated to punishment).
You should be open about your new faith, and give people around you a chance to accept you. You may be worrying for nothing. Speak gently to your wife, and explain to her the true meaning of Islam. Let her see that you are a better person now that you are Muslim. The greatest dawah that we can do is to live Islam truly. We do not need to quote verses from the Quran, or start talking about how this is halal or haram. Just be a good person (a good Muslim), and show how much Islam has improved you.
If you are not already, you need to start praying 5 times a day. Explain to your wife what you are doing, and why. Start going to masjid (mosque), and again, explain to her the what and why. She is your wife, and should be your closest confidant. Do not shut her out from the most important thing in your life (your relationship with Allah and Islam). Make her a part of this.
Yes, rejection is possible, but as I stated earlier, know that every struggle is a test from Allah, and proof that He loves you. InshAllah, things will work out for you, and in a way that will be better than anything you could have ever imagined.
You are not alone in this world, brother. Know that you are now a member of a family that is 2.5 billion strong! This is why we call you "brother." You are not merely a "fellow Muslim," but you are our "brother." Anything that you need, you can come to us and ask us. Muslims help one another, because we are a family and a community (Ummah).
Be strong, and pray to Allah for ease in hardship. And, thank Allah for guiding you to the wonderful religion of Islam.
Take the shahadah ASAP, because one does not know how long they will live for. And about your family finding out, you can break it to them slowly, when the time is ready.
Read this simple and straightforward article for more information brother;
Inshallah I Think you should take the shahadah and just go for it coz itz wtz in your heart dat really matters. also make dua to allah to make it easy for you to break the news nd nothing bad comes from it inshallah..
I am a new believer and i have never went to a mosque i have learning about islam online here and there. when ever i drive by a mosque my heart just pains to go there and learn more. but i cant. because most of the brothers there know my family .
also what is Shahadah ? can i do it online.
What should i do if my wife divorces me , I am so confused. i am so new to this all islamic terms also.
I did complete reading the english Quaran 5 years back.
I am a new believer and i have never went to a mosque i have learning about islam online here and there. when ever i drive by a mosque my heart just pains to go there and learn more. but i cant. because most of the brothers there know my family .
also what is Shahadah ? can i do it online.
What should i do if my wife divorces me , I am so confused. i am so new to this all islamic terms also.
I did complete reading the english Quaran 5 years back.
Ashahada is you must say :
I testify “La ilah illa Allah, Muhammad rasoolu Allah.”
The translation of which is:
“I testify that there is no true god (deity) but God (Allah), and that Muhammad is a Messenger (Prophet) of God.”
Watch this movie with your wife and you will see how our prophet Mohammed Salla allah alayhi wassallam and muslims people were brave and show the islam to all the world
Welcome to the forum and (hopefully) to islam. I maintain a small page with helpful information for converts that you can find here - http://umms.wordpress.com/converts/
Your wife is probably terrified that you will become an evil awful man who oppresses and beats women. Unfortunately, that's the view of muslims in the west. The best thing you can do is show her that you're an awesome husband and that you'll be an even better husband as a muslim.
It is great to hear that you want to become a Muslim. You should pursue your desire to learn more about Islam and get in touch with Muslims who can support you and teach you.
Feel free to go inside a Mosque and speak to someone. Even if the people know your family, they should understand the need to keep it quiet for the time being.
Your concerns about your family are fully understandable. Many converts to Islam have been through similar difficulties and many have had to hide their Islam at first. You might be able to find some useful websites where there is advice from converts regarding this.
It is possible for you to actually become a Muslim (i.e. enter the religion) without your family knowing, so once it is clear to you that Islam is the truth, you should hasten to declare the testimony of faith (shahaadah) and thereby become a Muslim. After this, take things one step at a time and place your trust in Allaah (God). He will make a way for you from every difficulty. So long as you accept Him as your Lord and God, and follow His religion, He will never let you down or forsake you.
May Allaah guide you to the truth of Islam and make your journey smooth and easy, Aameen.
I watched for 10 minutes and the video froze, I am going to watch it again . thanks again. also saw some videos on youtube about christian converts to islam.
hi mark... is it possible to introdue islam to your wife...bit by bit. Just to see her reaction. And probably you can buy quran and tell her that you're just curious
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
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