Dear Brothers and Sisters,
I posted a request a while back for my 13 year old sister who had expressed extreme negative/rebellious/abusive behavior towards my family and I. To summarize the main points: She uses vulgar/obscene language (F-word, B-word, retarded, etc) towards us, she yells constantly and refuses to do anything when she is told to, she throws anger fits and unleashes her anger whenever and wherever she feels (she gets angry at the smallest of things, she expects all of her demands to be fulfilled and has no consideration as to whether the other person is able to comply with them and whether they are sick/unwell, etc.
This is just a brief summary, as going through all of it again and writing it down for you all is just too painful for me to do yet again. We have suffered financially, emotionally, and have crumbled as a family due to her behavior. We have tried talking to a school psychologist and they referred us to counseling. She refuses to go to counseling...she admits THAT THERE IS A PROBLEM, that is upsetting her, but she won't disclose it to us as she says she doesn't trust us. She gets ANGRY all the time, but she won't tell us.
I am very worried about her, because if she doesn't let this get out now, it will hurt her. She has already threatened suicide a few times and has said she will run away.
Trust me, I am not being dramatic/exaggerating anything. It is very serious at this point and I am even contemplating referring her to a psychiatric ward for a little bit of time. I honestly don't know what has gone wrong, is this allah's way of punishing us for something, or did someone do nazar?
If there is any light in the tunnel, she does pray Kazaa at night before she sleeps.
My parents are hard-working immigrants from Pakistan who love their children and want the best for them. This is no way to live life and I really wish that there were someway allah (SWT) could have mercy on them. My dad is sick and she treats him like he's an animal and makes him do her little chores.
Is there any dua I can make for her anger or anything I can read? I guess the point of this thread was to just elicit some powerful dua's from you guys. I am very upset and distraught and our family is about to completely shatter permanently. Any tips or suggestions are always appreciated.
Sincerely,
Ehsan
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