I live in the west, and ive met a few people from the middle east here too. The thing is... i met this girl last year and we dated but very recently about a week and a half ago i broke up with her because she was not being honest.
She had psycho tendencies, no disrespect, but i found it was weird when she would have a big heated argument with me on the phone to immediately after be sympathetic and say things like "Hope u get home ok" all because im not reacting in a negative or positive way to her, just neutral...
So the thing is, im a very positive person, or i at least try to be. I thank Allah everyday i wake up for letting me see a new day and i try to keep that positive attitude throughout the whole day. This past week, since i broke up with her she sent me a text saying
"Becareful what you wish for" - Now to any normal person... getting a text like that after a break up is extremely creepy. Ever since that my life feels like its turned to shambles.
Im constantly in a bad mood, im really aggressive with my brother, i feel so depressed and worthless... (This has nothing to do with breaking up i was not emotionally attatched to her)
Shes middle eastern and i have a feeling shes done black magic on me, how can i tell? And how can i get rid of it?
1 - Dating is haram. Allah says in Qur'an do not even walk towards zina (adultery or fornication) [17:32]
2 - You're not effected by black magic, you've become paranoid over a small statement.
3 - Even if you have black magic, you lead a sinful life by dating women and this is what you are doing to deserve it!
Last edited by 'Abd-al Latif; 10-15-2010 at 10:28 PM.
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
she probably didn't do black magic. she was probably angry and since she has psycho tendencies, she just wrote that out of anger. it most prbably doesn't mean anything.
read Ayatul kursi and the 4 Quls surahs three times morning & evening to protect yourself from black magic and evil eye etc.
women say crazy things when they're emotional.....for example ' i will chop your head off ' and 'i will smash your face you big disgrace cant even wash his plates''
so dont worry about it....just focus on your salah...try to get that boost of Iman back and you'll be buzzing
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 10-16-2010 at 05:45 PM.
I live in the west, and ive met a few people from the middle east here too. The thing is... i met this girl last year and we dated but very recently about a week and a half ago i broke up with her because she was not being honest.
She had psycho tendencies, no disrespect, but i found it was weird when she would have a big heated argument with me on the phone to immediately after be sympathetic and say things like "Hope u get home ok" all because im not reacting in a negative or positive way to her, just neutral...
So the thing is, im a very positive person, or i at least try to be. I thank Allah everyday i wake up for letting me see a new day and i try to keep that positive attitude throughout the whole day. This past week, since i broke up with her she sent me a text saying
"Becareful what you wish for" - Now to any normal person... getting a text like that after a break up is extremely creepy. Ever since that my life feels like its turned to shambles.
Im constantly in a bad mood, im really aggressive with my brother, i feel so depressed and worthless... (This has nothing to do with breaking up i was not emotionally attatched to her)
Shes middle eastern and i have a feeling shes done black magic on me, how can i tell? And how can i get rid of it?
SO IRRITATING... what did i do to deserve this?
Asalaamu Alaikum, my brother know that it is totally forbidden for you and any non mahram to have relations with another non mahram outside of marriage. Allah tells us in the Qur'an to keep away from anything that leads to zina and you put yourself in such a dangerous position by deciding to date.
Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) also states that it is better to have an axe go through one's head than a non mahram to even touch the skin of another non mahram. Then can you imagine howw serious it is for you to have got into a relationship with her? What if you were to die in this state or die whilst you were with her or talking to her?
There is no peace or blessings in such forbidden relationships but only pain and anguish. Therefore you should fear Allah and repent sincerely with remorsefulness with the intention of NEVER repeating such an act. Relationships outside of marriage only ever cause despair and anguish and you are also feeling these ill effects now. You should immediatley repent to Allah asking of him for forgiveness and promising him you will never repeat such an act again.
You should know that she has not got the power to do anything but all power is in the hands of Allah so ask of him to forgive your grave sin and NEVER repeat such a terrible sin again. So many people go through anguish everyday because of this particular sin and now you are also feeling these effects.
There is only pain with having any relations outside of marriage for there is no good in it. Always go about things in the right way and that which is in the boundaries of Islam but if you do things outside of the boundaries then you will have to pay for the consequances.
So turn to Allah and strive to get closer to him. Repent profusely and make the necessery changes to your life never going near to such evil again. You are feeling the negative effects of committing a major sin so therefore you should now strive to get closer to Allah and make the necessery changes in your life in order to obey Allah at all times and never disobey him again.
There is no more time to waste now for any second could be your last. So make the best of now as tomorrow may never come!
Here are some very beneficial lectures to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
i dont understand, so showing my love towards a girl is a bad thing? I thought life was about sharing the love, not trying to restrain it.
Asalaamu Alaikum, brother are you telling me that you don't understand the fact that having relations with the opposite sex before marriage is forbidden?
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