We should make marriage so cheap so zina can become expensive why have we done the exact opposite ( I think there is a hadith saying that)
It says the more the marriage costs the more generous you are in this case it would be said generous to shaytan because if it costs that much then it's like saying "face the fitanah bring us something of the dunya then you can care about The Aakhirah" Any advice/comments would be appreciated
I feel that I will not get married in this country im dissapointed
Keeping up with the Jones'. That is being wasteful and definitely won't be blessed by Allah. Many are guilty of this, my wedding was no small affair, and no doubt my children's won't be either....
How do we reverse this?
As long as my heart does beat, I shall live, not lie
For when my heart does stop its beat, with truth, I die.
Algerian people believe that the more money you spend on a wedding the more the family will be proud and lucky. Our weddings are all about joy, emotion and a feeling of pride. Sarah, Algeria
Well those believes are stupid you shouldn't feel proud... Ther is no such thing as literal luck it's more like blessings from Allah
How many times you have failed to get married because you couldn't afford to pay the wedding cost?
I have never tried to marry but I am pissed (if you read the previous posts) that we have made Marriage so expensive that zina becomes cheap it should be the opposite
The article said about "keeping up with the Jones", meaning that people tend to compete with one another and do not want to appear to can't afford what others have.
How do we reverse that? To let those who want to burden themselves do so without us having to follow them down the same route...
I have never tried to marry but I am pissed (if you read the previous posts) that we have made Marriage so expensive that zina becomes cheap it should be the opposite
But you already gave up to get married in Algeria?.
Then, where you want to perform wedding?. Indonesia?. The cost is even bigger, bro!.
And BTW i got to be realistic with myself if I ever even get married I would not even want a wedding
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But you already gave up to get married in Algeria?.
Then, where you want to perform wedding?. Indonesia?. The cost is even bigger, bro!.
as you see in the quote above and i don't know where I am going to get married because I am not ven goign to marry yet as you see I made this thread concening the afct that we should not make zinah cheap and nikah expensive because that will bring fitnah
And as in myself I don't have any plans of getting married yet
What is marriage/wedding like there in Indonesia???
Marriage process in Indonesia actually is simple.
First is "lamaran" (proposal) which the groom and his family come to the bride family to propose marriage officially. Then the groom family give gifts (not mahr) to the bride.
Second is "nikah" (nikah). This is the Islamic process of getting married.
The last is wedding party.
But Indonesian people are indeed, extravagant in wedding party. They consider the simple and low cost wedding as something that can lower their prestige. They also always invite many guests.
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what have we done to ourselves as a country and as Muslims
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And we must be humble and not compete with each other in terms of the dunya
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