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Maybe I'm strange, but at least theoretically, I have never minded or felt any objection to my future husband having more than wife. And the reason is because I have always felt strongly that I didn't/don't need anyone in my life distracting me from God. I think sometimes husbands and wives in their relationship with one another can make each other more immersed in worldly matters and this life is not the end-goal, at least from the perspective of the hereafter. At least for me, I have always felt that God is the Ultimate Beloved, the One Goal.
That said, sometime ago, I fell for someone in a
halal (religiously free of forbidden matters) marriage process talk that didn't pan out. I still think about him, and sometimes I feel miserable because of liking him so much and knowing that we're not going to be together unless God does a miracle. For a while, I felt a little obsessed and too depressed, that when that wasn't even love and yet it's as close as I have come to it in my life. Sometimes I think worldly love for human beings can be million times worse in something akin like that for a female or male that falls in love, be it relationships or marriage.
While I think love is a great barometer of an atom of understanding the divine love that God has for us and put in each one of us to give to one another as human beings, I think to love a human being in that way is a recipe for heartache in the long-run because even in the best relationships human beings will disappoint us. Also, the heart cosmically in Islam is described as a divine vessel that can only be filled with love of God and God, and filling that space with anything but the Divine Presence is considered attaining to a shadow, a chimera, a mirage.
Women especially grow much more emotionally attached to the men in their lives than men. Women make men the entire center of their world, and for that, usually suffer; whereas men generally do not do that.
Thereby, I think polygamous marriages, to be honest, are more meant to protect the women from those type of excesses in emotion, though some feminine jealousy in the above scenario is natural as human egos (in both male and female) never prefer anyone to have precedence over us in anything - be it in love or life.
Just my thoughts.
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