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"O Muslims! If anyone among you worshipped Ramadan, then know that Ramadan is dead. But those of you who worshipped Allah, then know that Allah lives and will never die. Indeed Allah created Ramadan and He also, in truth, created Shawaal, Dhul Qidah, Dhul Hijjah, and all the rest of the Months..."
A SOLUTION
The messenger of Allah Prophet Muhammad (salla Allah aleihi wa sallam) says about anger:
“ Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And water extinguishes fire."
so if i drink a glass of water it will help recede my anger? lol nice ! i cant wait to try it
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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but @ msq my msq teacher always says to me if im angry an im sittin den stand or if im angry an im standin den sit buh i duno y? it never works 4 me ??
...Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain...
...I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept....
I was a very angry young man who appeared to be destined to die as an angry old man. I no longer have any real temper and very seldom act out of anger. The only difference is I found Islam and discovered that Allah(swt) would give me the strength to handle my tribulations without resorting to anger.
I also learned that people who act out of anger become objects of ridicule. Actions done during time of anger, quite often do appear to be quite foolish, when seen after the anger subsides. To me the desire to cease looking foolish and to try to act in a manner that would be befitting of the dignity Islam deserves is sufficient incentive for me to forget about anger and strive to find other means.
salaam sis..i very much dislike my brother in law and every time i see him i wish to punch him in the face.. but i know i cant.. so i just stay away from him.. maybe u shud try also to stay away from all the things tht make u angry? tht way there'll be no reason 2 b angry
A little Fiqh of Anger (google the name for the source)
The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) said,
“Don’t get angry,”
In the name of Allah, the inspirer of truth. All praise is to Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate, and all blessings and peace to our Master Muhammad, his family, companions, and those who follow them.
Anger is something both the Shariah and the sound intellect regard as generally blameworthy. This is why the Beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) told the one who sought his counsel, “Don’t get angry,” repeatedly.
The scholars recommend many measures to deal with anger, including:
1. Turn to Allah, and seeking refuge in Allah, from Satan.
When a man got angry in front of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace), he told his companions, “I know some words that would make his anger leave, if he said them. They are, A`udhubillahi min al-shaykhtan (‘I seek refuge in Allah from Satan’). [Bukhari] Imam Mawardi said in Adab al-Dunya wa al-Din that one should remember Allah when angry, for this leads to fear of Allah, which directs him to obey Him and restrain one’s anger by returning to proper manners. Allah Most High said, “And remember Allah when you are heedless.” [Qur’an, 18: 24]
Turn to Allah in supplication, in order to control one’s anger. One should turn to Allah with one’s heart and tongue, asking him to rid one of anger, and all other lowly traits. If you can do this using the supplications of the Beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), it is even more beloved to Allah. `A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reports that, “The Prophet entered while she was angry. So he rubbed the tip of my nose and said, ‘My little `A’isha. Say, ‘O Allah, forgive my sin, remove the anger in my heart, and protect me from Satan.’ (Allahumma’ Ghfirli dhanbi, wa adhhib ghaydha qalbi, wa aajirni min ash-shaytan)” [Ibn al-Sunni, as mentioned in Barkawi’s Tariqa al-Muhammadiyya]
Do not say anything when angry, lest it contravene the Sacred Law, or go against your personal or social interests. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “If you get angry, stay silent.” [Ahmad]
3. Change your physical posture.
The Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have said, “If you get angry while standing, sit down…. If you get angry while sitting, lie down.” The wisdom in this is that it prevents one from doing that which one’s anger would have made one do in that posture.
4. Perform ritual ablutions
The Prophet informed us that anger is from Satan, and he was created from fire, so we should extinguish anger with ritual ablutions. [Abu Dawud]
5. Follow the counsel of the Best of Creation (Allah bless him & give him peace)
His repeated counsel for the one who sought advice was, “Do not get angry.” [Bukhari]
6. Remember the great reward mentioned by Allah for those who control their anger.
“And vie with one another for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for those fear Allah (al-muttaqin) ; Those who spend (of that which Allah has given them) in ease and in adversity, those who control their wrath, and are forgiving toward mankind; and Allah loves the good. And those who, when they do an evil deep or wrong themselves, remember Allah and implore forgiveness for their sins. And who forgives sins but Allah?...” (Qur’an, 3: 133-135)
7. Remember that true strength is not physical, but spiritual and moral.
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said, “The strong one is not one who can out-wrestle others. Rather, the strong one is one who can restrain themselves when angry. [Bukhari& Muslim] Imam Kumushkhanawi, the great 19th Century hadith expert and Naqshabandi spiritual guide, explained that, this is because, “…the one who can control himself when his anger swells up has overcome the most powerful of his enemies and the worst of his adversaries. From this hadith, the Sufis deduced that it is incumbent on the knower of Allah to bear those who harm him, such as neighbors and others. (Lawami` al-`Uqul, 4: 23-4)
Imam Barkawi mentioned in his Tariqa al-Muhammadiyya that the way to remove the tendency to anger is, “By removing is cause, which is avidness for rank, arrogance, and conceit. One who has these traits is easily angered by that which normally does not anger others.
8. Remember the example of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace)
Remember the clemency, forbearance, and easy-going nature of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) with others, and did not get angry unless the anger was for the sake of Allah. The examples of this from his life are numerous. The scholars say that every Muslim should strive to read about the life and example of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace) daily.
9. Remember the harms of anger.
Be aware of the harms of anger, which include falling into that which Allah deems impermissible of words or actions, and acting in a way unbefitting of a believer. Would we act like this if we were aware that Allah sees all our actions? Would we act like this in the presence of the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him peace)?
Imam Ibn Hajar al-Haytami (Allah have mercy on him) counted getting wrongly angry as one of the first major sins in his Zawajir.
10. Remember that anger is generally animalistic.
Be aware that one resembles animals, more than noble humans, when in a state of anger. [Barkawi, Tariqa]
someone told me that each time u fell angry, have a bad full of nails and drive a nail each time u think ur going 2 get angry,
one day if u dont lose ur anger or u feel like hitting someone, each time u feel ur getting better take a nail out.
someone told me that each time u fell angry, have a bad full of nails and drive a nail each time u think ur going 2 get angry,
one day if u dont lose ur anger or u feel like hitting someone, each time u feel ur getting better, take the nail out. once all the nails gone, you might control ur anger...... people might think this idae is weird... first try it... and if u dont successed.. tell me that this idea is.. u no..
controling anger is difficult buuutt not impossible ...so just try n try n pray a lot!
"O Muslims! If anyone among you worshipped Ramadan, then know that Ramadan is dead. But those of you who worshipped Allah, then know that Allah lives and will never die. Indeed Allah created Ramadan and He also, in truth, created Shawaal, Dhul Qidah, Dhul Hijjah, and all the rest of the Months..."
Reciting Qur'an helps calm your mind. You'll learn something new, feel closer to your lord and feel calm. 3 birds with one stone! .....after you attacked the punch bag though
buh the things that get me angry are mostly durin the day that is @ skwl an the things that i gt angry at skwl are the ppl such as my class members my teachers an thats al buh yh il try it out if it helps me
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