ok ive stopped doing this bad habit and well ive stopped doing it for a long time... but the craving and urge is coming back.... i cant do anything about it! its driving me crazy! i cant get married coz im so young!
i need urgent help!!!
hola,
i am not certain if you have heard of this but there is something called 'internet addiction' and viewing the kind of material you are talking about is a major part of it. there is also something called sex addiction. it is something to take serious and you may struggle with it for the rest of your life... it is reinforced because of the release of euphoric brain chemicals when you engage in the activities associated with viewing pornographic material. this is a normal process because biologically we are supposed to want and desire sex. unfortunately when you do this while viewing pornography you are creating a psychological connection between the release of these brain chemicals and viewing pornography which changes your drive from seeking sex (in a marital setting) to seeking pornography. there are also feelings of shame and guilt associated with this that drive you into further isolation which purpetuates what is happening.
you should ask God for strength, download programs like netnanny and then create a password you cannot remember. if this does not work then you must cut your internet connection. do not be afraid to talk to somebody, like a religious leader or a school guidance counsellor. they will not judge you or shame you for what is happening, as they will understand it is compulsive and you are trying to stop. you need somebody to talk to or an ally in helping you to stop, that way they can pull you out of feelings of isolation which perpetuate what is happening. make a serious effort to be more social.
it would not be wise to think about marriage as an escape... marriages are based upon love, respect and more than anything maturity and preparedness. sex is very important but it should not be the reason for marriage. nor would it solve the problem for you.
it is very difficult for young people today, sex is everywhere, peer pressure at school and from society makes (especially men) feel lesser if they choose to wait until marriage and not get sucked into the sex culture. not only this, but it is so easy to get in some form or another... internet pornography is as simple as a google search and the only boundary is how far your imagination and lust can take you. sometimes you do not even search for it and you find it... watching television today is a testament to this.
the odds are stacked against you but with God, a trustworthy person, restored personal and social confidence, and the tools that are out there for controlling pornography you will be okay
i'll pray for you
que Dios te bendiga
