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I was deeply in love with a man who also loved me very much. He had promised me marriage, but unfortunately, not everything was done in the right way—we remained in a relationship outside of marriage for a long time. However, our parents were made aware of our intentions because the wedding was approaching, even though that doesn’t justify anything.
Sadly, since we were in a long-distance relationship, he suddenly left me without any explanation. He disappeared and then returned a few days later to tell me that he was leaving me because marriage was a huge responsibility and that he didn’t want to engage in a relationship outside of marriage.
A few months later, my best friend—the very person who introduced us—told me that he was in a relationship with another woman, someone I had already had doubts about. Now, they have been together for almost two years.
I paid the price for everything that happened. I fell into severe depression, and my parents had to suffer alongside me. Academically, it became difficult to keep up with my studies. On top of that, I was betrayed by my best friend, who formed a close friendship with that woman, despite our 20-year-long friendship.
Since then, I have been making du'a as someone who was wronged (du'a al-mazloum), asking only against him, praying that the harm they caused me returns to them. But instead, he seems to be very happy in his life, as does she. My former best friend as well.
My question is: Why do my du'as seem to be turning against me when I am the one in the right (haqq)? Is it because, deep down, they are good Muslims? He is a practicing Muslim, and she wears the hijab, whereas I do not. But no matter what, they were unjust to me, and I just don’t understand why things turned out this way.
Of course, this trial has brought me closer to Allah, and for that, I am grateful. But what I truly struggle with is seeing, day after day, that this man and this woman are potentially preparing their marriage and building their home on the tears of another woman. I just don’t find that "fair" for me.
Sadly, since we were in a long-distance relationship, he suddenly left me without any explanation. He disappeared and then returned a few days later to tell me that he was leaving me because marriage was a huge responsibility and that he didn’t want to engage in a relationship outside of marriage.
A few months later, my best friend—the very person who introduced us—told me that he was in a relationship with another woman, someone I had already had doubts about. Now, they have been together for almost two years.
I paid the price for everything that happened. I fell into severe depression, and my parents had to suffer alongside me. Academically, it became difficult to keep up with my studies. On top of that, I was betrayed by my best friend, who formed a close friendship with that woman, despite our 20-year-long friendship.
Since then, I have been making du'a as someone who was wronged (du'a al-mazloum), asking only against him, praying that the harm they caused me returns to them. But instead, he seems to be very happy in his life, as does she. My former best friend as well.
My question is: Why do my du'as seem to be turning against me when I am the one in the right (haqq)? Is it because, deep down, they are good Muslims? He is a practicing Muslim, and she wears the hijab, whereas I do not. But no matter what, they were unjust to me, and I just don’t understand why things turned out this way.
Of course, this trial has brought me closer to Allah, and for that, I am grateful. But what I truly struggle with is seeing, day after day, that this man and this woman are potentially preparing their marriage and building their home on the tears of another woman. I just don’t find that "fair" for me.