Suggestion A Marriage Section for IB

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I was thinking of having another addition to the forum where we could have a specific Marriage Section where all marriage related stuff can be posted in.

Right now they are all over the place and it would be a great idea if this could be implemented.

Please if mods could think about adding it that would be great. :)

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I think it won't come as a surprise if I second this, lol.

Do consider it. :)
 
Can I fourth this or is in the English language kind of expression?

But is the name as "Marriage section" good? Many people may think it´s the place they can looking for spouses? That was my the first idea too when I saw this thread and I was thinking like oh no... :facepalm:
 
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Theres already a family and society section. People can post any marriage related questions there?
 
Can we have a subsection in that marriage section for people interested in looking for a spouse?
 
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My opinion on this section idea is self explanatory :D.

@sister herb

This was the name before "Marriage in Islam". We can either copy this or come up with different name :).

Your comment on looking for spouse.. the picture below showing thread "marriage through internet" coincidence :O.

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We can name it something like 'Marriage-related topics', or just 'Marriage'.
 
sister herb said:
:facepalm: You can´t to be serious sister, can you?
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I don't see what's wrong with it.

A lot of people come asking for places where they can find a spouse. It could also generate income for the forum to be applied to different things. Just saying. I think in a halal environment to reduce the random messages people will send to each other in marriage websites. Communication can happen between two people in an open space where everyone can see.
 
I was secretly hoping someone would bring this up. Marriage is such a vast topic (and a personal favourite amongst Muslims, lol), it deserves its own section. ;)
 
piXie said:
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Theres already a family and society section. People can post any marriage related questions there?
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Even the description says: "Building a family, the Islamic home, honouring parents, etc." I don't see it as necessary to enlarge the forum. The more sections we have the more unclear becomes the forum. May be it would be a solution when we could guide the people to the "family and society" section, when they have questions about marriage. As an example you can add explicitly the word "marriage" into the section description.
 
That is so broad since Islam is all about family and society...
 
Bhabha said:
That is so broad since Islam is all about family and society...
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When you go by this logic, we would need 400 sections; Islam is about everything. Believe me you don't want to have a forum with too many sections. You are just scrolling and scrolling to find the right one, and it will confuse people where their question would be better placed. Allahu Alim. I personally don't care, but I experienced it less fun to join a forum with too many under sections. Think it would be sufficient, to add the word "marriage" in the current one.

btw: "building a family" is actually equivalent to "marriage".
 
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Think it would be sufficient, to add the word "marriage" in the current one.
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Thought of that idea from the start. Current one can be changed to "Marriage" name, and all society threads etc will be moved to appropriate sections :). Problem solved ;).

noraina said:
Marriage is such a vast topic (and a personal favourite amongst Muslims, lol), it deserves its own section.
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Yep so important I agree. Completing half your deen, how to spend time with one of the most important person in our lives and someone who will be 50+ years with you in this dunya and forever in Jannah :ia:.
 
Bhabha said:
Can we have a subsection in that marriage section for people interested in looking for a spouse?
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Bring up some ideas about it, we'll see :ia:.

Would have to have strict guidelines
- Closed for posting, if anyone interested they can PM the moderators.
- Anonymous posting, people may find it embarrassing to post under actual usernames.

Also I know a brother who runs marriage service in UK, he can transfer the database here :O.

Let me know more thoughts and ideas everyone. :jz:.
 
Quoting a reply from brother @Muhammad regarding the old 'Marriage in Islam' section,

The 'Marriage in Islam' section wasn't meant as a matrimonial section - we have always discouraged using the forum for that kind of purpose or even promoting other matrimonial sites here. Perhaps the intention behind that section is better reflected in the current Family and Society section.
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If I remember correctly, the section was closed down in 2007 due to numerous problems. Later, a new section (Family & Society) was made which would cover a broader range of topics, not just marriage. The key was that it was meant to be better moderated and not a return to the old marriage section, rather something of actual value and benefit. The word 'marriage' was deliberately kept out of its name. Another important thing to note is that the new section was among the list of sections within the 'Learn about Islam' category, whilst the original section was not linked in this way, which again signals the direction of hope.​

So, what were the problems with the old marriage section which we were so keen to prevent happening again? People were posting ridiculous threads there without thinking, such as what would you do if your wife slapped you, or would you marry someone who... this was really getting out of hand. There was idle chit-chat, free-mixing and too many unnecessary hypothetical questions. It didn't seem to actually serve a purpose other than being a place for kids to fantasise about getting married. It was simply being misused and too often.

It had also become very difficult to moderate. It was difficult to separate nonsense and fantasy from legitimate concerns. And there was the long-standing concern that we are not marriage counsellors therefore people should not be encouraged to post their problems here.

Unsurprisingly, many people including members and moderators were in favour of that section going. The new section was only brought about with caution and careful observation to ensure we would not end up with the same issues.​
 
Serinity said:
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Can someone marry over the internet?
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Actually I met my wife on the internet on one of those Muslim marriage websites. I about gave up on that site due to the scamming going on but she reached out to me and to find out that we lived only 3 miles from each other. Al-Hamdulilah. Well, the rest is our continuing history.....
 

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