[Umul_Kheyr]

lately i feel over burned with my sins i have been asking Allah (swt) to ease our affairs and make me and the muslim ummah free from all sins howver thats not the only think i feel over burned with (i feel really low saying that) alhamdulilah with the grace of allah i have been a niqabi for 4 yrs now and i loved ever min of love. To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now and before you ask during my time as a niqabi allah has saved me from all harm and evil but i feel that it has become hard for me since i have children now so whenevr i go out with my children i feel sooo...... i dont know what word to use to describe how i feel but its been round around my mind alot.

I have told my husband about the descision and his not too happy with it he didnt put any presure on me to keep it on though he just adviced me thats its sunah and every sunah act you do makes you closer to allah. I haven't really went out yet without my niqab its just a desicison thats going round my mind so i plan to go somewhere tomorow and i have the enemy within thats telling me "oh on if you go out the house without your niqabi what are people gonna think of you, miss perfect has fallen from her status and thats not good for you is it". Then it made me realise am i doing this for the sake of allah or for the status of people auudubilahoh i dont know i really need some advice is this happening to me now because i feel very low in my eaman laterly i'm not the person i use to be or maybe its a descsison of hardship please i need religous advice not personal opionions

 

[- Qatada -]

:salamext:


Read these duas' from the sunnah insha Allah which relieve anxiety, and stop people from overpowering you insha Allah;

http://makedua.com/display_dua.php?sectionid=34



perform the istikharah prayer too, so Allah guides you to what is better. And continue trying to strengthen in emaan.

there's this thread from a long time ago;
http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/29091-advice-flame-emaan-i-once-had-dying-out.html


which may help you find some answers about how to increase your eman insha Allah.. or atleast give some tips.


if you continue placing your trust in Allah, keep remembering Him and praying the duas' which are mentioned in the sunnah - then insha Allah you will strengthen again, and feel more confident, because one of the only reasons why you feel uncomfortable is because of lack of emaan.. since eman decreases sometimes, but that doesn't mean it can't increase again, because it can insha Allah if you ask Him for it.


So please, do check them links out, and i hope you can become firmer on eman once again and overcome these trials which come your way.. and that He strengthen your children to be leaders of the pious, and be firm upon eman. ameen.

 

[S1aveofA11ah]

lately i feel over burned with my sins i have been asking Allah (swt) to ease our affairs and make me and the muslim ummah free from all sins howver thats not the only think i feel over burned with (i feel really low saying that) alhamdulilah with the grace of allah i have been a niqabi for 4 yrs now and i loved ever min of love. To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now and before you ask during my time as a niqabi allah has saved me from all harm and evil but i feel that it has become hard for me since i have children now so whenevr i go out with my children i feel sooo...... i dont know what word to use to describe how i feel but its been round around my mind alot.

I have told my husband about the descision and his not too happy with it he didnt put any presure on me to keep it on though he just adviced me thats its sunah and every sunah act you do makes you closer to allah. I haven't really went out yet without my niqab its just a desicison thats going round my mind so i plan to go somewhere tomorow and i have the enemy within thats telling me "oh on if you go out the house without your niqabi what are people gonna think of you, miss perfect has fallen from her status and thats not good for you is it". Then it made me realise am i doing this for the sake of allah or for the status of people auudubilahoh i dont know i really need some advice is this happening to me now because i feel very low in my eaman laterly i'm not the person i use to be or maybe its a descsison of hardship please i need religous advice not personal opionions

Just a reminder - you probably heard it already - but holding onto the Sunnah can become like holding onto burning coal!. You said: "To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now...". I just point out the 'burning coal' test as perhaps that is what is happening to you. Also there are 2 opinions as far as I know about face covering and in this matter is a permissible difference i.e. both are acceptable and should not be looked down upon.

 

[.: Jannati :.]

Just a reminder - you probably heard it already - but holding onto the Sunnah can become like holding onto burning coal!. You said: "To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now...". I just point out the 'burning coal' test as perhaps that is what is happening to you. Also there are 2 opinions as far as I know about face covering and in this matter is a permissible difference i.e. both are acceptable and should not be looked down upon.

ah sis, this is well said n ur just being tested, surely Allah loves ya soo much to test you in ways you find difficult. don't listen to the evil whispers of the shaytaan, but take this as an opportunity to grow closer to Allah my duaas are with you iA.

 

[Intisar]

Just a reminder - you probably heard it already - but holding onto the Sunnah can become like holding onto burning coal!. You said: "To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now...". I just point out the 'burning coal' test as perhaps that is what is happening to you. Also there are 2 opinions as far as I know about face covering and in this matter is a permissible difference i.e. both are acceptable and should not be looked down upon.

Very good advice.

Sister, I know it's hard but hold fast on to the rope of Allaah subhana wa ta'ala and write down reasons as to why you choose to wear the niqab in the first place and read some inspiring stories about women who choose to wear one as well.

At the end of the day, your reasoning should always lead to it being for the sake of Allaah.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

lately i feel over burned with my sins i have been asking Allah (swt) to ease our affairs and make me and the muslim ummah free from all sins howver thats not the only think i feel over burned with (i feel really low saying that) alhamdulilah with the grace of allah i have been a niqabi for 4 yrs now and i loved ever min of love. To be honest i dont really know what is happening to me i feel that i want to take me niqab off now and before you ask during my time as a niqabi allah has saved me from all harm and evil but i feel that it has become hard for me since i have children now so whenevr i go out with my children i feel sooo...... i dont know what word to use to describe how i feel but its been round around my mind alot.

I have told my husband about the descision and his not too happy with it he didnt put any presure on me to keep it on though he just adviced me thats its sunah and every sunah act you do makes you closer to allah. I haven't really went out yet without my niqab its just a desicison thats going round my mind so i plan to go somewhere tomorow and i have the enemy within thats telling me "oh on if you go out the house without your niqabi what are people gonna think of you, miss perfect has fallen from her status and thats not good for you is it". Then it made me realise am i doing this for the sake of allah or for the status of people auudubilahoh i dont know i really need some advice is this happening to me now because i feel very low in my eaman laterly i'm not the person i use to be or maybe its a descsison of hardship please i need religous advice not personal opionions

Remembering the Destination of Mankind in the Hereafter – a Cure for Weak Iman​

Imam Ibn ul Qayyim al Jawziyyah

Madaarij us-Saalikeen​

When one’s mind is clear, he will be able to see clearly, thus giving such a person a light in his heart that will allow him to almost witness the Warning and the Promise, Paradise and Hell, and what Allah has prepared in this (Paradise) For His Awliyaa` (loyal friends) and in that (Hell) for His enemies. He will then witness people rushing out of their graves following the call of the Truth (Resurrection). The angels in the heavens will the descend and will surround them (creation). Allah will then come to judge (between creation) and His Kursi (literally a footstool or chair) will be raised. The earth will shine with the Light of its Lord (Allah, when He comes to judge between His creation), the Book (of Records) will be opened and the Prophets and the witnesses will be brought forward. The Mizan (Scale) will then be established, the books of (individual) records will fly around and the foes will converge, each holding to its foe. Al-Houdh (the pool that runs outside the gates of Paradise from a river inside it) will then appear and its cups will appear close by. Thirst will intensify, but those who are allowed to drink are few. Al-Jisr (the bridge over Hell that everyone must pass over into Paradise) will then be laid (over Hell) so that (mankind and the Jinn) can pass over it (as for the disbelievers and those whose sins outweigh their good deeds, they will fall into Hell, where only the disbelievers will reside for eternity). People will then be gathered in its direction. The Fire (Hell) will appear, each part harshly consuming the other parts beneath it. Those who fall into it are far more than those who are saved from it. Then, an eye will be opened in his (the man who is thinking about these scenes) heart with which he will be able to see clearly. His heart will then witness some scenes of the Last Life, along with imagining the various stages of the Last Life which will last for eternity, as compared to this Dunya (the life of this world) and its briefness.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

Beneficial and Comprehensive Principles Concerning Afflictions and Trials​

Imam Ibn ul Qayyim al Jawziyyah​

("The Delight of Faith" Abdullah bin Jarullah al-Jarullah, transl. J. Zarabozo © Dar as-Salaam, 1996)​

"The affair of the believer is amazing! The whole of his life is beneficial, and that is only in the case of the believer. When good times come to him, he is thankful and it is good for him, and when bad times befall him,, he is patient and it is also good for him." [Saheeh Muslim #7138]


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1. The evil that the believers are inflicted with is less than that which occurs to the disbelievers.

2. When the believers are inflicted with anything it should be accompanied with pleasure with Allah's decree and hoping for His reward. Hence, if they miss anything that they want, this should lead them to patience and hoping for reward and this will, without doubt, lessen the catastrophe.

3. The believer will be relieved of such hardship according to the amount of his obedience, purity and the existence of the realities of Faith in his heart to the point that if this hardship had occurred to another [who has not that amount of Faith], he would not be able to bear it. This is how Allah repels hardship from His believing slave.

4. If the love of Allah is firmly planted in the heart, then bearing the pain from the Beloved will be pleasureful for those who love Him and will not be something hated.

5. What the disbeliever and evildoer attain of power and strength is also accompanied with its opposite.

6. Allah afflicting His believing slave is like a kand of medicine that removes a disease. If that disease were to remain, it would destroy the person or lessen his reward.

7. Such occurrences are part of the necessary aspects of being a human.

8. In such ocurrences, Allah has a great and recognized wisdom.

9. Those afflictions and trials make it apparent who is the truthful person and who is the liar.

10. Humans by their nature are social creatures. They must mix with others. However, they have different natures and desires that may cause difficulties. The believer is obliged to fulfill his responsibilities concernig them and this makes the trial much easier.

11. The affliction that occurs to a person cannot but be from one of four types: Either it is with respect to his life, or with respect to his wealth, or with respect to his honor, or with respect to his family and those whom he loves from among mankind. These things affect all different peoples. Those who are not believing pious people are afflicted by much more than the believing pious person, as is witnessed.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“When a person spends his entire day with no other concern but Allaah alone, Allaah, may He be glorified, will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him; He will empty his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it will speak only in remembrance of Him (dhikr) and cause all his faculties to work only in obedience to Him. But if a person spends his entire day with no other concern but this world, Allaah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain; He will leave him to sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allaah towards the love of some created being, cause his tongue to speak only in remembrance of that creation instead of remembering Allaah, and cause his faculties to work in obeying and serving them. So he will strive hard, laboring like some work-animal, to serve something other than Allaah… Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allaah and obeying Him and loving Him will be burdened with servitude, love and obedience to some created being.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):​

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‘And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah), We appoint for him a shaytaan (devil) to be a qareen (intimate companion) to him.’ [al-Zukhruf 43:36].”​

“Whoever is mainly concerned about the Hereafter, Allaah will make him feel independent of others and will make him focused and content, and his worldly affairs will fall into place. But whoever is mainly concerned with this world, Allaah will make him feel in constant need of others and will make him distracted and unfocused, and he will get nothing of this world except what is decreed for him.”
(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2389; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6510).

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

One thing to remember sister that all these whispers are not you but from shaytaan. And this is also a test from Allah. Shaytaans only goal is to mislead us all. When one comes closer to Allah, he hates this. So InshaAllah, do not let him succeed! I cant say much so I apologize in advance. And every other advice before me is perfect! Alhamdulillah. May Allah Ta'ala ease your affairs, InshaAllah, Ameen!

 

[Snowflake]

asalam alaikum wr wb,


Sis, if you can continue wearing the niqaab through re evaluating the reasons why you initially wore it and it's benefits then - alhumdulillah. But, if you find that despite taking everything into consideration, you don't wish to continue, then don't. The last thing need is resentment starting to build for having to wear it. Like bro slaveofAllah mentioned, there are two opinions. You know yourself better than anyone else, and in such a personal decision that involves solely you, only you would be in the best position to decide what you should do.

May Allah help us to refrain from anything that is harmful to us. Ameen.

wa alaikum asalam wr wb

 

[forever.muslima]

i havn't read the other replies so sorry if i'm repeating stuff.

I wear niqab my self and sometimes i feel like this too. but I take it that it is from shaytaan trying to get us further away from Allah and his religion. Treat it as a test and even if yuo feel like this keep it on, eventually this feeling will go. What happens (i discussed this with a reliable scholar so it is not my opinion or experence) is that everyones iman goes up and down and sometimes when its in its low phase we feel insecure and like this. but the solution is to ignore it and carry on doing stuff normally. Soon the iman picks up again etcc.

However, it is a sunnah and if you really fell its hard, then don't wear it for a while, no matter what the ppl say. if you do this (and this is my opiniion) then youll see that it was better if you didn't take it of and then start to wear it again. but this time such feelings won't come.

hope that was helful

 

[glo]

There seem to be comflicting views as to whether it is shaytaan trying to persuade this sister to continue wearing niqab (thereby potentially causing her to become resentful and bitter against it), or whether it is shaytaan's doing to persuade her to not wear niqab any longer (thereby potentially weakening her faith)

How can Umul_Kheyr determine which is Allah's will in this, and which is shaytaan's intention? :?

 

[Malaikah]

The devil has no power at all to control our feelings or to force us to feel bitter or resentment to something.

 

[glo]

The devil has no power at all to control our feelings or to force us to feel bitter or resentment to something.

Thanks, Malaikah.
But surely shaytaan can tell us lies, which will cause such emotions within us?
Otherwise, have I misunderstood these posts? :?

don't listen to the evil whispers of the shaytaan, but take this as an opportunity to grow closer to Allah my duaas are with you iA.

One thing to remember sister that all these whispers are not you but from shaytaan. And this is also a test from Allah. Shaytaans only goal is to mislead us all. When one comes closer to Allah, he hates this. So InshaAllah, do not let him succeed!

I wear niqab my self and sometimes i feel like this too. but I take it that it is from shaytaan trying to get us further away from Allah and his religion. Treat it as a test and even if yuo feel like this keep it on, eventually this feeling will go.

Salaam

 

[Snowflake]

Seriously, not wearing nikaab, or removing it doesn't have to take one away from their religion. I know good muslimahs who wear niqaab and bad muslimahs who wear niqaab. I know good muslimahs who don't wear niqaab and bad muslimahs who don't wear niqaab.

The Prophet (PBUH) said it's the intention of all act that counts. Although, the benefits of niqaab are numerous, if one isn't removing it for bad intentions then I don't see the harm. I don't believe in forcing it. As long as it isnt removed for the wrong purpose it may be that if Allah wills, the sister may start wanting to wear it again in the future.

 

[Umul_Kheyr]

jazaakulaahi kheyrul jazaa brothers and sisters for your advice alhamduliah i have gone passed that phase i have sincerly realised that it was due 2 be wearkness and not me resenting the niqab at lot i have took ur advice and the best of advice is that verily Allah is with those who have patience

 

[Snowflake]

jazaakulaahi kheyrul jazaa brothers and sisters for your advice alhamduliah i have gone passed that phase i have sincerly realised that it was due 2 be wearkness and not me resenting the niqab at lot i have took ur advice and the best of advice is that verily Allah is with those who have patience

asalam alaikum wr wb, :statisfie

MashaAllah sis. I think it also helped knowing that it isn't obligatory. It makes doing anything a lot easier when we know we have a choice in it. But alhumdulillah you feel at ease with it now. :thumbs_up

wa alaikum asalam wr wb