You provide food and water and money and heat, first and foremost, so that they can live, and to the degree that you do it for the sake of how they feel it is more often to achieve the positive position of their happiness, not the avoidance of the negative position of their pain. Isn't that how people in love tend to think? "I want them to be happy"? That's what comes naturally, whereas "I don't want them to feel so bad" pops up only when some crisis happens by chance to make the situation specially come up. But more than anything your love for them is an end in it itself, and seems to exist kind of independently of anyone's feelings. Even if your actions never affected the qualia of the object of your love, wouldn't you still feel an obligation towards that person? Love is just a part of you. And matters of principle in general go beyond suffering likewise, and operate on the same...uh...principle. Curse the limitations of the English language.
In short what we should do is always more about what should be, and not about what anyone feels.
In short what we should do is always more about what should be, and not about what anyone feels.
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