A secret that could ruin my life

[Sari]

(i meant to write i dis-agree with Glo in my last post, but i'm sure you figured that out)

I understand exactly what you're saying, but like you say you have to evaluate each different situation. I know this is better off not being disclosed, it will only bring hurt and ruin and no greater good. And i feel pretty sure that Allah would not want me or require me to reveal this secret, and would want me to hide it.

 

[glo]

I understand exactly what you're saying, but like you say you have to evaluate each different situation. I know this is better off not being disclosed, it will only bring hurt and ruin and no greater good. And i feel pretty sure that Allah would not want me or require me to reveal this secret, and would want me to hide it.

I hope all goes well for you, Sari.
May God remove your burden of guilt and fear.

 

[AlbanianMuslim]

Sister you cannot worry about this anymore than you already have.
Whats done is done, that person knows, they know they have the power to tell the secret and they may or may not tell it.

You have zero control over this.
What you do have control over is continuing to pray and to believe that Allah(swt) will protect you.
There is this short verse you can say that helps to protect you from the harm of others, its in a booklet i carry with me but i do not have it right now, i will post it for you within the next day or two when i have some time.

Unless you do or have done something wrong to this person or something to upset them, they probably wont tell your secret.
I know plenty of horrible things about many people who are no longer friends of mine for various reasons. I have not told a single one of them, for 3 reasons

1. I believe that if you cause trouble for someone, trouble will come right back to you whether that person deserved it or not.

2. It will make ME look bad. Do you think well of people who tell another persons secret???

3. Only Allah(swt) can judge a person and punish them. You may know some horrible secret about someone, that someone may do something terrible to you and hurt you, and you STILL SHOULD NOT tell the secret you know. Leave it to God to punish wrong doers.



May God give you peace sister, stop worrying, you cannot control what others say or do, you can only control yourself.

 

[brotherubaid]

I am putting all my trust in Allah, truly repenting with all my heart everyday and have been asking for my secret to be guarded. And it has been a revelation for me, i had lost my way quite abit and now i feel like i am re-discovering my faith properly and it feels really strong. My praying has increased by a mile and i feel content in Islam, and living my life properly by it.

Please, please, if anyone can spare some of their time, please make dua for me. I will be so gratefull. I have felt my breathing become really shallow at times because of all this fear, and i am worried for my health.

I agree with Glo, I have read many times that Allah says to hide your sins from the world. Ofcourse with something as serious as murder, i don't think this applies and you should give yourself up. My secret is something which was not a crime.

Yep , For a sin to be forgiven one of the condition is that it is kept secret.

Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah's Apostle saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself." (Book #73, Hadith #95)

Ibn al-Qayyim - rahimahullâh - said:
One of the Salaf (Pious Predecessors) said: “Indeed a servant commits a sin by which he enters Paradise; and another does a good deed by which he enters the Fire.” It was asked: How is that? So he replied: “The one who committed the sin, constantly thinks about it; which causes him to fear it, regret it, weep over it and feel ashamed in front of his Lord the Most High - due to it. He stands before Allâh, broken-hearted and with his head lowered in humility. So this sin is more beneficial to him than doing many acts of obedience, since it caused him to have humility and humbleness - which leads to the servant’s happiness and success - to the extent that this sin becomes the cause for him entering Paradise. As for the doer of good, then he does not consider this good a favour from his Lord upon him. Rather, he becomes arrogant and amazed with himself, saying: I have achieved such and such, and such and such. So this further increases him in self-adulation, pride and arrogance - such that this becomes the cause for his destruction.”


May Allah guard your secret and may Allah guide the one keeping ur secret as well so he will fear Allah and keep ur secret seeking Allah's reward.

 

[Sari]

Albanian Muslim - thankyou, i would like to see the dua that you have. I cannot help the worry, i have good days, maybe 2/3 good days, 1 good day or just half a good day and i think i've forgotten it and i'm over it, and then it all comes back. Even today i've woken up in fear because i had a dream about it and now today i can't relax, even though i had a care-free weekend.

I am still going crazy over worry, and i know only prayer and time will help on this..but then i get worried that maybe time won't help, what if time makes it worse..

 

[Sari]

Today i can't stop crying, but i know that crying alone is of no use if it's not towards Allah and asking him for help, so as soon as i felt it coming on i made wudhu, prayed namaaz and made dua while crying. I don't know if i feel better yet, but just getting the tears out were good as i had felt it building up inside me since yesterday evening.

Albanian Muslim - i forgot to say that that is exactly how i lead my life. Even if someone does something really terrible to me, all i do is try to reason with them, i don't take revenge or do anything to them or try to fight with them. People don't understand it and try to offer to do something about it for me but i beg them not to as it will not lead to any good.

 

[Sari]

I don't know if i can still the trust the person keeping the secret anymore, they feel i have wronged them but i truly haven't. I am just trying to do the right thing, morally and Islamically, but they are so caught up in their own needs that they have lost their wise and good thinking that they had before. The person has become unsteady in their character, changing from soft to angry alot. They were completely understanding and good about it all before.

Now i am just praying to Allah to help this person's character and thoughts and make them think clearly before doing something irrational. And i am also praying that if they do try to do something then to stop them by whatever means is best. I am praying though there is no need for that and that they will sort out their thoughts and anger and return to being understanding and then carry on with their own life in a good way.

This is why unfortunately i have had to search for duas to help against an enemy, but this person is actually my friend and through confusion and anger keeps making themselves the enemy. I have faith in this person though and i am praying they will come out of this bad place and return to being a good person.