again ... brother problem

thanks for the responses ...
im a paki myself! so is not the race issue.
in our culture brothers dnt marry before their older sisters.
and for your info, he knows many girls ..she isnt the only one.
last night my mom scolded him .. and he shouted back ... all night he spent chatting on the internet ... is i haraam to stop someone from sinning????????? i dont think so! my mom did not raise us this way! he was never this way until he met her & if he is falling into the wrong company it is our duty as a family to save him. no one can love anyone as your own family members can ... especially mothers. my mom cannot stand it that he is letting all this chatting/girl ruin his life.
and if according to you we do get him married with her .. who is going to support them ...?? he is failing & barely making through his univ degree. who will marry their daughter off to a person with no future(at present)!
its the duty of the parents to correct their children when they go astray ... leaving them be is the way to let them wander far off into the valley of sin!
and what do you think, hasnt he betrayed the trust of my parents? hasnt he betrayed Allah & all that Islam says??
just to keep him with us no matter whatever wrong he is doing we should keep quite?
why did Allah bless us with parents if we were so intelligent & self-sufficient & wise to decide for ourselves??
dont you think that very girl is betraying the trust of her family ...sinning in the eyes of Allah by roaming around with non-mehrams? is it not a sin to cheat one's family & lie to them all the time??
how can you just say stuff thats not even coherrent? one can never go against what Islam has prescribed for us nor can we rebel against the cultural values. its very easy said than done. im sure most of the desi people (pakiz/indians/bengaliz) will agree to this. throw him out, talk to him - thats the western way which clearly hasnt worked with my brother at least.
so, kindly kindly i beseech you to give moderate advices to people ... keeping in view that the other person might have a lot more to consider while taking an action than you might think & the circumstances might be far diverse than you might imagine.

im very sorry if someone gets hurt from what i have written ... but this is the truth! i apologize once againimsad
 
How to save him?
lol

Maybe it's just that, you need to leave him alone, let him make his own mistakes to learn from them.

Perhaps what he needs is a little less prying into his personal life.
 

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