Always appreciate your husband even on the smallest thing

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Iceee said:
Salaam

This is a big factor for divorce all around the World. Small mistakes like this can ruin a marriage in a flash. It's called Jealousy.
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Jealousy is part of love. If someone love his/her partner must be he/she ever felt jealous. It's will not ruin a marriage as long as one party do not intentionally make another party feel jealous.

What ruin a marriage is feeling offended because the partner do something wrong like make an affair with another woman/man. Or, intentionally the partner make her/him always jealous.

Men and women:
Do not talk, look at, or engage talking to opposite gender (only if you have to) unless that person is your Mahram. It causes jealousy. Like brother above mentioned, the woman when seeing their husband talk to non-mahrams, the marriage is already taking a turn for the worst. These small mistakes will eventually cause trust issues, suspicions, and will eventually end with something called divorce. Cheating, fighting, and yelling may come in the middle. The victims won't be the wife or the husband, the victim of divorce will always be the child/children.
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Everyday I must be talk to non-mahram women such as my customers, employee in other companies, or female shopkeeper in a shop. This is something inevitable. But my wife didn't mind. She knew that I know the limit in talking with other women.

I think your mother doesn't mind too if your father talk to other women for something that necessary like talk to female customer service in bank.
 
ardianto said:
Everyday I must be talk to non-mahram women such as my customers, employee in other companies, or female shopkeeper in a shop. This is something inevitable. But my wife didn't mind. She knew that I know the limit in talking with other women.

I think your mother doesn't mind too if your father talk to other women for something that necessary like talk to female customer service in bank.
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Brother, read what you quoted again.

Iceee said:
Do not talk, look at, or engage talking to opposite gender (only if you have to) unless that person is your Mahram.
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When I babysit, I have to talk to Moms, female children etc.
When I work at job, I have to listen to employees, some are females.


ardianto said:
Jealousy is part of love. If someone love his/her partner must be he/she ever felt jealous. It's will not ruin a marriage as long as one party do not intentionally make another party feel jealous.

What ruin a marriage is feeling offended because the partner do something wrong like make an affair with another woman/man. Or, intentionally the partner make her/him always jealous.
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This depends from country to country I'm guessing. Over here, divorce occurs so often people are starting to have common-law marriages instead of marriage.
 
Iceee said:
I don't know how women think, neither do you since we're both, "Gender: Male." Name me one girl who you know who craves their husband giving attention to other woman. It's called Jealousy, not many woman will like this occurring but some will deal with it.
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Read the discussion you're responding to before trying to be smartass. It's not hard. Or name one place where I have said that a woman would "crave her husband giving attention to other women".
 
Nobody is perfect. everyone makes mistakes. It's important not to lose your temper (whether your male or female). Both partners have to be understanding and considerate and show love and care and respect for each other. Never belittle your spouse. The marriage is built upon love, care, respect, and understanding. Always try to put yourself in the other's shoes and think how you would feel in any situation. Easier said than done but still worth remembering and trying.
 
syilla said:
Just to be fair
Always appreciate and be grateful with your hubby so that you can live a happier life.
Remember the hadith saying that most women who are in hell is because they are not grateful with their hubbies. (maybe someone can help me with the hadith)
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This is very unusual to see a Sister say, quiet nice actually.. I personally believe that a man brings his spouse into Hell along with himself, never the less.. I also think that if a couple is not a good match then it is possible that the woman (being bad due to conflicts) is destined to be in Hell since there she can be with the one who fits her better? so while your fair msg is nice, it may be of no use to some couples out there because a woman may not be in a position to carry out such a will, unfortunately. Peace
 
The fact that more men than women have posted in a thread directed at kind treatment of husbands is just depressing. Its like every man is asking for it, and the women couldn't care less, and the ones who care are single, ooooohh... the irony.:exhausted
 
Ali_008 said:
The fact that more men than women have posted in a thread directed at kind treatment of husbands is just depressing. Its like every man is asking for it, and the women couldn't care less, and the ones who care are single, ooooohh... the irony.:exhausted
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Why should those sisters care to those brothers if those brothers are not their husbands? :D

By the way, I am not asking for appreciation from the sisters. I just shared a husband's view that I got from my experience as a husband for almost 19 years.
 

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