Being a second wife

[Zzz_]

How about you take it up with the OP? She is the one who is soliciting advice on a public forum.

Except your advice not practical not wise. You, or anyone of us, knows enough details to be giving life advice to her. We can say how what the guy is doing is wrong and how it should be and what her options may be. Much like how Choosen and Aisha has done. While its easy to give the advice like yours, you do not know how it could negative affect all parties. For an actual advice on this matter, more information is needed and an imam, elderly wise people of community or islamic marriage counselor needs to get involved.

 

[anatolian]

Dont do anything which you wouldnt want to be done to you. Thats the never lasting golden rule of ethics taught by all Prophets.

 

[MiracleSurvivor]

He is n9t being honest. If he married you in secret, and you already has a wife. It means that he is not very honest to his first wife and he’s going to do the same to you. since he married you in secret he doesn’t care about enough to let it out in the open. Go ask a sheikh about this.

 

[Sister HH]

Jazakallah to one and all for the advice.