Confirmation Trouble....Please Help

manwithnogun said:
I am in a bit of a problem....i have to be confirmed into the lutheran church...in 4 days....and its too late to quietly cancel the confirmation. i have even talked about it with my parents so i have to get confirmed. but i looked over what i have to say today and i knew that i could not say it. it just.....is completely against my beliefs. i am Muslim in heart, i know it. If i get confirmed even though i dont believe in it, while i be frowned upon by Allah, and other Muslims?
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This is a very difficult issue. Part of it is your need to be obediant to your parents and to not disrupt their plans. But, it is hypocritical to profess the acceptance of what you do not believe.

I am not certain as to the format for confirmation as a Lutheran. Is it done as a group or does each person confirm and acknowledge as an individual like Catholics do?

If you do not have to testify in an an audible voice, simply whisper what you honestly believe and repeat the Shahadah, quietly, rather than the words you are expected to say.
 
A more drastic approach you can take is contact the pastor of the church and let him know that you can not say the confirmation oath as you do not believe it. he will get angry, but if he is an honest pastor he will not permit you to be confirmed.
 
Tomorrow is my confirmation and still my parents are making me go........please if you will keep me in your prayers and pray Allah may give me the strength to deny this confirmation into christianity........i know i must not allow my self to be confirmed......i pray for courage to take into action my beliefs and not undertake confirmation......
thank you everyone for all your advise and responses, they have given me more courage and have helped me see that i must act in the Will of Allah. thank you, i shall keep all of you in my prayers
 
Your Parents are talking rubbish. I'm assuming that because you are using the internet and can type accuratly that you are a teenager living at home.
You have rights.
Your Parents CANNOT force you to be confimed. There is NOTHING they can do. Just say, I dont beleive Jesus is god and dont go.
If you fear that they will threaten violence, then this is a family you need to get the heck away from. They sound like they are amongst the worst kind of religious extremists. seek help from Childline if your in the UK, in the USA i'm sure there is similar helplines.
Religion is a personal choice as a human being. Your parents are Totally utterly and irrevokably 100% WRONG. Please accept this, they cannot tell you what to think or what to beleive. You are a person with your own mind, what they are doing is barbaric, and utterly unchristian)

I Hope you can emerge from this stronger. Do not put yourself at risk.
 
i talked with my parents a lot beforehand and well....i basically figured out that they were scared of my beliefs.....they didnt know anything about Islam and so whenever i would try to talk they would completely dimiss the subject...but I ended up having to go and i was nearly just about to walk away from the church before the service but well i figured it would bring too much trouble later....so i got confirmed but i spent most of the service uttering the Shahadah and praying. I felt terrible when i was confirmed like i was helpless in committing this sin and i wish i could have done better to get out of it.........but i hope this feeling will come to pass because I know my heart still stands with Islam, but i do feel terrible for what i said
 
Dont sweat it, if you diddnt beleive it then it's only words.

Your Parents need a check up from the neck up. Fancy Physically forcing their own kid to do something like that?

:(
 
manwithnogun said:
i talked with my parents a lot beforehand and well....i basically figured out that they were scared of my beliefs.....they didnt know anything about Islam and so whenever i would try to talk they would completely dimiss the subject...but I ended up having to go and i was nearly just about to walk away from the church before the service but well i figured it would bring too much trouble later....so i got confirmed but i spent most of the service uttering the Shahadah and praying. I felt terrible when i was confirmed like i was helpless in committing this sin and i wish i could have done better to get out of it.........but i hope this feeling will come to pass because I know my heart still stands with Islam, but i do feel terrible for what i said
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I am so sorry that you went through with this, manwithnogun.

The whole point of being confirmed is to reaffirm your personal beliefs.
Declaring publically something you don't truly belief is being dishonest to yourself and to everbody else present.

No wonder you are feeling guilty...
But you know, the good thing is that God is forgiving ... certainly more forgiving than your parents, your priest and the church members are likely to be! :)

If in your heart you feel you have made your choice, and you had to lie because you were under pressure, then just ask God's forgiveness and he will grant it.
Don't feel bad anymore, God knows your heart and he knows your struggles.

Peace
 
As an add-on, this thread has made me think how dangerous it is when affirmations of faith just become something that is expected by parents, clergy or the congregation ... :(
I am sure that this applies to people from all faiths.

Like you, manwithnogun, I remember preparing for my confirmation when I was 13, and nobody EVER asked me whether I truly believed or even understood what it was all about ...
It was merely a tradition, something that was expected of me and of all other children in our congregation.
Like you, I went through with it, but at the time it meant nothing.

Only four years ago did I really in my heart and soul come to the Christian faith, and only then did I affirm my faith publically with knowledge and understanding.

Affirming our faith (whatever that may be) is something we should all do daily - and never half-heartedly or without due respect and thought.
Telling God what we believe about him and how we hope to serve him, is something of great importance and shouldn't be done lightly!
That should be made very clear to anybody who is preparing to get baptised, confirmed, say Shahadah, or whatever else - rather than coaxing people into something they don't really believe or understand. :thumbs_do

Peace
 
if you think deep down you are muslim in heart then don't go. I pray for you that you stay on the right path
 

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