Converting questions

[briren08]

Hello everyone! I'm new here. I've been studying Islam for a little while now, and I STILL have questions I can't seem to find answers to and I'm hoping SOMEONE here will be able to help me.

1) I'm engaged to a non-muslim man. He is completely agnostic and respects the fact that I may want to convert and has no desire to stop me or to even stop our future children from practicing Islam. He has told me that religiously, I would make the decisions regarding our children. I know it is haram to marry a non-muslim because as supposed "head of household" his religion would take prescedence over mine, but in this case it isn't true.

2) We also own a dog which we've had for 2 years. Is there anywhere in the Qur'an that says dogs are haram? I've been told by a muslimah that only the saliva of a dog is haram and I know 2 muslimahs that have dogs. Please clarify!!

3) For the younger muslim's on this forum, how do you make time during school to pray? Also, how do you make time to pray during work? (I know "make time" sounds really bad, but I don't know how else to describe it, I apologize.)

4) My fiance and I have been living together for the past year, if/ when I convert, will we have to live seperately or sleep in seperate rooms? (I recently moved back to his hometown and rely on him completely for income and a house until I find my own job.)

Thank you in advance for your answers and insight.

 

[peaceandlove]

sister

i will try to answer to the best of my knowledge

1) I'm engaged to a non-muslim man. He is completely agnostic and respects the fact that I may want to convert and has no desire to stop me or to even stop our future children from practicing Islam. He has told me that religiously, I would make the decisions regarding our children. I know it is haram to marry a non-muslim because as supposed "head of household" his religion would take prescedence over mine, but in this case it isn't true.

I think you already know that a muslim women cannot marry non muslim man, so there is no question arises that you can marry him whether he respect Islam etc but there is a solution to it which i think solve you most of the problems, try to convert the man to Islam then marry him your problem will be solved. Try it and pray to Allah , may Allah guide him to the true path.

2) We also own a dog which we've had for 2 years. Is there anywhere in the Qur'an that says dogs are haram? I've been told by a muslimah that only the saliva of a dog is haram and I know 2 muslimahs that have dogs. Please clarify!!

Well , to the best of my knowledge you cannot have dogs in your house but if you like them for security , then keep them outside your house , like outside your home make a small room from him., also see this link for more detail http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/33668

3) For the younger muslim's on this forum, how do you make time during school to pray? Also, how do you make time to pray during work? (I know "make time" sounds really bad, but I don't know how else to describe it, I apologize.)

Well , i live in Pakistan so i don't have much idea what problem can somebody face in a non-muslim country , if you are living in a muslim country then i think you also face no problem but if you are in non-muslim country then i did not know what problem you face , like if you work 9-5 then there is only one prayer between it "zuhar"(at least in our country the time is like that, donot know whats in yours) and as there will also be a lunch break why not you offer prayer between lunch brake and rest you can easily pray in home. But even if you are in office you must have to pray on time , you can ask your company that as a muslim you have to pray , so hopefully they give you permission for this and if not then try to join some other company. But please note that in Islam is not compulsory for women to job, its the duty of man to take care a women , also if you want you can start a home based business.

4) My fiance and I have been living together for the past year, if/ when I convert, will we have to live seperately or sleep in seperate rooms? (I recently moved back to his hometown and rely on him completely for income and a house until I find my own job.)

Well in Islam, man and women cannot live together before marriage , its a big sin , if you can marry him obviously my converting him to Islam , but until you don't marry you can not live together.

I pray to Allah to guide You, Me and All of us to the true path

 

[briren08]

Thank you for your help. I have talked to him about converting, but he always has reasons why he won't join a religion. I've also talked to my friends about their dogs and they said they don't let them in the room that they pray in and when they lick them they wash themselves a certain amount of times. See, the marriage thing is the only thing holding me back from converting.

I do thank you for your answers.

 

[14yearold]

Thank you for your help. I have talked to him about converting, but he always has reasons why he won't join a religion. I've also talked to my friends about their dogs and they said they don't let them in the room that they pray in and when they lick them they wash themselves a certain amount of times. See, the marriage thing is the only thing holding me back from converting.

I do thank you for your answers.

i jus wanted to quickly say about"the only thing holding me back is the marriage thing". Ur comparing a small thing such as REligion to a small thing like marriage and im guessin ur fiances an athiest which is totally based on a foundation of crap. btu first im going to answer to ur marriage thing, no u should not marry the man, why?Allah will probably give you a reward for that and theres nothing holding him back to treat you like **** except mere love which can be extinguished with my exs mere bare body but if he was a muslim he wouldnt dare look at another girl wrong. and now for ur husband, hes basicly unstable. He doesn't beleivin god meaning he doesn't beleive in the hereafter meaning he thinks he doesnt have to re-account for his deeds meanings hes either to lazy to follow a religion or he lives for his own sake.His own thrill."Do they think they were made without a purpose?" is all you have to attack at him and he'd say were just here ok.He lives by science, science has 1 main question.How?Why?What?When?Where?You find the reason of somethings action then find out why it does it then find out how it acheives it so according to his way of life (based on facts and science) everything ahs a purpose and a way of achieving that purpose. The qur'an is the human instruction manual and Muhammad(pbuh) is the living example of what we should be. And if your a christian or a catholic i can give u bible refrences that you're supposed to follow Muhammad(SAWS) and very soon ull find out the downward spiral u and ur husband will go down.

And Salah(prayer) is the first thing on ur list, more important then ur job, then everything, even your life.Sahaba(RA) (followers of Prophet(pbuh) that they've seen prophet(pbuh)) would get shot by arrows during salah and still not move an inch becasue their in front of Allah.

Every word you say in prayer my namuharam, Allah gives a reply. You say praise be to allah sustainer and cherisher of all worlds and he'll sustain u, and the awesome thing is.If you leave ur only source of income for the sole purpose of Allah then Allah will deffinately provide for u.Remember, Muhammad(SAWS) has said, "poverty is the gift for the Mu'min(faithful)."

I recomend for u a book called the sealed nectar and if you cant get your hands on it, try going for a book called fadial-e-amal(pronounced fazail-e-amal meaning rewards of acting upon knowledge). (english translations)


Remember this duniya is nothing, from Adam(pbuh) to the last human being, were destined to go into the grave, even ur athiest husband knows that and wat truely is eternal is akhira. Jannah(read chpt 78 verses 31-37) or jahanam.(i think u can draw up an image)

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salaam/Peace;

... I know it is haram to marry a non-muslim because as supposed "head of household" his religion would take prescedence over mine, but in this case it isn't true.

A Muslim Woman can not marry a non-Muslim because God did not allow it in holy Quran . Other explanations are given by human being . So , you are not allowed to stay with him now or after marriage does not matter who will control the household etc.

Is there anywhere in the Qur'an that says dogs are haram?

regarding Hadith , dogs can be kept for 3 reasons . InshaAllah I will try to post in details .

3) For the younger muslim's on this forum, how do you make time during school to pray? Also, how do you make time to pray during work?

It takes only few minutes to offer salat . Must not be a great problem if u really want to meet you Lord on a daily basis

when I convert, will we have to live seperately or sleep in seperate rooms?

you must not continue this illegal relatioship anymore if u fear God. U must not give satan / devil any chance to provoke u to commit adultery . So , move to another house / town etc . Remember it's satan who will try to scare u for not doing this.


Shaitan (Satan) threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahsha (evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.); whereas Allah promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty, and Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures needs, All-Knower.
( سورة البقرة , Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #268)

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salaam/ Peace

...

And Salah(prayer) is the first thing on ur list, more important then ur job, then everything, even your life

a 14 year old is giving this advice ? MashaAllah

sis , related links for dogs : Pl. remember Islam does not teach us to hate dogs but we must be careful about the possible dangers from mixing with dogs , spend too much time with dogs as pets and neglect other important duties etc. But there is no harm to be kind to animals.


"A prostitute was forgiven because of her act of compassion toward a dog. She found a dog almost dying of thirst in a desert, so she descended into a well and scooping water in her own shoes, she offered it to the dog to drink; God forgave her sins on account of that (act of charity)."

Keeping Dogs: Science Supports Shari`ah

Keeping Pets

Are Guide-Dogs Impure?

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...nglish-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaEAskTheScholar

 

[briren08]

i jus wanted to quickly say about"the only thing holding me back is the marriage thing". Ur comparing a small thing such as REligion to a small thing like marriage and im guessin ur fiances an athiest which is totally based on a foundation of crap. btu first im going to answer to ur marriage thing, no u should not marry the man, why?Allah will probably give you a reward for that and theres nothing holding him back to treat you like **** except mere love which can be extinguished with my exs mere bare body but if he was a muslim he wouldnt dare look at another girl wrong. and now for ur husband, hes basicly unstable. He doesn't beleivin god meaning he doesn't beleive in the hereafter meaning he thinks he doesnt have to re-account for his deeds meanings hes either to lazy to follow a religion or he lives for his own sake.His own thrill."Do they think they were made without a purpose?" is all you have to attack at him and he'd say were just here ok.He lives by science, science has 1 main question.How?Why?What?When?Where?You find the reason of somethings action then find out why it does it then find out how it acheives it so according to his way of life (based on facts and science) everything ahs a purpose and a way of achieving that purpose. The qur'an is the human instruction manual and Muhammad(pbuh) is the living example of what we should be. And if your a christian or a catholic i can give u bible refrences that you're supposed to follow Muhammad(SAWS) and very soon ull find out the downward spiral u and ur husband will go down.

And Salah(prayer) is the first thing on ur list, more important then ur job, then everything, even your life.Sahaba(RA) (followers of Prophet(pbuh) that they've seen prophet(pbuh)) would get shot by arrows during salah and still not move an inch becasue their in front of Allah.

Every word you say in prayer my namuharam, Allah gives a reply. You say praise be to allah sustainer and cherisher of all worlds and he'll sustain u, and the awesome thing is.If you leave ur only source of income for the sole purpose of Allah then Allah will deffinately provide for u.Remember, Muhammad(SAWS) has said, "poverty is the gift for the Mu'min(faithful)."

I recomend for u a book called the sealed nectar and if you cant get your hands on it, try going for a book called fadial-e-amal(pronounced fazail-e-amal meaning rewards of acting upon knowledge). (english translations)


Remember this duniya is nothing, from Adam(pbuh) to the last human being, were destined to go into the grave, even ur athiest husband knows that and wat truely is eternal is akhira. Jannah(read chpt 78 verses 31-37) or jahanam.(i think u can draw up an image)

Woah..I didn't ask queestions to be attacked. My fiance is not atheist, he is agnostic. He believes in an afterlife and he believes in atoning for sins, but he doesn't believe in organized religion. He has already told me he respects me for wanting to join a religion and doesn't want to hold me back from it. I'm not sure what you mean by the bare body thing either. And I never said I didn't have time for salah, I just wanted to know how they managed it and things like that. I love God and I don't think that He would punish someone for loving another human being, religion or not.

Once again, I don't appreciate being attacked when I'm only asking for guidance.

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salaam/Peace

My fiance is not atheist, he is agnostic.

well sis , for the sake of your hereafter , end this relationship as it's not allowed in Islam to live together without marriage . Does not matter if the partner is a Muslim or atheist or what.

Once again, I don't appreciate being attacked when I'm only asking for guidance.

I am sure bro had no intention to attack you , pl. don't be angry .

Guidance come from God Almighty ; so keep praying . Waiting to welcome you as our sister in Islam :statisfie

 

[Nyx-]

Peace!

Welcome Sister!

I converted a total of 2 hours ago so i may not be the most experienced muslim. Perhaps you should lead by example and show dispell myths that might hold him back from learning of Islam.

All you can do is hope and pray that he finds the truth.

 

[briren08]

Peace!

Welcome Sister!

I converted a total of 2 hours ago so i may not be the most experienced muslim. Perhaps you should lead by example and show dispell myths that might hold him back from learning of Islam.

All you can do is hope and pray that he finds the truth.

I appreciate the suggestion. I have prayed for him and even talked to him about it and I showed him a bunch of websites and stuff. He just doesn't believe in religion.

Thank you also to everyone for their guidance.

 

[gang4]

I think the difficult part is after you receive the answers and they do not get along with the desire you would like to do.

it is in our nature to defy things...but if we put them as an option, things may turn out differently....

When I face a tough decision to make...or just being too lazy to do what I am commanded to do in Islam.... I try to make a habit asking myself a question: "Would I do as I will, or as Allah's WILL...

This question gives me a strong motivation...

Allah knows best

 

[Muslim Woman]

Peace!

..I converted a total of 2 hours ago

 

[aadil77]

tough situation, tell him that islam doesn't allow you to remain married to a non muslim, see if that wakes him up

 

[Nala]

May Allah guide you to the true path (F)

 

[Ramisa]

Hello everyone! I'm new here. I've been studying Islam for a little while now, and I STILL have questions I can't seem to find answers to and I'm hoping SOMEONE here will be able to help me.

1) I'm engaged to a non-muslim man. He is completely agnostic and respects the fact that I may want to convert and has no desire to stop me or to even stop our future children from practicing Islam. He has told me that religiously, I would make the decisions regarding our children. I know it is haram to marry a non-muslim because as supposed "head of household" his religion would take prescedence over mine, but in this case it isn't true.

2) We also own a dog which we've had for 2 years. Is there anywhere in the Qur'an that says dogs are haram? I've been told by a muslimah that only the saliva of a dog is haram and I know 2 muslimahs that have dogs. Please clarify!!

3) For the younger muslim's on this forum, how do you make time during school to pray? Also, how do you make time to pray during work? (I know "make time" sounds really bad, but I don't know how else to describe it, I apologize.)

4) My fiance and I have been living together for the past year, if/ when I convert, will we have to live seperately or sleep in seperate rooms? (I recently moved back to his hometown and rely on him completely for income and a house until I find my own job.)

Thank you in advance for your answers and insight.

Your first question is not a question,rather you are just stating facts,inshallah if you can elaborate more,i can answer.

Your second question has been answered on Islamicity and here is the answer:

As Salamu Alaikum

Kaisay ho br.Huzaifah ? Answer me in hindi/urdu, itself, as you are learning it.

Before going into the subject let us recall that halal and haraam in Islam. i.e things which are permissible and forbidden in Islam, are for our goodness. Allah swt created such haram things for our trial. Today, its proved that all those things which are forbidden or are not permissible, are harmful for us. We as muslims need to have complete faith and submit our will to these commands.

The Prophet (sallal lahu alayhi wasallam) said: "Whoever keeps a dog, except a dog for herding, hunting or farming, his reward will decrease by one qiraat every day." (Reported by Muslim)

So you see that it is not permitted to keep a dog unless it is for a purpose, like hunting or guarding property or other uses that are not contrary to the Sharee’ah.

There's an other hadith regarding concerned with dog.

Prophet Muhammad {Sallal lahu alayhi wasallam] said: "If a dog licks the vessel of any one of you, let him throw away whatever was in it and wash it seven times." - Muslim

Those were the saying 1400 plus, years ago. But today science proved it to be correct. Dogs are the carriers of numerous parasites that highly harmful us. They get into our intestines and results in disease. ,By kissing them, let them lick them or, sleep with them we invite those parasites.

Scholars have agreed that they can be kept under few circumstances like farmers who keep dogs for guarding and shepherding cattle, etc; people who are visually challenged who need to keep dogs as guides, hunters who use trained dogs, police who employ trained dogs for investigating crimes, those who need to keep guard dogs, etc

This does n't mean we are to unkind to dogs or hold no compassion. Prophet (sallal lahu alayhi wasallam) said: "Whilst a man was walking he became very thirsty, so he went down to a well and drank from it. When he came out, he saw a dog panting and biting the soil because of thirst. The man said, ‘He is suffering the same as I suffered,’ so he filled his shoe (with water), came out and let the dog drink until his thirst was quenched. Allah appreciated his good deed and forgave him because of it." The people asked, "O Messenger of Allah, will we be rewarded for how we treat animals?" He said, "In every living thing there is a reward."

(Reported by al-Bukhaari}

Hope these hadiths answer your question


Your third question: I am 18 years old and I find time by accomplishing my homework and preparing for tests during the time before prayer,so at prayer i can easily pray and dhikr my lord,Allah.

Your fourth questionnly a scholar inshallah can answer properly possibly on www.askimam.org . But for sure if you convert then you have to marry a muslim man,and if your future husband does not convert than sadly you have to leave him.

Allah knows the best.

 

[jerryleeevans]

Woah..I didn't ask queestions to be attacked. My fiance is not atheist, he is agnostic. He believes in an afterlife and he believes in atoning for sins, but he doesn't believe in organized religion.

Remind your fiancee that Islam is not a religion but a way of life. To me it sounds like he is already a believer, but does not want to fully commit because he's afraid of what society or others may think; that's not going to make for a good relationship. Have him learn about Islam, and meet other Muslims. I believe he's gathering his information about organized religion, from what he sees amongst Christianity today and the violent sects of Islam. Show him how wonderful Islam really is by introducing him to Muslim friends and reading the Holy Qu'ran together. Then if he is still too stubborn to submit to Allah, then it was not meant to be.

All the best and Insha Allah, everything will work out for you two.

 

[Gubbleknucker]

All atheist means is "someone who doesn't believe in any particular god."

Most atheists are agnostics.

As for converting an atheist... If I were to claim to believe in any dogma, I would be lying.

Don't force your fiancee to lie to you.

you must not continue this illegal relatioship anymore if u fear God. U must not give satan / devil any chance to provoke u to commit adultery . So , move to another house / town etc . Remember it's satan who will try to scare u for not doing this.

This just makes me sad.

 

[happynur]

Every prohibition written in the holy quran has purpose for the sake of our goodness. Disaster, calamity, havoc, diseases or any other bad things that happen in this world is the signs that our conduct have been breaking the law of Allah…

As a muslim (new converted or old one), we have to be very careful cause, at this time, our sins or rewards is being written by the angel (raqeeb & ateed) of the conduct and behavior of our daily activity…

This world, its substance, is too small. No meaning. Nothing…. Nothing compared to the prize that Allah has promised to us, Al-Jannah, the place that should we comeback to…

 

[briren08]

Remind your fiancee that Islam is not a religion but a way of life. To me it sounds like he is already a believer, but does not want to fully commit because he's afraid of what society or others may think; that's not going to make for a good relationship. Have him learn about Islam, and meet other Muslims. I believe he's gathering his information about organized religion, from what he sees amongst Christianity today and the violent sects of Islam. Show him how wonderful Islam really is by introducing him to Muslim friends and reading the Holy Qu'ran together. Then if he is still too stubborn to submit to Allah, then it was not meant to be.

All the best and Insha Allah, everything will work out for you two.

Not to be insensitive, but you don't know him and I don't understand how you can come to these conclusions. He doesn't believe the misconceptions of Islam, but he just doesn't believe in ANY organized religion, he's not just prejudiced against Islam.

Also, I wanted to thank you all for you answers and your guidance. I have been reading some articles that and imam wrote and I am going to use that as a basis for my conversion.

Thank you.

 

[Ramisa]

I pray that this post finds you in a healthy state both physically and mentally ready for the debate. You should not only try to convert yourself into a better Muslim but now attempt to convert your fiancee. You must have many support/evidence in order to support your perspective. Debating a person who is stubborn enough to keep his religion while his future wife is taking on another means that he is sure he is correct. That means that you must have sayings of the Prophets(Peace and blessings be upon them),Ayats from the holy Qura'an,and advance articles from known authors(I.E. harun yahya) to back your perspective in his eyes. You must be ready for any debate regarding almost everything on Islam. Debating a non-Muslim is not a kids game. Your one mistake may harm his judgement in converting to the true religion. You must know all the facts of Islam,the Prophets(peace and blessings be upon them),their companions(peace and blessings be upon them) and the history of Islam. I rather recommend you taking the time and imply yourself in a work place that you may prepare yourself,rather than being impatient and ruining your chances of marrying him(because it is Haaram to marry a non-Muslim). All my duas will be with you and your fiancee inshallah. Best of luck. If you have any questions please feel free to ask anyone on this forum and one may help you InshaAllah. If one cannot assist you than may I recommend you asking a question on this site:www.askimam.org. Allah knows the best