dating a muslim.... :)

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So my boyfriend is muslim, I am not affiliated with any religious beliefs, I consider myself spiritual. We both respect each others beliefs. Sometimes when I ask him questions about his religion, he doesn't know how to explain it, so we often look online for answers. One question that I have that I could not find an answer to is why do muslims shower with underwear on? When we shower together, he doesn't wear anything, but he says when he showers alone, he wears something. Explanation please?
 
steph said:
So my boyfriend is muslim, I am not affiliated with any religious beliefs, I consider myself spiritual. We both respect each others beliefs. Sometimes when I ask him questions about his religion, he doesn't know how to explain it, so we often look online for answers. One question that I have that I could not find an answer to is why do muslims shower with underwear on? When we shower together, he doesn't wear anything, but he says when he showers alone, he wears something. Explanation please?
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A Muslim doesn't wear anything when he showers. And what's more is that Muslims aren't even allowed to have boyfriends or girlfriends. We marry instead to protect and preserve families and society.
 
steph said:
So my boyfriend is muslim, I am not affiliated with any religious beliefs, I consider myself spiritual. We both respect each others beliefs. Sometimes when I ask him questions about his religion, he doesn't know how to explain it, so we often look online for answers. One question that I have that I could not find an answer to is why do muslims shower with underwear on? When we shower together, he doesn't wear anything, but he says when he showers alone, he wears something. Explanation please?
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Muslims dont wear underwear when showering, though they can if they want. I dont.

A bigger concern is in Islam girlfriend and boyfriend realationships are not allowed, if you really do in deed respect each others beliefs you should mention this to him gently and break up to prevent greater heart ache for your 'boyfriend' in this life and the next - if you really care about him I honestly think thats best for both of you.

God knows best.

Peace Sis
 
steph said:
So my boyfriend is muslim, I am not affiliated with any religious beliefs, I consider myself spiritual. We both respect each others beliefs. Sometimes when I ask him questions about his religion, he doesn't know how to explain it, so we often look online for answers. One question that I have that I could not find an answer to is why do muslims shower with underwear on? When we shower together, he doesn't wear anything, but he says when he showers alone, he wears something. Explanation please?
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wowsers...never heard of wearing anything to shower
but um as muslims its haraam (unlawful) to date.....maybe he was talking about a shower cap......
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'Abd-al Latif said:
A Muslim doesn't wear anything when he showers. And what's more is that Muslims aren't even allowed to have boyfriends or girlfriends. We marry instead to protect and preserve families and society.
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The brother is correct... in both issues... we dont shower with clothes on... neither do we date... it is unlawful in Islam, we marry...
 
Hum, that's odd because he says its because of his religion that he showers with something on... He is from Sri Lanka and wears this skirt-type thing that wraps around his waist, and thats what he wears when he showers alone and also wears it to sleep with. Wow, so muslims aren't allowed to date? What will the repercussions be of his actions?
 
steph said:
Hum, that's odd because he says its because of his religion that he showers with something on... He is from Sri Lanka and wears this skirt-type thing that wraps around his waist, and thats what he wears when he showers alone and also wears it to sleep with. Wow, so muslims aren't allowed to date? What will the repercussions be of his actions?
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you sure he is muslim?
you don't confuse between muslim and hindu, do you?
 
steph said:
Hum, that's odd because he says its because of his religion that he showers with something on... He is from Sri Lanka and wears this skirt-type thing that wraps around his waist, and thats what he wears when he showers alone and also wears it to sleep with. Wow, so muslims aren't allowed to date? What will the repercussions be of his actions?
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Peace,

If he does claim himself to be a Muslim (someone who submits to the One True God), then that's not really a good way of showing it. As to "repercussions of his actions", well he'll only have to answer to his Creator when the time comes.

I would suggest that if you two were serious about each other, that for the sake of keeping faith and not falling into shirk(sin), you two got married.
 
steph said:
Wow, so muslims aren't allowed to date? What will the repercussions be of his actions?
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No we are not allowed to date we marry the reason being that dating ususually involves sex and sex can lead to sexual transmitted disease, illegitamate children, etc. The punishment for having sex outside of marriage is 100 lashes for the male and female (but people are usually only punished like this in countries that are dominanted by muslims).

[Quran 24:2] The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a party of the Believers witness their punishment.

He should repent and the relationship you and him have is haraam so it would be better for him and you if it is ended.....sorries if that came across as harsh but its just the truth.

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned us against being alone with a non-mahram woman, and said: “No man is alone with a woman but the shaytaan is the third one present.” [Narrated by Ahmad, al-Tirmidhi and al-Haakim; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2546)].
 
first of all having a boyfriend or girlfriend is haraam in islam and secondly, noone baths while wearing anything.

 
I find it funny that he is cool with dating and having showers with someone else who he isn't married to, yet lord forbid when he is alone in the shower he gotta wear underwear!

Its crazy how far off we muslims are from our religion... I would say get your priorities straight but I think its more appropriate for the brother to learn his religion.

And my piece of advice is get married. As dating is completely forbidden in Islam, and it can lead to major sins. So if you really respect his religion, just get married to save him from the wrath of Allah.
 
Perseveranze said:
Peace,

I would suggest that if you two were serious about each other, that for the sake of keeping faith and not falling into shirk(sin), you two got married.
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Who told you she believes in Christianity? =/ or that she fulfills the other condition?

Nope, just end it.
 
steph said:
Hum, that's odd because he says its because of his religion that he showers with something on... He is from Sri Lanka and wears this skirt-type thing that wraps around his waist, and thats what he wears when he showers alone and also wears it to sleep with. Wow, so muslims aren't allowed to date? What will the repercussions be of his actions?
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Maybe it's a Sri Lankan clutural tradition, Islam does not allow tradition or culture to be added.


Bid'ah - Innovation in Islam

Wa sharrul Umoori Muhdathaatuhaa, Wa kulla Bid'atin dhaialah, wa kulla dhalatin fin-naar" Al-Hadith (Sahih Muslim). Translation of the above Hadith: Every innovation is a misguidance and every misguidance goes to Hell fire.
 
steph said:
Well thank you all for your input. Reminds me how thankful I am to live in America
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God sees us everywhere we are, including America.

It should make no difference where a Muslim lives, the practice of our faith or it's tenets don't change.

I wonder if your friend genuinely does not know that such relationships are completely forbidden in Islam, or whether he does know...

Have you told him that you have found out that what you're both doing is forbidden in Islam?

Would you (and/or your friend) be interested in learning more about the basic tenets of Islam?

May Allah guide you both, and us all.

Peace.
 
steph said:
Hum, that's odd because he says its because of his religion that he showers with something on... He is from Sri Lanka and wears this skirt-type thing that wraps around his waist, and thats what he wears when he showers alone and also wears it to sleep with.
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Pardon my skepticism, but I thoroughly doubt he is a muslim.
It sounds more like hindu, buddhist, pantheist, animist, or atheist practice.

steph said:
Well thank you all for your input. Reminds me how thankful I am to live in America
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Good for you.

For me, I am just so thankful that I am muslim, no matter where I live. And hopefully my abode in the hereafter will be better than the one on this world.
 

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