Salaam,
I pray everyone is in good health. InshaAllah
For the last two years we as a family been going through a lot of emotions.
My brother was married to my mum’s niece ( sister daughter) our cousin from Pakistan. They did not get along. They been married for 5 years but she came to the UK and is here, past 2.5 years.
Every since she got here, she caused fights with my brother over petty things and acts like a victim of her own actions. She continuously makes my mother feel guilty of ‘ruining her life’ when that is not the case.
Long story short now, because my mother’s niece has engraved herself so much in my mother’s head, my mother emotionally blackmails my brother of getting her a british nationality. My cousin refuses to leave the country as she uses the excuse to my mother over and over again as she be ‘humiliated’ if she was to go back. Also note, her and my brother never consummated the marriage and she has no one here but my mother ( no other family members)
Her visa extension was rejected over something so trivial- missing the deadline, they didn’t apply within the grace period. That was a big wake up call from Allah. But my mother refuses to accept and has said she will fight for this girl till she dies.
My mother has been really difficult with my brother and refuses to listens to anyone.
Please advise how to deal with this. Repeatedly we spoke to our mother and told her not to be cruel but she calls him all sorts of nasty stuff as ‘dirty blood’/ curses him as ‘you’ll never be happy’.
In the past, my mother niece has brought amulets and my mother does believe in them. She put it in my brothers pillow when her niece first came in the country. I don’t want to accuse, but my mother’s obsession with her niece isn’t normal. Sometimes she’s threatening us to leave the house with her or giving our hard earned money to her.
How do we bring our mother back into her senses? We’re really running out of patience. What do we do?
I pray everyone is in good health. InshaAllah
For the last two years we as a family been going through a lot of emotions.
My brother was married to my mum’s niece ( sister daughter) our cousin from Pakistan. They did not get along. They been married for 5 years but she came to the UK and is here, past 2.5 years.
Every since she got here, she caused fights with my brother over petty things and acts like a victim of her own actions. She continuously makes my mother feel guilty of ‘ruining her life’ when that is not the case.
Long story short now, because my mother’s niece has engraved herself so much in my mother’s head, my mother emotionally blackmails my brother of getting her a british nationality. My cousin refuses to leave the country as she uses the excuse to my mother over and over again as she be ‘humiliated’ if she was to go back. Also note, her and my brother never consummated the marriage and she has no one here but my mother ( no other family members)
Her visa extension was rejected over something so trivial- missing the deadline, they didn’t apply within the grace period. That was a big wake up call from Allah. But my mother refuses to accept and has said she will fight for this girl till she dies.
My mother has been really difficult with my brother and refuses to listens to anyone.
Please advise how to deal with this. Repeatedly we spoke to our mother and told her not to be cruel but she calls him all sorts of nasty stuff as ‘dirty blood’/ curses him as ‘you’ll never be happy’.
In the past, my mother niece has brought amulets and my mother does believe in them. She put it in my brothers pillow when her niece first came in the country. I don’t want to accuse, but my mother’s obsession with her niece isn’t normal. Sometimes she’s threatening us to leave the house with her or giving our hard earned money to her.
How do we bring our mother back into her senses? We’re really running out of patience. What do we do?
