[Humayara Khan]

i am undergoing a tough and harsh period in my life..such that i am nt able to have a clear view of wer to go and how to move ahead. i am student of msc microbiology. i did bsc in zoology and cleared it with flying colours. i have always scored more than 7 cgpa out of 10 in each semester and topped msc zoology entrance exam. i applied for msc microbiology entrance exam and was selected in the first list. i scored 6.5 cgpa in the frst semester.since the starting of secnd semester i hv been facing a lot of depression. my result has fallen down terribly. i can last in the class in mid sems and i have failed in the end sems with two ATKTs. this is my first ATKT in my entire college life and i dnt knw how to face the situation. i stay depressed even in the college.people look at me and pass comments wich make me more depressed. also m the only muslim in my class or we can say in the entire batch. i am currently living a life without any respect in college. i used to pray tahajjud and watever i hv asked in tahajjud uda i have always got.from lasg few 3-4 days i m praying tahajjud as ramazan are going. but still i dnt know now wat to do. i am in this stationary state from last 6 months. someone pls help.:hmm::Emoji30::Emoji29::Emoji27:

 

[eesa the kiwi]

5. It was reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says:

للّهُـمَّ إِنِّي عَبْـدُكَ ابْنُ عَبْـدِكَ ابْنُ أَمَتِـكَ نَاصِيَتِي بِيَـدِكَ، مَاضٍ فِيَّ حُكْمُكَ، عَدْلٌ فِيَّ قَضَاؤكَ أَسْأَلُـكَ بِكُلِّ اسْمٍ هُوَ لَكَ سَمَّـيْتَ بِهِ نَفْسَكَ أِوْ أَنْزَلْتَـهُ فِي كِتَابِكَ، أَوْ عَلَّمْـتَهُ أَحَداً مِنْ خَلْقِـكَ أَوِ اسْتَـأْثَرْتَ بِهِ فِي عِلْمِ الغَيْـبِ عِنْـدَكَ أَنْ تَجْـعَلَ القُرْآنَ رَبِيـعَ قَلْبِـي، وَنورَ صَـدْرِي وجَلَاءَ حُـزْنِي وذَهَابَ هَمِّـي

‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi’

“O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety”

but Allaah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.” (Ahmad 1/391)

 

[Humayara Khan]

how long will this period last. idnt even feel like leaving my house and going anywer outside.

 

[T L]

Salaam Sis

Alhamdulillah you have been given the opportunity for a great education.
I'm very sorry to hear you're struggling and you are feeling extremely down. I hope you're okay sis.

Remember that you are very blessed, God makes it extremely easy for us in every given situation, we're just looking through an incorrect lens. Subhan'Allah how drastically things can change by His will. He only wishes for you to learn sabr, and wishes for you to accept your circumstance and put your trust in Him. Patience does not come naturally for us, "Man was created of haste" (21:37).
He may wish something better for you sis, a greater understanding of yourself, your deen, a chance for you to completely submit to Him and leave it all in His hands.

Take a step back and you'll realise that He's making you experience this because He loves you and wishes for you to become closer to Him
Don't worry sis, insha'Allah it will all be okay. Smile

Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alamin

 

[Humayara Khan]

thank you for your reply.. but sometimes i feel i m being punished for some sin or i hv been deprived of allah's rehmat. i feel stuck in the moment,not being able to move ahead,not being able to forget the past and completely helpless. my entire day goes useless : no productivity ,neither in studies nor in anythng else and i am facing a lot of mental disturbance also.

 

[*charisma*]

i am undergoing a tough and harsh period in my life..such that i am nt able to have a clear view of wer to go and how to move ahead. i am student of msc microbiology. i did bsc in zoology and cleared it with flying colours. i have always scored more than 7 cgpa out of 10 in each semester and topped msc zoology entrance exam. i applied for msc microbiology entrance exam and was selected in the first list. i scored 6.5 cgpa in the frst semester.since the starting of secnd semester i hv been facing a lot of depression. my result has fallen down terribly. i can last in the class in mid sems and i have failed in the end sems with two ATKTs. this is my first ATKT in my entire college life and i dnt knw how to face the situation. i stay depressed even in the college.people look at me and pass comments wich make me more depressed. also m the only muslim in my class or we can say in the entire batch. i am currently living a life without any respect in college. i used to pray tahajjud and watever i hv asked in tahajjud uda i have always got.from lasg few 3-4 days i m praying tahajjud as ramazan are going. but still i dnt know now wat to do. i am in this stationary state from last 6 months. someone pls help.:hmm::Emoji30::Emoji29::Emoji27:

Assalamu Alaikum dear sis,

I was the only Muslimah AND hijabi in my high school, so I can understand if you feel like you don't fit in and that people are judgemental, but don't despair. Mashallah it seems you are very intelligent and people are just trying to bring you down. Don't ever give anyone the power to do that. Feel proud that you're Muslim, and feel grateful about the beautiful blessing of intelligence. May Allah make your work a means for his sake ameen. You aren't doing anything wrong except that you are allowing people to bring you down, and no one has the permission to do that unless you allow them to.

 

[Humayara Khan]

I would really like to know how u managed at your time..

 

[noraina]

Assalamu alaykum,

Sis, I can relate in the sense that I am a Muslim in a place where there are very few Muslims. People have this attitude because they are ignorant and feel threatened by your intelligence and faith in Allah swt. I find when people react negatively to me, it is just reflecting their own insecurities and low self-esteem that when they see someone doing well or who has a purpose in life they feel the need to put that person down and make them miserable.

It can be difficult, particularly as this is a situation you face everyday, but don't allow these people to put you down, there's no need to internalise their thoughts about you because that's not what defines you. You define yourself. Be proud that you are Muslim, it gives you a warm glow from inside that nothing can dampen, you're a Muslimah who answers only to Allah swt and the respect of such people isn't something you want anyway, lol.

Keep up your ibadat and dua, you are there to please Allah swt and educate yourself and gain a career - that is all you are there for so focus on that and zone out what everyone else is saying or doing, because at the end of the day you probably will never see them again once you complete your studies and they should have no importance or say in your life.

 

[Humayara Khan]

Yes you are ryt!! Thankx for the reply.. May allah give me strength to clear out everythng ! Remember me in ur duas.!

 

[*charisma*]

I would really like to know how u managed at your time..

I just think that people who try to bring you down already have a lot of problems in their life that they feel they have to project it on someone else. Alhemdulilah we have Allah, so when we feel sad, angry, hopeless, that's who we turn to. Any hardships we go through, Allah rewards us for it. The people that make you feel bad don't have anything, so let them stay empty by showing you don't care and that happiness comes from within you no matter what those around you try to do to you. And for you my dear, Allah has promised you the entire world and all that is in it x 10 just for your iman inshallah. So who can be sad and worried when Allah promises us this?

 

[T L]

Great advice from everyone masha'Allah!

Noraina is right, you will probably never see those people again in your life. This always helps me when I've been in awful situations, and really awkward situations. Nothing will last forever, this is just one temporary portion of your life. And it's totally true, people are greatly insecure about themselves. They cannot comprehend our conviction in God, and thus react negatively towards us because they can't fill that "hole", which they have but refuse to acknowledge or accept.

Onwards and upwards!

~LV

 

[aminah996]

i stay depressed even in the college.people look at me and pass comments wich make me more depressed. also m the only muslim in my class or we can say in the entire batch. i am currently living a life without any respect in college. i used to pray tahajjud and watever i hv asked in tahajjud uda i have always got.from lasg few 3-4 days i m praying tahajjud as ramazan are going. but still i dnt know now wat to do. i am in this stationary state from last 6 months. someone pls help [\QUOTE]

Sister I also was the only Muslim in the school I went to. I can understand how lonely it must feel when everyone targets you. Especially, when you're different to everyone. Remember you're different to them in a bad way. But you're different to Allah in a beautiful way. Look at the contrast! People always love to bring people down because they want to hurt you. However, as a girl who's trust lies in Allah's hand. Know that Allah is your bodyguard. In Islam every test everything Allah gives us "La yukalifullahu nafsan ilaa wuscaha". Allah does not burden us greater than what he knows that we can tolerate. So remember this. Allah only gives you something that he wants to test you with. Something he wants you to remember that maybe you're not worshipping him enough. Because at times we get too involved with life that we forget to worship Allah enough times. So sometimes in these tests he's giving us is a form of asking us to come back to him. As "Allah guides those whom he loves". So I would pray more, make more dua, I know it's Ramadan and you might be. But just increase the number you make. Another useful advise is make dua when your at your at the peak of happiness because at times we only remember Allah when we are sad and not happy. So it angers him and does as a result makes us lose the happiness. A simple way to show gratitude to Allah would be say Alhamdullilah. It doesn't take a lot of time but you've done it. Even though gratitude to Allah cannot be simple, we should generally show enough appreciation even for the bad things we have. As Alhamdullilah everything comes from Allah at the end of the day. InshaAllah sister that was the advise I could give from my experience. In any way don't take it harshly, that wasn't my aim. InshaAllah this advise is useful to you [emoji4]

 

[greenhill]

Life is a test. It is hard and there is no surety except death reaching us. You know it. But not gone through it as you have said. First point, the more important point to me, Allah is Haqq. Nothing we can do to change that. Only determining where we go. Wasted time and day as you say, and you have fallen further behind, where is that going? A steep hill becomes a huge mountain. That is not going to help. You will despair. So, you either 'buck up' or change subjects, change the learning centre to a more conducive place.. being depressed and sorry for yourself solves nothing. It only makes it worse. Wallowing in self pity is not constructive at all, in fact it is destructive. And you waste large chunks of your time.Keep doing as you could what Allah likes and concentrate on your studies.eace:

 

[Muslim Woman]

Say: "O Ibadee (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)!

despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.


(سورة الزمر, Az-Zumar, Chapter #39, Verse #53)

 

[Arfa]

Dear sis,
It can be a difficult phase when one goes through disappointment from the kind you have mentioned this is about your academics ,Alhdulillah as a Muslima you have the power of supplications ...,one can stay depressed for days but the shorter your sadness if you are praying .SubhanAllah power of prayer is beautiful ,the opposition and isolation you are facing at your college could be your road to bravery ,just breathe and have faith that no one will be able to tease you if you truly believe in yourself.All the best