you started that well by stating two antonyms and then lost me..am I to guess that both are unattractive to you? free will and denying the possibility of free will?
I suppose I could give you my definition and you can tell me if yours is any different.
Free will: The concept that one has an ability to choose his or her own actions which are unconstrained by external or internal influences. In essence, the idea that there is a "causal gap" and a possibility that for every cause, there is more than one event with chance of occurring. This bestows a "choice" upon you and me, and an ability to intervene in the "laws" of nature to bring about a effect that may or may not be desirable. The effect itself is not the concern; it is the existence of a causal gap.
Determinism: the concept that for any event there is an antecedent state of nature, which through the laws of nature, could only result in the occurrence of that event. In essence, it is the idea that a series of causes and effects rule the continuum of time and each state of nature. Chance does not play a role, as the system itself has only one possible state at any given point in time.
Free will cannot take into account any ideals, philosophies, religions, or other external factors which limit your choices. If you choose to create a stone idol, and within a moment realize that your initial intentions conflict with your religion and out of that realization you chose to not create a stone idol, then you do not have free will. There is an external factor which influences your choices.
Free will cannot take into account pain or pleasure, or their varying degrees found in hunger or any of the senses. If you choose to swim across the Amazon River, and due pain or hunger decide to turn back or quit, then you do not have free will. There is an internal factor which influences your choices.
Free will creates chance occurrences, as there is no causal state other than what can be assumed to be a "mind". Determinism does not allow chance occurrences.
What is attractive about free will?
Bill gates has Asperger's syndrome.. I don't necessairly think that makes him cold and heartless or even necessitates an assimilation between him and Teresa.. each brought something different to the world.. that is what we are all here for so we can offer something different and not be clones of each other...
Who will have effectively accomplished more to help the people of this world, Bill Gates or Mother Teresa? It's a simple question. Consider the social and economic factors of the work each has done, and the lasting effects of each.
I'm not questioning the approach, I’m questioning the effectiveness.
What does theology have to do with free will? Yes, people will laugh. Free will is quite often used as a defense for the existence of god. But, the concept of free will is not contingent on the acceptance of any one particular theology.I am not sure what you want explained..it is pretty self-explanatory.. any further I'll have to delve into theology that you don't agree with or even believe in...
I don't have to agree with or believe in theology to understand it, nor do most people understand it despite the fact that they believe in it. Surely you can give me the credit for having an ability to understand, and if it can be shown that I do not, then it is only to my benefit.
I understand that you may see a conversation with me as beneficial to you. Perhaps it is a chance for you to convert a wayward soul, and surely "god" can see that your efforts for the sake of propagating Islam are worthy of some reward. If that's your motive, that’s perfectly fine. Would you find comfort in the fact that this is a small step forward for you for the sake of Allah?
I believe the metaphysical heart and the physiological one are on equal grounds for survival... I have quite a few research articles on death ensuing from what can be absuredly deemed a 'broken heart' I do have a difficult time conciliating the latter with atheism which seems to me very sterile and dealing only with the material... I am not sure what your definitions are of the metphysical or where you draw your info from?
I don’t think my definition of metaphysical would differ from yours.
Courage, honor, a "sense of purpose" and virtue, where do these come from? They are ideas you can comprehend with your brain. A “broken heart” can only come from trust, faith, or belief in an ideal that fails us, and the realization that the very principles by which one lives his/her life are a source of deception.
I've yet to delve into the topic of death from a "broken heart". If you wouldn't mind providing me with a reference, I'd appreciate it.

God is time as he so describes himself in the hadiths I provided plus the other 99 attributes he ascribes to himself in his names... for instance when we say God is 'Ar-rahman' ( the merciful) it doesn't mean that is all he is he is also the other 98 raheem, ra'oof , Jabar etc etc etc.. but it is a part of what he is and an attribute along with the others...
Some basic foundations in religion would have to be established and agreed upon in order for us to have this conversation.. it is a very ancillary topic and not the main objective...
Okay, it was your question. If you choose to continue I'll certainly reply.
That is another thing I don't understand.. technically none of us is guranteed another second.. My brother's neighbor in Long Island just died last tuesday.. a man full of youth anf vigor, works out, jogs every morning, just adopted another chinese girl a few months ago.. you'd think he'd have anoter 50 years under his belt, walks his two cuties to the bus stop every morining and says hello to everyone, has an amazing cheerful disposition... Yet and I kid you not, he died choking on a chicken bone... a completely senseless and preventable death, yet it was his time to go.. I know I digress but I just can't reconcile why anyone who knows of the fragility of life would want to spend it on a forum in a meaningless exchange such as this when he should be eating life up?
It's simple. It is because I know how fragile life is that I seek the answers to these questions. Would god love me more if I had remained passive and ignorant, or if I had at least made the attempt to understand life and my role? Your god, self proclaimed to be omniscient and benevolent, will surely see that this is my jihad. If I am not deserving of a reward for my intentions, at the very least I am not the greatest of sinners. I can't imagine a punishment for making the attempt.
your parents have much more experience with life than you do and while you might look down at them for lacking the intellect or the desire to seek answers outside the confines of their culture that you possess, they still have important lessons to share with you and you must consider what they say.
instead of saying to them that you are an atheist and you know such and such things... it would be better to tell them you have questions, challenges and differences in what you know and have learned. talk to them about these things and keep an open mind, ask for advice and input instead of demanding they accept everything you say as the final word. and perhaps you can learn from this experience too
Hola Jayda,
Convengo con usted.

I agree with you, and was thinking of the same thing myself. In order to be accepted I need to make an approach that does not demand an immediate action on their part. If they come to realize gradually that I/we may have irreconcilable differences, then it might make things easier for everyone.
I am open changes if they are necessary. Life would become quite dull and boring if I could not learn anything new. As for the lessons of my parents, I'm sure they would love to help me if I sought their advice. One must keep in mind that there will be a bias to that advice, and it would not be unexpected because there is a level of emotional attachment.
Gracias hermana y buena suerte!