Divorce in Bangladesh Skyrocketing Fast

CuriousonTruth said:
most divorces are because of they still want to keep close relations with ex-boyfriends, while the husband is some rich guy their parents got for arranged marriage, so the marriages usually crash within 1 year.

It happened in my family as well. Which makes me wonder why families spend so much money and wealth for the wedding ceremony (and related events).
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That is 100% true. Besides if in the relationship the wife want to end barking orders or have share in order decisions and remove the concept the husband is the one who says the final say in matters I believe wives and her families should be the one helping in mahr too and dowry. I the husband come to buy you a ring, a jewelry to make you happy and give you dowry you in return come buy me a gift too. Maybe something more valuable than a tie or pants please, some with equal value as that ring or jewelry...maybe an expensive car or a computer or something that makes me happy and that is my dowry...or even give it to me as cash value (I can take it and put an investment on it to multiply that money more) and her family help in the expensive of wedding too 50/50. Now in relationship we make a deal...one week the wife is the leader she makes all the decision making, I rub her feet and obey her. Next week, I make all the decision making and she rubs my feet and she obeys me. Now we have equality..the very equality that women Muslim and non-Muslim alike seek. In terms of custodial rights should marriage the more fitting parent have full custody of the child and the other visit the child. In some cases that more fitting parent is the father...so even if the mother breastfed that child and the child is 2 years old and divorce happens and I am more fitting parent...I have full custody of the child. I take the child where ever I want, leave the country if must and it is the responsibility of the mother to follow me where ever I go. The one who loses custodial rights of the child is the one who pays child support until the child grows into adulthood. Now you have equality. There should be research to determine why one gender is skewed over the other when it comes to custodial rights and determine the cause and fix it so 50/50 remain intact. We have now what we call gender equality in family.
 
xboxisdead said:
I don't think women respect white-knight anymore. I think majority of them find it offensive as they think the white-knight demeans them. It goes against the concept of equality and women liberation and empowerment.
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Not exactly, like everything else women have contradictory view points. Sometimes they criticize men for "mansplaning" and "patronizing" while 10 minutes later complaining about "where did all the chivalrous men go".

Now this contradictory nature of women is ancient, and nothing to do with modern day culture. But when they apply it in modern times it produces weird results, like the one I mentioned. Another such example is women complaining about cheating and emotionally abusive men online, but sleeping with them offline.
 
xboxisdead said:
That is 100% true. Besides if in the relationship the wife want to end barking orders or have share in order decisions and remove the concept the husband is the one who says the final say in matters I believe wives and her families should be the one helping in mahr too and dowry. I the husband come to buy you a ring, a jewelry to make you happy and give you dowry you in return come buy me a gift too. Maybe something more valuable than a tie or pants please, some with equal value as that ring or jewelry...maybe an expensive car or a computer or something that makes me happy and that is my dowry...or even give it to me as cash value (I can take it and put an investment on it to multiply that money more) and her family help in the expensive of wedding too 50/50. Now in relationship we make a deal...one week the wife is the leader she makes all the decision making, I rub her feet and obey her. Next week, I make all the decision making and she rubs my feet and she obeys me. Now we have equality..the very equality that women Muslim and non-Muslim alike seek. In terms of custodial rights should marriage the more fitting parent have full custody of the child and the other visit the child. In some cases that more fitting parent is the father...so even if the mother breastfed that child and the child is 2 years old and divorce happens and I am more fitting parent...I have full custody of the child. I take the child where ever I want, leave the country if must and it is the responsibility of the mother to follow me where ever I go. The one who loses custodial rights of the child is the one who pays child support until the child grows into adulthood. Now you have equality. There should be research to determine why one gender is skewed over the other when it comes to custodial rights and determine the cause and fix it so 50/50 remain intact. We have now what we call gender equality in family.
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I'm not just talking about "mahr", in South Asian weddings, that's only a small part of the overall costs. Even in middle class families they spend A LOT on wedding ceremonies (excluding Mahr) and related ceremonies.
Which goes back to my point of how ludicrous marriage ceremonies are.

We need a new culture in marriage: marriage should only fulfill legal and religious requirements, and then if it works for 3 years we can have a bog wedding.
 
very well said. That is why a woman loves her husband more - a commitment that holds the marriage together.
 

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