[wildatheart]

[h=1]My religious teacher who is Muslim said marriage = half a deen only for men??[/h] A woman doesn't need to get married to get half a deen??

 

[ardianto]

With who those men get married if not with women.

Your teacher was focus on few ayaah and hadith that for men and forgot other ayaah and hadith that for men and women.

 

[Abu.Yusuf]

I have been asking a few married brother about the meaning of this Hadeeth, what exactly does it mean?
maybe then you can get you answer by seeing if the reasoning can be applied to both men and women

 

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext:


ISLAM teaches that marriage is "half of religion".

Ref As in above: pls where is the source of this statement thats in which of the book can we see this statement ( marriage is "half of religion").and how authentic is it in the religion of islam note that even if a statement is so common everywhere it does not makes it genuine as long as is not the teachin of the prophet.
PLs answer or explain

Answer:

Marriage is half of deen

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

At-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the ‘deen’; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."

Respected sister in Islam, it is indeed related in the records of hadith that the Messenger of Allah (saws) declared that “when a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his ‘deen’.” This hadith is narrated by Hadrat Anas ibn Malik (r.a.) who served the Prophet (saws) as his servant in his (saw’s) house for ten years and is related by At-Tirmidhi.

The absolute majority of the scholars in Islam accept this hadith as authentic and ‘sahih’. And Allah Alone Knows Best.

Respected sister, such is the enormity of the trial of man regarding his natural appetite and temptation to cohabit with the opposite gender, and because Islam has made marriage the only lawful way to fulfill this natural appetite of man…..the Messenger of Allah (saws), signifying the enormity of this period of trial deemed that when a man marries he has fulfilled half of his deen! But what is rarely quoted and/or followed is the latter part of the hadith which is equally important and prodound: ‘…….so let his fear Allah regarding the remaining half’.”

Other than merely fulfilling one’s natural appetite for sex, the hadith encourages the believers towards marriage which is the basic foundation stone upon which the ties of kinship and families and righteous societies are built.

One only has to take a cursory look at the so-called ‘modern-but-ungodly’ societies where it is considered legal for two consenting adults to cohabit out of marriage, and the absolute and utter disaster it has created!!!! Broken homes, single parents, unclaimed children, broken ties of kinship, and a society of promiscuity unlimited! This one act is enough to destroy everything that is needed to build a sound family structure and a righteous society!

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan






Source: http://www.islamhelpline.com/node/8512

 

[Who Am I?]

Ah, this again. :hmm:

I remember shortly after I said my shahada, I had a fair few brothers talk to me about getting married because it "is half of our deen". I remember being angry and offended at that. I felt like they were telling me that I was somehow incomplete without a woman, and I resented that.

Anyway, short story is that I understand it more now that I have a woman of my own.

I still don't know about it being half of the deen though. Maybe 1/3? ;D

 

[marwen]

I still don't know about it being half of the deen though. Maybe 1/3?

yeah, I'm confused about the exact number too. Sometimes it's 1/2, sometimes -1/2, etc.

 

[Scimitar]

Maybe 1/3?

Wait til you're married... you'll change that to 2/3rds... (not that i'd know coz I never been married before. But some brothers have spoken about it)

Scimi

 

[Who Am I?]

Wait til you're married... you'll change that to 2/3rds... (not that i'd know coz I never been married before. But some brothers have spoken about it)

Scimi

Oh, I have some married friends, both Muslim and non-Muslim, and they have told me some stories. :hmm:

 

[Scimitar]

All for the sake of halving our deen...

...it has benefits but we have to discover those in our own time.

Personally, I can't wait to get married and have little Scimitars (Daggers) running around the house. That'll be really nice insha-Allah.

Scimi

 

[CosmicPathos]

lol. you seem happy, good to see that.

 

[Futuwwa]

I still don't know about it being half of the deen though. Maybe 1/3? ;D

I call you and raise to 3/8 ;D

 

[Scimitar]

I fold... loool


Scimi

 

[ardianto]

I have been asking a few married brother about the meaning of this Hadeeth, what exactly does it mean?

The family is the smallest unit of society, but this is actually the most important unit in the Muslim community.

In a family, a child will begin to learn about Islam and learn to be a dutiful child to the parents. In a family, a woman will learn to be a sholihah (pious) wife and a good mother to her children. In a family, a man will learn to be a husband and father who instilled values ​​of Islam to his wife and children, and lead them in the way of Allah. There is a big responsibility in building a Muslim family.

Are you able to bear the responsibility to lead this smallest unit in Muslim society to walk on the way of Allah?. If you are able, then get married. And this means you have reached the half-way to be a saleh (pious) Muslim. And you only have to travel half again by becoming a husband (and father) who lead your family to walk on the way of Allah.

But remember, if you just get married, but never tried to become a leader in the family who guide your family to walk on the way of Allah, then you reach only halfway, and not finish you journey. Or in another word, you get only half of the deen, not full deen.

This is why, after said "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the ‘deen", Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam continued with "so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half". Half is not enough, we should try to get full.

We cannot focus only to "half of the deen", but we must notice the whole words of this hadith.