AnonymousPoster
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I am having alot of trouble lately. My husband has an addiction to weed. Heis smoking constantly. From the time he wakes up to right before he falls asleep he is smoking. He can't seem to go more than 30 mins without smoking.
Its causing a lot of problems, but the major ones are:
he can't do his prayers because he is stoned.
he can't support us, because he is spending $40 a day on weed
he is a very different person when he is stoned
his coughing is getting worse, he throws up several times a day from coughing,it sounds so painful
Its hard living with him when he is constantly stoned, constantly smoking. I often leave the room for hours at a time so I don't have to smell it. He is well aware of how I feel about it. I hate it, I've tried reasoning with him, telling how bad it is for him, how bad it is for me.
He get upset with me if I ever mention it, and is unhappy that i spend so much time away from him (in another room).
Before I met him, before I became a Muslim, i used to smoke also. I'm aware of how it affects a person, and I thank Allah that when I found Islam it was all too easy (hamdul'Allah) to put weed behind me, and even easier to put alchol behind me too. But sometimes it's diffictult to be around it without thinking about doing it to. I have been strong (hamdul'Allah) and haven't given in to the stray thoughts of doing it. (I've had nightmares of starting again and being so terrified that when i wake up and find that I didn't I'm so happy, only to see him still sitting with the weed by HIS side)
He is still smoking alot,and from the sound of it, he has no plans to ever stop.
He reasons that he has had a hard life, and he is entited to do this, so he can relax. I know his life wasn't easy, but from all that he has told me, plenty of other people have had it a whole lot worse. And even if it really was super hard, that shouldn't give him an excuse to sin?
He says he doesn't think it is a sin to smoke weed, even though in definatly effects his mind, takes away all his motivation, make him forgetful, spiteful and mean.
so,..... what can I do. I want to help him. I really do
Its causing a lot of problems, but the major ones are:
he can't do his prayers because he is stoned.
he can't support us, because he is spending $40 a day on weed
he is a very different person when he is stoned
his coughing is getting worse, he throws up several times a day from coughing,it sounds so painful
Its hard living with him when he is constantly stoned, constantly smoking. I often leave the room for hours at a time so I don't have to smell it. He is well aware of how I feel about it. I hate it, I've tried reasoning with him, telling how bad it is for him, how bad it is for me.
He get upset with me if I ever mention it, and is unhappy that i spend so much time away from him (in another room).
Before I met him, before I became a Muslim, i used to smoke also. I'm aware of how it affects a person, and I thank Allah that when I found Islam it was all too easy (hamdul'Allah) to put weed behind me, and even easier to put alchol behind me too. But sometimes it's diffictult to be around it without thinking about doing it to. I have been strong (hamdul'Allah) and haven't given in to the stray thoughts of doing it. (I've had nightmares of starting again and being so terrified that when i wake up and find that I didn't I'm so happy, only to see him still sitting with the weed by HIS side)
He is still smoking alot,and from the sound of it, he has no plans to ever stop.
He reasons that he has had a hard life, and he is entited to do this, so he can relax. I know his life wasn't easy, but from all that he has told me, plenty of other people have had it a whole lot worse. And even if it really was super hard, that shouldn't give him an excuse to sin?
He says he doesn't think it is a sin to smoke weed, even though in definatly effects his mind, takes away all his motivation, make him forgetful, spiteful and mean.
so,..... what can I do. I want to help him. I really do
