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Some people can fall out of love so quickly depends how deep u fall - some peopel move on very quickly which can hurt the other person. But thats life

Love can be the best things that can happen to u - will make u want to carry on with life

Love can be the worst thing that can happen - as once its over it can destroy you into peice in seconds

personally i hate love - been hurt once before took me forever to get over it still am tryin to move on.
 
one of my non-muslim friends back in school (this is when we was 15) said he fell in love loooaaadsa times and he loves it. So he'll easily fall inlove again.


lol i guess all you gotta do is find someone you find attractive who you connect with, and its eeeaaassyyy. its why we stay away from non-mahrams, waaay too complicated !


Assalamu Alaikum
 
The answer isn't that straight forward.. Ultimately it depends on the circumstances and the person. If the conditions are right, a person can fall in love easily because love is like a seed which in the right conditions will sprout quickly and flourish. But if the conditions change even when the love has grown stronger, it will still die as quickly.. Personally for me, I'd fall out of love before you can blink your eye if the person I loved apostates or utters blasphemous words for Allah.

Also, if someone cheats on you, the love is likely to die quicker than if you are forced to be separated in other ways. So there are contributing factors which determine what happens and how. But I don't think anyone hopping about like a frog from one person to another and claiming to love them all knows what love is.
 
people can fall out of love for many a reason depends on how one treats eachother for example a husband might be doing so many things on his wives back and she finds out about it not once but twice or three times that would cause resentment in the heart of the wife if happening all the time and a persons heart can easily turn black for that person.

we are all human and can only take so much how ever others are different and more forgiving about it but love can fade easily in these circumstances its true... suddenly your watching your spouse like this evil person and people want to believe this is black magic been done but its not. humans do a good job of destroying a marriage by themselves
 
May Allah bless you all for your replies.

If your deeply in love with someone and the other person felt the same way, can they forget about you just like that if we were forced to seperate?
 
no it would not be easy to forget that person if you were forced to separate it would be horrible to experience it could possibly take years to get over when you really love some one
 
i read somewhere ... that however long you knew that person (you fell in love with), it would take half the time to get over them completely.
 
anonymous said:
Can people fall in and out of love easily?
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ok after reading the other replies i thought id comment for what its worth.

a person who falls 'in and out of love' really easily doesnt actually fall in love. its a strong attraction/maybe sexually fuelled like the example bro fighting4iman gave:

one of my non-muslim friends back in school (this is when we was 15) said he fell in love loooaaadsa times and he loves it. So he'll easily fall inlove again.
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as for your comment here:
If your deeply in love with someone and the other person felt the same way, can they forget about you just like that if we were forced to seperate?
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if the person truly loved you they will never actually forget you even if they have moved on with their lives.
 
love doesnt exist until after marriage finito! and anything before is hype
 
:sl: Were these two responses necessary to use under the anon account? Wasn't there a rule about it? ^o)

AnonymousGender said:
Some people can fall out of love so quickly depends how deep u fall - some peopel move on very quickly which can hurt the other person. But thats life

Love can be the best things that can happen to u - will make u want to carry on with life

Love can be the worst thing that can happen - as once its over it can destroy you into peice in seconds

personally i hate love - been hurt once before took me forever to get over it still am tryin to move on.
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AnonymousGender said:
love sucks
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As for the original anon's question, falling in and out of love is possible. Falling out of love is much harder than falling in love though, and it depends in which context you're talking about. If you nurture it properly, then the end result will be good insha'Allaah.

As for lovers being forced to separate and whether or not there love will stay, well true love stands the test of time. You've just gotta rely on Allaah and be obedient. Never lose sight of why you're really here, cause sometimes love will take over so much so that they stop being obedient to Allaah. And never lose hope inshaAllaah. If you give up something fisabililah, Allaah will replace it with something better inshaAllaah.
 
effects of love = limiting attraction to only one.

though not every one is overly selfish , people move on after a while.
 
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Scents of Jannah said:
The answer isn't that straight forward.. Ultimately it depends on the circumstances and the person. If the conditions are right, a person can fall in love easily because love is like a seed which in the right conditions will sprout quickly and flourish. But if the conditions change even when the love has grown stronger, it will still die as quickly.. Personally for me, I'd fall out of love before you can blink your eye if the person I loved apostates or utters blasphemous words for Allah.

Also, if someone cheats on you, the love is likely to die quicker than if you are forced to be separated in other ways. So there are contributing factors which determine what happens and how. But I don't think anyone hopping about like a frog from one person to another and claiming to love them all knows what love is.
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i whole heartedly agree with that.

i know for me personally, i could totally be head over heels for someone (which of course will only happen after marriage :shade but at the same time i know that if that person was to do something i completed hated, eg cheat on me, all those feelings would be put off in a sec. yes, i would be upset, no doubt, but that would revolve more around the fact that someone i respected and who i thought i could trust, has totally back stabbed me, so all that negative stuff he may do would "unravel" all the positive things i had about him in next to no time at all...


btw, i dont mean to be nosey here, but why cant you get married to this person? why are you forced apart? i just ask, because if you are both interested with one another, why cant it go any further?
anonymous said:
Can people fall in and out of love easily?
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i know this will sound depressing but in all honesty i really and truly believe that if Allah, in whose hearts our hands in, can make us fall madly in love with someone, then He, just as easily can remove that love and replace it. regardless of how deeply we fall.


some people move on easily, some people dont and i think it may depend on how deep their feelings/interaction was...but ultimately it's definatley up to allah.

i know this is side tracked a little, but its more as a naseeha. i think the reason why people who are in love get hurt when the other moves on has more to do with the fact that they get hurt and confused...you know,you see the one who has moved on knows what they want and knows what they are after in life, whereas the one who is left behind, is confused and hurt and are left with a painful scar opened for it to continue bleeding. as opposed to the other person, they have to scar to feel that hurt. so i think that's where the hurt stems from more than anything.
 
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