Thats true. I just find those that get into haram relationships so easy for them and the good onees struggle
Assalaamu Alaikum,
My sister we must never allow our enemy shaythan to beautify any evil in our eyes:
“...And Satan made attractive to them that which they were doing.”[Qur’an 6:43]
This is one of his biggest deceptions that he makes sin seem attractive, desirable and acceptable which only results in the anger and displeasure of Allah.
It may seem to us from an outsiders perspective that such people are happy and content but none of us know what they really go through in their relationships and marriages. In fact most of those who have such relationships will tell you that it mostly results in heartache and pain as it is completely devoid of peace and blessings from Allah.
Therefore we must never envy anyone that acquires or does anything in a manner that is displeasing to Allah. We must also never think of getting into a pre marital relationship as a way to find a partner as the vast majority of such relationships do not even get to marriage and most will result in much pain and hurt especially with so many girls being used, abused and discarded in such relationships as the guy promises them marriage but only wants to fulfill and satisfy his selfish lower desirea. Even if a few do get to marriage then many problems still result from the fact that the two disobeyed Allah in having a pre marital relationship before marriage.
Therefore we must ensure that whatever we pursue in our lives, that it is in a way that is pleasing to Allah and not in a way that results in his anger or wrath. That way we will find much peace, blessings and contentment in such pursuits.
So my sister keep trying to look for a potential suitor exploring all the permissable avenues and at the same time ensure that your Father being your Wali is present in all your interactions. That way you safeguard yourself in terms of your honour and safety as well as from sin. This is also the best way to filter out the time wasters and predators who under the guise of looking for marriage go around looking for easy and vulnerable pickings.
Know that it can take time sister. However you must patiently persevere. After all this when you do eventually find the one inshaAllah then you will appreciate them much more knowing the time and effort you went through to find a partner. Allah is the matchmaker and he certainly has someone for you InshaAllah so do not allow your enemy shaythan to get you down and to make you lose hope.
After making effort and patiently persevering in exploring all the permissable avenues then put all your faith, trust, hopes and reliance in Allah. Ask of him in your Dua's sincerely to help you find a good pious partner especially during the latter part of the night at Tahajjud time. Know that he hears your every call but he is testing your patience and resolve.
Nothing good in this life is meant to come by so easy otherwise what is the point of life if we are not to be tested in our patience and resolve. However the end result will be good insha'Allah especially for those who patiently persevered as long as we do not question his wisdom and say "why"? If we did then let us repent for it and know that everything happens by his will.
May Allah make it easy for you and all those looking for marriage and enable you to find good, compatible and pious partners with whom you can strive together on the journey to the Hereafter. Ameen
