feeling reli low n down..

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Dear Sister SAira,

I feel very close to u myself. When I was a teenager I had all such problems n all such thoughts. I was a good muslim, practising Islam n praying until my bad luck n il fate took me to a terrible place. I got engaged to a wonderful man n in times when I was away from men in all ways , he came into my life with so much love. But our parents clashed n our engament broke. I was in a terrible condition. I'd always think why this happened to me when I am a good muslim. Whereas my cousins who have boy friends n all r living a happy life. I even when to self destruction n tried to become evil. But I ended up only hurting myself even more n badly. I revolted against myparents n blamed them for the unhappiness in my life. etc etc etc etc

Anything I say will not give u any support mentally or physically. U need a good friend by ur side. A friend that can guide u n be with u in ur bad times. A friend who can explain to u why this is happening n that u need to be patience. Anything I might say, will disappear with time. But a friend remains with u. The negative point of this is that, ppl like us often don't have a friend to share. And if we do they leave us alone in times of trouble.

One of our sisters has lended u a hearing shoulder. I hope she can console u. But abt everything u have said let me tell u this.

Allah takes our exam, He tries those whom He loves most. When ppl used to say this to me I didn't understand, I doubt u can in ur circumstances. Just take a good friend, if u find none, try to find one in ur mother. She will pray for u n give u guidance as Allah has placed in this world for us an angel in the form of our Mothers, who can guide us n take care of us at all times.

May Allah Bless u n forgive u
 
iv got so much locked up inside of me..cant talk to no one or nothing so guess this cud be a way..writing it down..

I think its a good idea to keep a journal, you will feel much better writing everything down. Afterwards if you want just rip it and chuck it away.

will Allah stil forgiv me??

Inshallah keep praying and ask for forgiveness. Allah SWT is the most merciful.

im 19 and at uni..most of my friends wear hijab too..but most have boyfrends..that makes things worse for me cos sumtimes i think i want one..thy make it reli hard for me. uni life is hard too all these ppl around me doin this n that. u prob say hang out with differnt ppl..but its hard when these ppl r in my class every single day. cant just blank them.

I understand when you become friends with a group of people, it does become hard to avoid them especially as you see them everyday. I think you should just keep it on a Uni level, just go to your lectures and then go home straight after. The less you socialise with them the better and when they talk to you just try to keep talking about uni work to them.

im also looking for a job but no1 wants to give me one..but my friend got one the other day and shes got a boyfrend n does bad stuff and wears hijab..hmm i dno

Your feeling like good things happen to bad people but thats not the case. A problem and calamity is a blessing sister. We get a chance to earn reward from our trials by keeping on praying and having patience. Allah swt tests those he loves.

i dont even pray salah anymre. look im such a bad person!! wts the point in living any more. i want to i reli do..i wana read quran more do my salah etc etc but i gues i js listn to shaytaan.. is ther any point in living anymore.. im such a bad person no wonder i hate my life and no wonder everything is goin bad 4 me.

Only you can change that, just say im going to shame the devil today and pray. Be strong i know its hard but seek refuge in Allah swt from these whispers.

What is happening to your friend is very sad, May Allah SWT make her better. Ameen. This is what was written and Allah SWT does things for the best. Just be there for her as much as you can and its certainly not your fault so don't blame yourself.

You can try to seek solace in different things but at the end of the day its only Allah SWT that can help you. Prayer is the best medicine and cure. You will find peace eventually inshallah by praying and seeking Allah's pleasure.

I hope you get better sister, May Allah swt ease your suffering. Ameen.
 
jazakAllah ppl so much..iv started reading salah now n feel mch better..hpefuly i stik to it n Allah forgives me
 
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Here's a dua' from the Sunnah sister:


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Allahumma inni 'a'udhubika minal hammi walhuzni, Wal'ajzi walkasali, walbukhli waljubni, Wa dal'id-daiyni wa ghalabatir-rajal

‘O Allaah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men.’

Sahih al-Bukhari, 7/158


 Once, they came to Abu ad-Darda' while he was in the mosque, saying to him: "O Abu ad-Darda'! Your house has been burned down!" He replied: "By Allah, it has not been burned down." They said: "It has been burned down!" He replied: "By Allah, it has not been burned down." They went to see that the fire had consumed everything in the area, and had stopped right at Abu ad-Darda''s house, and he did not even get up to go see for himself. They came back and asked him: "What drove you to insist that it had not been burned down?" He replied: "The Messenger of Allah had taught me some words that, if I say them, I will not be stricken with any harm," - he is secure! - "'O Allah, I seek refuge with You from sadness and grief, and I seek refuge with You from inability and laziness, and I seek refuge with You from cowardliness and stinginess, and I seek refuge with You from being overpowered by debts and men,' so, I made this supplication." In regards to this same supplication, Abu Umamah narrated: "I was sitting in the mosque, when the Messenger of Allah asked me: "What is wrong, Abu Umamah?" I replied: "I am in distress because of a debt that I owe." The Prophet then told me: "Supplicate with these words ('O Allah, I seek refuge with You from sadness and grief...')." So, I supplicated with these words, and Allah removed my distress, and paid off my debt."
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Asalamu alaikum,

I agree with all of these comments, but I had one question. I don't intend to be offensive in asking this, but I don't know and just want to learn. The original poster mentioned trying to avoid talking to members of the opposite sex. As a student in the university, it is impossible to completely stop talking to members of the opposite sex. When does it become improper? If this has already been discussed, im sorry but please lead me to the proper thread. Also, I have never grown up around many muslims, so many of my close friends are non-Muslims. They are really good people at heart, but I know that despite my talking about Islam to them, they will never convert. Is it wrong to continue being friends with them? They have been very supportive and overall, very good friends, but I'm wondering if associating with non-Muslims this closely is haraam. Thank you
 

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