finding it very hard pleaseeeeeee helppppp

with the way you convey yourself and ur proposal.
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proposal?!not gona hapen sister-these things dnt hapen in m culture
nice advize sis maidah thankyou
any other advize pleez?
 
anonymous said:
proposal?!not gona hapen sister-these things dnt hapen in m culture
nice advize sis maidah thankyou
any other advize pleez?
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is it also in ur culture to write in this text u call english? ive never met anyone more verbally aggressive than you...please relax. im guessing that you are still in ur teens and think ur all 'cool' so im gonna leave u to it...

respect comes with our religion...if you cannot find it in urself to respect the advice given by individials, then maybe you shouldnt interfere at all.

its ones like you who make it hard for people to help one another. you cant cut out people thoughts coz u think it can never happen...ALLAH CAN BREAK THOSE STUPID CULTURES...im trying to give the girl RATIONAL HOPE.

im going over board? i need to relax? maybe i do. but the signification you provide me with, expecially when perceived in retrospect and futuristically, the state of our muslims frightens me. the divide is always the same, just in different contexts and mediums.

thank you for your input. and i retire, knowing that my efforts were shattered by the satement "proposal?!not gona hapen sister-these things dnt hapen in m culture"

im sorri sis anon...acording to sis anon2, you have no hope with thsi guy...it is against ur culture, you will never marry out of love...never propose anything to ur parnets.why not just die alone and miserable. maybe that would work better in ur culture.

i hope that fits ur criteria for advice anon2.

that is all.
wassalam.
 
acording to sis anon2, you have no hope with thsi guy...it is against ur culture, you will never marry out of love...never propose anything to ur parnets.why not just die alone and miserable. maybe that would work better in ur culture.
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How very rude sister. Have some respect for sister anonymous. She might be going through a really hard time right now, and she needs the support of her sisters in Islam.

Sister Anonymous, I understand most teenagres go through this phase. I have only a couple of points which I intend to put across to you:

1) Respect your parents wishes, as Jannah lies underneath the feet of your mother.

2) If you think your cousin feels the same way, then I would advise you to ask a mehram to talk to him, maybe your father does not understand, but your brother or uncle?

I will not say 'move on' because I think you've heard that plenty of times from other people. Its really easy to say, but really hard to do, even if you have 'sky high' Imaan.

Lastly, pray to Allah swt that he helps you and guides you the right way.

I hope that helpd ukhtee.
 
All really good advice here. All that i can input is that we all fall for someone one time or another. We are humans at the end of the day but it is how we act upon our feelings which matters at the end of the day. If your mother has already said no then it will just get harder for you over time. Keep praying and you soon will be able to move on too. Inshallah.
 
Muj4h1d4 said:
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How very rude sister. Have some respect for sister anonymous. She might be going through a really hard time right now, and she needs the support of her sisters in Islam.

Sister Anonymous, I understand most teenagres go through this phase. I have only a couple of points which I intend to put across to you:

1) Respect your parents wishes, as Jannah lies underneath the feet of your mother.

2) If you think your cousin feels the same way, then I would advise you to ask a mehram to talk to him, maybe your father does not understand, but your brother or uncle?

I will not say 'move on' because I think you've heard that plenty of times from other people. Its really easy to say, but really hard to do, even if you have 'sky high' Imaan.

Lastly, pray to Allah swt that he helps you and guides you the right way.

I hope that helpd ukhtee.
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i dnt think uve quite got the picture..i am supporting her and satiring other anons around here.
 
seriously lol, the root of all evil is love for the dunya.

loving some dude is part of love for the dunya.

especially before marriage, dudes n dudettes i say you just stick to loving Allah... and those he recommends you to love :D.



stay away from that which causes you fitnah, music etc etc, quran will help a LOT



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i donot love dunyaa bt i love him-i dont care about dunyaa-i want him in my lfe-iwant to make him more practizing-inshallah-HELP
 
:salamext:

If you love someone before you actually became 'practising', as I've learnt from other sisters, it is not that easy to let go.

Subhan'Allah just try and put yourself in her position. She wants to try and make him more practising, but she fears her Lord at the same time that she does not commit anything indecent.

Masha'Allah. Sister you are in my du'as always. May Allah help you. Ameen.
 
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Just remain patient for a while.. i know it is hard, but if you remain patient and place your trust in Allaah - He may find a way for you from ways you never expected. Loads of things that happen in a persons life change the way the 'world goes round' and the family makes a decision which couldn't have ever happened or thought of just a few months back.

Patience.. and dua'. Because whether one places their trust in Allaah or not, they still don't have any choice except to remain patient. And a beautiful patience is to remain in a state of taqwa while you are facing a calamity, to the extent where people don't even know you're facing a hardship. Thats how much trust you've placed in your Lord, because you know that without a doubt - He will only do what is good for you, since He loves you more than your mother loves you, the Most Wise, the Best of Providers.
 
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Some good advice bro Fi Sabilillah! Insha'Allah Allâh will help her and guide her on the right path! Ameen!
 

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