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I plan on adopting a kid and to say only adopt a muslim child, well is silly, being that most likely the child would be young or an infant you can certainly raise him or her to be muslim. I think if a person adopts it should be from a country that is in very bad shape and the childs religion from birth should play no role because i see it as irrelevant when it comes to which child is most needy. Of course it can turn out that he kid will be from a islamic country, but i still do not see the relevance. I see it as a good deed no matter where are whom you adopt from. And as for foster parent that usually can only be done with a child from your own country like the foster care system in the united states, but you must know that foster and adoption are not the same, Foster care is a horrible business the kids go from one home to the next all their lives unless someone permantely adopts them, many crack heads foster chidlren for money that live in the most gross ghettos and the kids are abused here in the united states. The best way to go is foster to adoption or straight to adoption, dont play the foster game with a childs life.
 
Salam,

Foster children need people who understand where they have been and what has happened to them.

Many agencies especially the ones governed by the state conduct classes for prospective foster parents.

Children who come from the "system" demonstrate emotional stability and rejection.

If you're not ready to genuinely care for these children and undergo intensive training, fostering is probably not for you.

If you do it right, you will be handsomely rewarded by Allah and by the child whom you take in. Trust me, saving one's child life from misery, is worth more than anything that you could ever imagine in this world.
 
There is a hadith about the prophet saw saying to foster children as its such a great deed n that whoever fosters a child will be like this with him on the day of judgement n he put his index n middle finger together but i cant seem to find the hadith, inshallah will post it wen i find it or if some one else has it then post it please.
 
Jazakallah, I knwo what hadith you are talking about, it is a beautiful hadith. Recently the LI forum had a sponsorship for an orphan.
 
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There is a hadith about the prophet saw saying to foster children as its such a great deed n that whoever fosters a child will be like this with him on the day of judgement n he put his index n middle finger together but i cant seem to find the hadith, inshallah will post it wen i find it or if some one else has it then post it please.
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It was narrated that Sahl ibn Sa’d said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I and the one who sponsors an orphan will be like this in Paradise” – and he gestured with his index and middle fingers, holding them slightly apart.
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4998)

 
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I've thought of becoming a foster parent but think my younger children would have difficulty when the time came for the foster children to reuinite with their families.
 
Since i was small i always wanted to adopt or foster, i think i still may inshaAllah..., but of course after my education and all that..i think its a lovely idea, especially now theres so many parentless kids, from all the wars tsunamis and such....they need us..
 
Or what some people do is adopt children when all the biological kids are married and have moved away from home.
 
I plan to foster a child inshaAllah so I can see if my husband and I want to be parents. Also, I love China's 1 child law, even though the limit could be set to 2 at most. The world is overpopulated as it is and has reached its carrying capacity, so why add to the problem by having your own children instead of fostering and/or adopting?
 
Sister, the One Child policy implemented in India and China has caused multiple humanitarian problems. Billions of dollars from the U.S. support the millions of abortions that happen in these countries, astaghfirallah. It is often the girls who are aborted and the boys kept. This has created a major shift of gender populations, it has pushed men to homosexuality; this form of sexuality has also become prevalent in the armies. Parents are forced to receive permission to have a child of their own, if they have more than one or two kids, it cause deeper problems and mental chaos for the family. They are pressured by the government and the doctors to have abortions, if they choose to keep the "unwanted" child they will be forced to pay heavy fines, etc.

The population of the world has always been increasing and mulitiplying since the day of Adam. Poverty, disease, etc. has always existed and will always exist no matter the number of human being on this planet Earth. God has never made a strict world of how many people are allowed to live and who should die. This is not in our hands. Let people die naturally from the causes around them.
 
Ok, if they are having more children..then it's their fault because they know the law! Use condoms or birth control pills for goodness sake!
 
Ok, if they are having more children..then it's their fault because they know the law! Use condoms or birth control pills for goodness sake!
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most people dnt choose to get pregnant, these things are in Allah swts hands, remember, he ses in the quran that all he needs to do is say "be" and it is. ppl can use all sorts of contraception and still get pregnant, are u saying its their fault.

also please sister remember that if a child is born it was meant to be born Allah swt wrote a life for it so u cant condem the parents because this its Allahs will.
 
But at the same point, many people keep choosing to try and get pregnant. There is no need for anyone to have 10 kids unless they have a huge farm. I know Allah swt chooses who gets pregnant and when, but as humans we also choose to have sex and try for children.
 
But at the same point, many people keep choosing to try and get pregnant. There is no need for anyone to have 10 kids unless they have a huge farm. I know Allah swt chooses who gets pregnant and when, but as humans we also choose to have sex and try for children.
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Sis u dnt need to condem ppl for wanting to have more children, its up to them how many babies they want, its their right Allah swt has given them and something the prophet saw encouraged. I know u have ur own views on childbirth n pregnancy like u mentioned in the sisters section but just because of ur own reasons as to why u think its gross doesnt mean having children is wrong or that its something bad.
 
I know women are allowed to have children and encouraged, but I see no plausible reason for having any more than 2 unless you have a ranch or farm. Also, people's choice to have so many children does affect me-it affects pollution, energy, resources, etc.
 
The parents that tend to have many children are the ones who own farms. They are in need for labour since the farm is their source of living and revenue.

Children are a blessing from Allah, every child that comes to this world deserves to exist as Allah has given it life. We cannot blame the increase amount of people for the pollution and environmental problems created. There is several alternative methods that can be implemented to reduce these pollutions. The blame is better deserved by the few people in the elite who controlling these matters and businesses.
 
Also, people's choice to have so many children does affect me-it affects pollution, energy, resources, etc.
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how is that the fault of ppl who choose to have children?

if ur concerned about the environment then switch ur heating off, buy a bike n sell ur car, dnt use any electricity or gas, be self sufficient, ie grow ur own food n live in a box some where.
 
Gotta say i agree with you sis daffodil, children are a blessing not a burden, they are a favour from Allah to us....
If it was so bad (having many) don't you think we woulda been told in a in an ayah from the qur'aan, or a hadeeth from the prophet alayhi salaatu wassalaam...
instead,the prophet ordered the men to marry the waduud al waluud" the one that is loving and fertile (gives birth a lot)...
the ummah/nation of muhammed will be the largets of all nations...
may Allah increase our ummah and grant us pious children...
 
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