when doing ghusl, sometimes i forget if i washed the right side of the body 3 or 4 times and continue to wash the left side thrice. should i redo my ghusl or not? what is the exact procedure for ghusl?
Al-Ghusl is achieved by two things: Niyyah, intention, and a complete bath. However, the Sunnah recommends the following sequence:
Bring Niyyah into the heart.
Wash the hands three times.
Wash the private parts once.
Perform Wuduu, except that one may delay washing the feet until the Ghusl is complete.
Wash the head three times; one should be sure that the water reaches the scalp.
Pour water on the whole body, beginning with the right side, then the left side.
The Ghusl of a Muslim sister is the same as that of a Muslim brother. Ummu Salmah reported that a sister asked the Prophet: Messenger of Allah, I am a woman who has closely plaited hair on my head, should I unplait it before taking a Ghusl because of my Janabah (intimate intercourse) ? The Messenger replied:
"It is enough for you to throw three handfuls of water on your head and then pour water over yourself and you shall be purified." (Muslim/Ahmad)
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