salaam, I'm growing my beard but I think I look so ugly with it and no woman will want to marry me. I look scary I think.
my family said wait till you get married and then grow it but I keep thinking what if I die without a beard and I'm raised upon the day of judgement and my appearance is away from the sunnah.
And it's a fard so I'd be sinning every day if I stayed clean shaven till I got married.
any words of motivation?? lol
A Muslim who shaves or shortens his beard is like a hermaphrodite, his Imamate near prohibition, his evidence is not valid, he will not have the right to vote or being voted for. Shaving and shortening the beard is the action of non-believers.
Imam Ghazzali (RA) says: "Know that the key to total bliss (Saadah) lies in following the Sunnah and in emulating the life of Rasulullah (SallAllâhu Alayhi Wasallam) in ALL that issues from him, and in ALL his doings even if it concerns the manner of his eating, rising, sleeping, and speaking. I do say thisin relation to rituals in worship ONLY because ther is no way neglecting the Sunnah reported of him in such matters - but what I say INCLUDES EVERY ASPECT of his daily life." (Kitab al Arbain Addin, Cairo 1344, p. 89). Furthermore, in the Holy Qur'ân, Allâh told Rasulullah (SallAllâhu Alayhi Wasallam) to say:
"Say: "If ye do love Allâh, Follow me: Allâh will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Holy Qur'ân 3:31]
The daily recitation of a band of angels of Allâh is
"Holy is the Being who adorned men with beards and women with braids" (Takmela e Bahr al Raiq, Vol. 3, p. 331)
Lastly, Allâh Ta'ala says in the Holy Qur'ân:
"And when the true believers are called to Allâh and His Rasul (SallAllâhu Alayhi Wasallam) [to accept and practice the law and commands of Allâh and His Rasul (SallAllâhu Alayhi Wasallam)] that he may pass judgement upon them, their ONLY reply is 'We hear and obey.' Such men shall surely prosper." [24:51]
THE CALL IS TO GROW A FIST LENGTH BEARD, LET US HEAR AND OBEY TO PROSPER.
The Blessed Beard... Grow it, what's so hard to understand?
(Commentary):
Muslims are overcome with western influence in their lives and it's easy to forget, nay, neglect the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him). Little do these Muslims realize the magnitude of their actions in imitating Kufaar (see Hadith section). Hopefully the information presented herein will enlighten those. And then there are others who claim that the matters concerning beards is a
"little" issue not worthy of mention nor practice. To them I say get off the denial bandwagon, you're a Muslim! Follow the Prophet (Peace be upon him) in all aspects of life, for he was the best of examples. I couldn't tell you how many times I've mistaken a Muslim brother (outside of the Masjid) for a kaafir on account of his clean-shaven, well oiled, face. How can I say
"Assalaamu Alaikum Brother!" when I do not know if he is a Muslim. Yet that very brother then wonders why he was ignored! From one brother to another, I say:
"Grow a beard, then, since it also promotes Brotherhood in the real world. Stand with your Brothers, be one. We know you are handsome without it (a beard), but who cares? What matters is how Allâh (S.W.T.) sees you. And when you do grow a beard, don't mock the Sunnah, please grow it correctly, i.e. FIST LENGTH. That is the prescribed length and no shorter (see Hadeeth section)..." Peace.
Remember always: It is satan who wants you to shave and it is satan who finds the beard unnattractive because it pleases Allah but Allah finds the beard is most BEAUTIFUL!
To resemble Rasulallah (Pbuh) is to have a beard therefore was Rasulallah(Pbuh) not beautiful? For he was the most beautiful of all creations. It is just the deception of this world that makes the beard look ugly but the reality is the beard is the most beautiful thing on a man! All the Prophets and sahabas who were able to grow beards grew them.
Know that the true pious women who we should search for in order to marry absolutley love the beard and will not marry a man who does not want to grow his beard if he is able to do so. But those women who we should not married are those who do not love the beard for they love the world over the akhirah.
'Say (O. Muhammad) if you wish to love Allah, follow me; Allah will surely love you'. Al-Qur'an.
So grow a beard to please Allah and resemble the best of all creations whom we should all strive to resemble in every aspect of our daily lives in order to be the closest to Allah and please him!
hummm this sounds familiar 
don't worry its shaytan whispering to you that you look ugly and if any one tells you to shave even if its your family don't listen to them they probably mean well but once you have started growing it with the intention of pleasing Allah you should not shave. its the very same for the woman if she wears her veil to please Allah and then she stops wearing it because she feels ugly..