muslimah_here
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Brother this is th story of most pakistani families I have simliar problems with my family, its so difficult to make our parents understand the importance of deen as tehy have been brought up to give more importance to culture espcially when it comes to hijaab, most pakistani parents freak out, oh GOD, HOW would u get married, what would our relatives say, im trying really hard to wear hijaab right now I wear outside but non of my relatives no about it yet, its sooooooooo difficult to make them realise that we should fear ALLAH rather what our uncles and aunties would think. Iv been avoidng going to my realtives as i feel guilty not wear hijaab infront of my cousins as my parents ay that cosuins are like borthers and so on dont be too rigid, oterwsie life would become difficult for you,
INSHALLAh we all need to keep making an effort and slowly we can change our families,as ALLAh says in the Quraan to save urself and ur family from the hellfire, my dad didnt pray much before but ALLHUMDOLILAH he does now, though there are still certain aspects i dont like even giving up indian bollywood filsm was difficult as all my relatives were addicted to it but ALLHUMDOLILAH iv stoped watchin the filth since last ramadhan and feel much at peace in my mind before all the time I had the filmi songs roaming in my head.
I think being of apkistani origin I really get annoyed with may cultural aspects of pakistan taken from hindu culture, like mehndi in weddings giving ample gifts to the husband's family but i said to my mum nothing as such would INSHALLAH happen for my wedding and INSHALLAHit would be a simple wedding with the minmal wastage of money, though im sure my parents would try their best to convince me, change takes time, at least in my heat I know Im tyring this is form of jihaad as well. At th end of the day we are not responsible for the deeds of any one but our own, we can only try and pray to ALLAh to guide them and give us strenght. Its diffcul but not impossible, I have noticed some change in my family MASHALLAh but remember we were like them once as well if its taken us so long to become practsing muslims then we must give them time as well, and the dua is best weapon of a believer.
ALLAHAFIZ.
