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So my brother is engaged at the moment, and no doubt it will most likely [I think] be a Catholic wedding [If there's such a thing].
And this got my brain going [Yes; I hate when my brain does that. ARRRGGGHH!] say a re[con]vert's brother or sister was to get married and the wedding would be following the traditions of another religion.
Would it be haram for the re[con]vert to play a role, or even attend the wedding?
 
Wow

5 days and no one replied.

Here you go, I found this fatwa on islamqa.com

Question:
Alhamdulillah, I am a convert to Islam. My family are still, however, christian. My brother is getting married and this involves a religious service in a church followed by a meal. I have told my family that I cannot partake in the religious service. I wish to know if Islam allows me to attend the meal with my wife and child, where some alcohol may be served to some christians with the meal. If it is not allowed then what advice can you give me. Please give the answer with evidence.
The issue is of great importance since I have been estranged from my father (by his choice) for 7 years and I am trying to invite them to Islam.
Jazakallah khayran

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

1. We praise Allaah for having guided you to Islam and we ask Him to complete His favour by helping you to be steadfast and by guiding your family to Islam.

2. You are doing the right thing by not attending the religious service in the church, because taking part in religious proceedings of non-Muslims is, at the very least, a major sin, and could lead to kufr.

3. With regard to attending your brother’s wedding party where alcohol will be served with the food, we advise you not to take part as you say. Attending such parties is haraam and is a major sin. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):“… then after the remembrance sit not in the company of those people who are the zaalimoon (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.)” [al-An’aam 6:68].

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by feeling that it is wrong] – and that is the weakest of faith.” (Narrated by Muslim, 49).

When you take part in such events, you will not be able to change the evil actions with your hand or your tongue – in most cases – so all you can do is change it with your heart, and you cannot be really doing so if you are taking part.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him not sit at a table where wine is being drunk.” (Narrated by Ahmad, 14241, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwaa’ al-Ghaleel, 7/6).

The reason why it is forbidden – as it appears – is that sitting with them implies that you condone the evil action.

4. Apart from the fact that these things are forbidden, if the brother makes these compromises, this will weaken his efforts to call his family to Islam. The more sincere the daa’iyah is towards himself and to His Lord, the stronger his efforts to call others will be. But if he compromises and vacillates, this will make him look less trustworthy in the eyes of others.

And Allaah knows best.

Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid


http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=6992&ln=eng&txt=attending non muslim wedding

I hope that helped insha Allaah
 
ok, let me get this right !

In Islam, everyboody call each other Brother and sister? But your 'REAL' Brother in Blood, you must ignore now, just because you have a different belief now?
A marriage is something important in a life of a person and it needs the presence of his close family. You want to be happy for him, right? So join the feast !

And by the way:

and I am trying to invite them to Islam.
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And after that, you like to invite them to islam?? Hahaha ! You excell with your non-presence of your brothers wedding than you expect to invite them to islam?

And then, just after I post my comment here, I found this in another thread:

4. non-Muslims are allowed on Muslim weddings
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Now, what is that? Muslims are not allowed to attend Non-Muslim marriages but other way, it is ok ?
 
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No, guyabano, you got it all wrong.

The reason he can't go is NOT "just because" he is a Muslim and the family is not, but because the wedding contains things that Muslims are not allowed to expose them selves too.

Take your anti-Islamic tirade somewhere else.
 
Malaikah said:
No, guyabano, you got it all wrong.

The reason he can't go is NOT "just because" he is a Muslim and the family is not, but because the wedding contains things that Muslims are not allowed to expose them selves too.

Take your anti-Islamic tirade somewhere else.
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Brap Brap Brap. What are those 'THINGS' ? Alcohol ? Well, nobody force him to drink it. So what then ?

PS: I'm neutral, or does this automatically mean I'm anti-islamic? What is that for an narrow-minded view?
 
Yeh, that was so neutral.:rollseyes

It isn't allowed for Muslims to attend gatherings where alcohol is served, especially in such large amounts. There will also be other forbidden things such as music and dancing.
 
Guyabano - The hadeeth states clearly that a Muslim cannot be anywhere where there is alcohol..

There is a lot of fitnah (trials) at places like this for a Muslim, such as half naked women, alcohol, drunk people.. it is definitely not a place for someone who fears Allaah to go.

Whether you like it or not, this is Islaam. And this is an islamic forum, so take your criticisms elsewhere. Thanks.
 
Malaikah said:
Yeh, that was so neutral.:rollseyes

It isn't allowed for Muslims to attend gatherings where alcohol is served, especially in such large amounts. There will also be other forbidden things such as music and dancing.
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You speak like George Bush: 'Or you are with me, or you are aginst me'. There is no other alternative.

I read this thread, I got a question, I discover a controverse and I ask about.
I got no constructive answer execpt 'there are THINGS'. And for the rest, only insulting words. I hope, not all muslims are like you ladies.

So my turn to be sarcastic: If you cannot drink alcohol (even moderate) neither dance or listen to music than I get curious to see a muslim marriage. According to your words then, it must look like a funeral
 
muslim weddin are normal but we dont see the need to get drunk and dance, because we are civilized

in islam alchohol is haraam, end off. if you wan drink, get drunk do things your totally unaware of cos your drunk, then die of a liver problem dats your choice

in your view fun is drinkin n dancin. and all i can say to that is hah you sad individual
 
guyabano said:
So my turn to be sarcastic: If you cannot drink alcohol (even moderate) neither dance or listen to music than I get curious to see a muslim marriage. According to your words then, it must look like a funeral
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comparison of a wedding and a funeral​

except everyone isnt wearing black with fancy hats and people also talk and laugh and present gifts.. quite different to a funeral.. last time i heard of a funeral service... it was a pretty sad atomsphere! oh yeah! last but not least.. ppl do not shed tears (unless its a pakistani wedding), then the girl cries... and it isnt coz sum1 passes away at the end of the ceremony.. :-[
 
and in many christian ceremonies we all know they play the piano lol, so what diff between your weddins and funeral braaaap
 
chacha_jalebi said:
muslim weddin are normal
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Ok, please describe 'Normal' ! Hey, muslims seem to think binary. It's either white or black. Why you all think, that when somebody drink a glass of red wine or champagne, he's drunk?
Me, personnally, I don't drink alcohol. Yes, no kidding. I prefer a good o-juice, or fruit cocktail, or whatever.
But I like to swing with the mood. If people sing, I sing too, if they dance I follow the rythm too.
Now what is wrong with that? It seems like people in Islam are forbidden to be happy!
 
gaybuyano


But I like to swing with the mood. If people sing, I sing too, if they dance I follow the rythm too.
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so you like to follow the pack eh? lol are you scared if you dont you will be left out and called a outcast

It seems like people in Islam are forbidden to be happy
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is your idea of fun is dancin, being drunk and mixin with complete strangers?

we have fun, but in acceptable ways

i.e - we can go to partys where there is no un islamicness, i.e - wine, dancin, free mixin. we can bust jokes, we can laugh, the thin that people like you cant comprehend is the fact that muslims seem so happy and they dont do no crap!!

like you lot have to dress up, and have a pint and in your eyes your havin fun, and you know your jus tryin to make others happy and not yaself!

imagine your sister or mother was dancin and a complete stranger came up to her and start dancin, next to her, would you say "oh look shes having fun" b honest? you wouldnt say that

islam stops such a situation from arisin in the 1st place, we have segregation, we dont dance in public with strangers, we dont drink!! simple and we still have fun, now its obvious which lifestyle is better ALLAH HU AKBAR
 
guyabano said:
ok, let me get this right !

In Islam, everyboody call each other Brother and sister? But your 'REAL' Brother in Blood, you must ignore now, just because you have a different belief now?
A marriage is something important in a life of a person and it needs the presence of his close family. You want to be happy for him, right? So join the feast !

And by the way:



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Peace

actually if the whole family is muslim yet the wedding is haraam a person should still not join in the feast. a haraam wedding is a haraam wedding regardless of the fact that a muslim or non muslim is hosting it.

and Allah knows best
 
chacha_jalebi said:
gaybuyano




so you like to follow the pack eh? lol are you scared if you dont you will be left out and called a outcast



is your idea of fun is dancin, being drunk and mixin with complete strangers?

we have fun, but in acceptable ways

i.e - we can go to partys where there is no un islamicness, i.e - wine, dancin, free mixin. we can bust jokes, we can laugh, the thin that people like you cant comprehend is the fact that muslims seem so happy and they dont do no crap!!

like you lot have to dress up, and have a pint and in your eyes your havin fun, and you know your jus tryin to make others happy and not yaself!

imagine your sister or mother was dancin and a complete stranger came up to her and start dancin, next to her, would you say "oh look shes having fun" b honest? you wouldnt say that

islam stops such a situation from arisin in the 1st place, we have segregation, we dont dance in public with strangers, we dont drink!! simple and we still have fun, now its obvious which lifestyle is better ALLAH HU AKBAR
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Well, I will end this discussion with the words: Different cultures/religions, different way of lives. Well I'm happy the way I live, and I hope so you will too.
What you call 'which lifestyle is better' is your and ONLY your opinion.
I'm just too sad, that noone could ever answer me my initial question why non-muslims can attend a muslim wedding but not reverse.
I call that old fashioned and narrow-minded.

End of topic - at least for me-
 
well if that was ya intial question, then why make statements like muslims cant have fun! get me:shade:

your endin the discussion because you lost
 
Guyabano...

Your question has already been answered by almost everyone who has posted here.. A muslim cannot attend a haraam wedding. Like Amani said whether it is a haraam muslim wedding or a haraam non muslim wedding. We cannot attend it. End of story.

Now I have not been to many muslim weddings, but the ones I have been to.. It has been quite fun! It is segregated. We play halal nasheeds.. which only has the duff (drum thing) and people do dance to that (I think some scholars say dancing is not allowed for women, coz it may cause jealousy or she might describe the woman to her husband).. Or the women who was beating the duff got up and sung. But it is only halaal if we are sure no men can hear.. so it quite the opposite of a funeral