Hatred!!!!!!

[KingAkbar]

Hi!!!!!!!

I am from India, a hindu converted to islam.

I realize that I have hatred for hindus, my family also (they haven't converted, but that';s not why).

I feel like I hate my country and especially hindus - I consider them slimy creatures. Is it wrong to have such hatred? SOmetimes I feel it justified, considering the slimy behavior of most hindus.

I am conflicted. I dont want to hate, but I do. Honestly, I won't even have grief if someone in my immediate family were to suffer or do worse.

Anyway, that's the situation, looking for some advice.

Akbar

 

[noraina]

Assalamu alaykum,

Bro, you shouldn't hate anybody at all, let alone your own family.

Islam is a religion of peace and mercy - if we were to hate those who did not believe in our deen, how would we give dawah to them in a beautiful manner and teach them about this wonderful religion? And as Muslims, we want to cultivate a heart filled with love for Allah swt and His Messenger, to actually 'hate' someone or something is pretty exhausting and counterproductive.

And you should neither hate the country you live in. No country in the world is perfect, and whilst you shouldn't be obsessively patriotic or view your nationality as superior to others, it is natural to feel an attachment to the place you were born in. I am born in the UK, a non-Muslim country, but I consider it my temporary home in this world and I'm quite attached to its rainy skies

Hinduism is a religion which involves idol-worship, and this is shirk and an immense sin in Islam, obviously. But you must remember like you were on a journey, so are probably the people around you. You can introduce Islam to your family, and through your own behaviour and manner show them what a fulfilling religion it is. You were once a Hindu, and then you reverted alhamdulillah, likewise now they are Hindus or whatever religion but as long as they are alive they have the opportunity and chance to turn to Allah swt and become Muslims and so to hate them like this would be wrong and may even turn them away.

 

[Serinity]

we can not love their kufr, we have to hate their kufr. Which goes without saying.

There will always be this wall between a Muslim and a kafir.

But if they have good character, etc. We can't hate that, obv. Our hearts should hate their kufr and disbelief.

Repel evil with what is better - but do not befriend kuffar and become close friends.
And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Regrets1]

Asalamu Alaikum
MashAllah youv received some good advice..but I'd like to say you shouldn't hate anyone but give dawah instead, be nice to everyone..don't know how you felt before but from what you have written I can only assume now that youv accepted Islam youv started hating hindus, your country and family also this isn't right..your a Muslim so show love and care for every human Muslim or not..people around you must be thinking he's behaving like this because of Islam maybe Islam teaches hatred for non Muslims and that's not right at all..
Your blessed with Islam so spread it with love. You should love your family more as you have found the true religion which is all about peace, mercy, love, care and humbleness, instead of hating them you should be thinking of bringing them to this beautiful religion which is full of mercy, convey the right message of Islam with love not hate.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Hi!!!!!!!

I am from India, a hindu converted to islam.

I realize that I have hatred for hindus, my family also (they haven't converted, but that';s not why).

I feel like I hate my country and especially hindus - I consider them slimy creatures. Is it wrong to have such hatred? SOmetimes I feel it justified, considering the slimy behavior of most hindus.

I am conflicted. I dont want to hate, but I do. Honestly, I won't even have grief if someone in my immediate family were to suffer or do worse.

Anyway, that's the situation, looking for some advice.

Akbar

Most people who have hatred for no reason whatsoever is because they have unresolved childhood issues. Perhaps they were abused by family or bullied at school. If you hate your country so much, I suggest you move to some other location. I hear Syria is nice this time of year.

 

[Arfa]

Aoa brother, Now Mashaa Allah that you have embraced Islam hatred doesent suit you)) Seriously all the anger you carry in your heart of ill treatment should be erased from your mind now ,It must be difficult to experience extremist behaviour but take the higher road and spread love and light.Peace brother

 

[BeTheChange]

Asalamualykum,

Alhamdulilah for finding the truth.

May Allah swt continue to bless your life and may you be a role model for the people around you Ameen.

I think you may hate some of the characteristics that people engross themselves in so you may hate the sin and not the sinner and this is what Islam teaches us to do.

Correct your own imperfections and work on your own weaknesses in character and insha Allah you may influence the people in a positive way insha Allah.

May Allah swt correct our understanding and may we all change for the better Ameen.

 

[czgibson]

Greetings,

I think you may hate some of the characteristics that people engross themselves in so you may hate the sin and not the sinner and this is what Islam teaches us to do.

This is very good advice for the OP, and is an admirable concept in itself in some ways.

Peace

 

[KingAkbar]

Thanks, everyone, for the responses. Really appreciate it.

I know I shouldnt hate, but it isn't blind hate either. It is based on their behavior. People who judge you based on your success, money, etc.......it is very hard not to hate them. These people have repeatedly made me feel small.imsad

 

[ardianto]

It is based on their behavior. People who judge you based on your success, money, etc

Oh, bro, you can find people like that among Muslims too, and among other nations. Not only among Hindus in India.

But, try to not affected by them.

 

[noraina]

There are negative people *everywhere*, trust me. Don't hate them, or allow them to affect you in any way. Just let their comments and attitudes slide over your head - to hate them would be exhausting yourself and it is not worth it for people like that.

 

[Serinity]

I am honestly confused about this whole hatred. But one thing I know, and may Allah SWT forgive me if I am wrong, is that you can not love kuffar.

if they are harsh to you, be harsh to them - don't let them step over you. If they are kind, you are kind. Just retribution. but do not sin. But it is best if you repel their evil with what is better.

 

[sister herb]

Don´t lost your time for useless hating. It only makes you weak and sad.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

that you can not love kuffar.

if they are harsh to you, be harsh to them - don't let them step over you. If they are kind, you are kind.

Exactly. It's called being a human being. Be nice to those who are nice to you, be hateful to those who are hateful towards you.

Nobody here is saying to love the kufr... love is a very strong word. I love Muslims and I like any person as long as they are a nice person.

I don't care if he/she is Atheist, Jew, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist or believes in the spaghetti monster... if he/she is a nice kind hearted person I will show peace towards them. If they show hatred towards me, I will show hatred towards them

 

[Serinity]

Exactly. It's called being a human being. Be nice to those who are nice to you, be hateful to those who are hateful towards you.

Nobody here is saying to love the kufr... love is a very strong word. I love Muslims and I like any person as long as they are a nice person.

I don't care if he/she is Atheist, Jew, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist or believes in the spaghetti monster... if he/she is a nice kind hearted person I will show peace towards them. If they show hatred towards me, I will show hatred towards them

Honestly sis, I hate their kufr but that doesn't mean we treat them like animals. Cause how will that bring them closer to Islam?

But well. If a kafir showed hatred to me, what would the wise person do? exhaust his energy in playing the kafir's game? I don't think so.

If one can extinguish the hatred of the kuffar, one should do that. But we shouldn't succumb to their level. There is disgusting bigoted hatred

There is also beautiful just, reassuring hatred. tasting their own medicine, right?

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Honestly sis, I hate their kufr but that doesn't mean we treat them like animals. Cause how will that bring them closer to Islam?

But well. If a kafir showed hatred to me, what would the wise person do? exhaust his energy in playing the kafir's game? I don't think so.

If one can extinguish the hatred of the kuffar, one should do that. But we shouldn't succumb to their level. There is disgusting bigoted hatred

There is also beautiful just, reassuring hatred. tasting their own medicine, right?

Well hatred never accomplished anything, just violence. You say you hate them but yesterday you was contemplating accepting a job offer and working with one of them lol.

I think it's healthy to be distant from the kufr, do not engage and mix with them so much but personally I cannot hate someone without a reason and even if they don't believe in Allah, this hurts me, but I don't hate them so to speak. I see all non believers as damaged goods in need of repair. May Allah guide all non believers

I hate those who are hateful towards me and I am forgiving towards those who are forgiving. That one time I bought a sandwich for a homeless man and I handed it to him and he told me he would rather take food from the bin then from the hand of a Muslim. This hurt my heart so much... but I don't hate him, he has shaytan in his head and we should have patience with them as Allah has patience with us. I simply threw the sandwich to him and walked off.

Surely Allah rewards those who are just and patient like our prophet Muhammad saw was?

 

[KingAkbar]

Well hatred never accomplished anything, just violence. You say you hate them but yesterday you was contemplating accepting a job offer and working with one of them lol.

I think it's healthy to be distant from the kufr, do not engage and mix with them so much but personally I cannot hate someone without a reason and even if they don't believe in Allah, this hurts me, but I don't hate them so to speak. I see all non believers as damaged goods in need of repair. May Allah guide all non believers

I hate those who are hateful towards me and I am forgiving towards those who are forgiving. That one time I bought a sandwich for a homeless man and I handed it to him and he told me he would rather take food from the bin then from the hand of a Muslim. This hurt my heart so much... but I don't hate him, he has shaytan in his head and we should have patience with them as Allah has patience with us. I simply threw the sandwich to him and walked off.

Surely Allah rewards those who are just and patient like our prophet Muhammad saw was?

Where did that happen? It's shocking.

 

[Serinity]

Hatred that eats away at your heart or impedes your path or slows you down, or whatever. Hatred that makes you feel miserable, etc. Is futile.

There is al wala wal bara, yes. But don't take it to the extreme. Anything in its extreme, and you will collapse.

Hate the sin, the disbelief, but not the person, do you know the person? how can you hate someone you don't know? yes I know, their disbelief disgusts you. Even more so with Hindus.

But look, do you hate Iblees? OF course! But this hatred, does it impede you? NO. Why? Because it is reasonable. you know why you hate, and you understand, This hatred prevents you from kufr and going astray.

But if you begin to hate Iblees so much it impedes you - that is extreme. Don't focus on hatred so much.

If someone becomes very very pious, one of the things shaytaan tries to do is stress him in his worship, and make him feel self-righteous.

Iblees was very pious once, so he knows how to pray, etc. But what destroyed him was his pride and arrogance. he thought he was better than Adam AS because he prayed a lot, etc.

So hatred that infests you and makes you angry, is futile. Let go of such hatred. A Muslim with the love of Allah SWT, and The Prophet SAW, does hate what Allah SWT hates, etc. But not to the extreme.

Love of Allah SWT should prevent you from haram, hatred for haram and kufr is natural, and should be there. But don't hate the person, and don't focus too much on this hatred.

Besides - one of the tactics of shaytaan - is to stress the pious people and make them look down on people and hate those who are less fortunate than him.

In this case, hating kuffar. Hating kuffar personally won't bring anything except enmity and hatred towards Islam. Hate their kufr, yes.

Shaytaan has tactics for both sinners and pious ones. For the sinners he makes them feel despair, for the pious, he makes them feel self-righteous and tries to instill arrogance. This is why knowledge is so important.

When you know the tactics of shaytaan, you won't fall for them again. In shaa' Allah.

I admit a verse came to mind, but verses are to be understood in context. we can't take a verse and extrapolate it on everyone.

May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Where did that happen? It's shocking.

Just somewhere in London, UK. It was shocking but I didn't feel anger towards him or hatred... I just felt sorry for him because he has shaytan in his head and his heart is poisoned. Having patience in the face of adversity is one of our core principles as Muslims. I just made dua that Allah will guide him.

 

[Scimitar]

Hi!!!!!!!

I am from India, a hindu converted to islam.

I realize that I have hatred for hindus, my family also (they haven't converted, but that';s not why).

I feel like I hate my country and especially hindus - I consider them slimy creatures. Is it wrong to have such hatred? SOmetimes I feel it justified, considering the slimy behavior of most hindus.

I am conflicted. I dont want to hate, but I do. Honestly, I won't even have grief if someone in my immediate family were to suffer or do worse.

Anyway, that's the situation, looking for some advice.

Akbar

This is really not a good way to be bro. Hatred only harms the one who hates.

You don't have to like something and still not hate it - Your family is still your family and to be kind and just to them is a requirement in Islam.

Also, while I was in India, I had problems with Muslims... we always find issues with those we unjustly connect with most.

Smile more, from the belly up.