haunting pasts....

[Hamza Asadullah]

Thank you all for your advice.... I did not know it was like that at all and I felt it would be dishonest for her to keep the information from him, but i am glad to know that is not the case.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb,

'Medically, there can be other reasons which could give rise to one losing one's hymen. An injury or an internal examination for instance. Sister, your situation is such that you have to consider the implications of the choices you have before you.

If you chose not to tell your husband about your past, it could happen that he could find out later and this could affect your marital relationship. On the other hand, if you do tell him, he may just decide not to marry you. If you have sincerely repented and you live your life strictly according to Allah Ta'ala's commandments (to the best of your ability), insha'allah, Allah Ta'ala will pour greater understanding between you two. Be punctual with all your salaah and read abundant nafl salaah too.Read the Quran with greater understanding and bring your lifestyle onto the Sunnah and the Quran. Make abundant istigfar and zikr daily. Constantly ask Allah Ta'ala to guide and protect you from harm and disgrace.

To elaborate, if you have given up freely mixing with non-mahram men, observe strict purdah and devote your life towards earning Allah Ta'ala's pleasure in your daily life, your future husband may consider that your indiscretion belongs to the past. May Allah Ta'ala guide both of you, ameen.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

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[AnonymousPoster]

My friend IS a virgin, no need to argue about that... but she has gone pretty far where as there was physical activity... don't really want to go into detail but she went as far as you can go without technically losing your virginity...

Thank you all for your advice and inshAllah she will make the right choice.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

My friend IS a virgin, no need to argue about that... but she has gone pretty far where as there was physical activity... don't really want to go into detail but she went as far as you can go without technically losing your virginity...

Thank you all for your advice and inshAllah she will make the right choice.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, it is totally your friends decision but know that if her husband was to ever somehow find out her past as the truth does come out at times then it would truly rip him apart especially as that would be his wife and the shaythan would ruin him by constantly giving him images in his head of another man doing that to his wife. It is truly painful so turn to Allah and ask of him and ask her to consider carefully whatever she chooses to do. Jazakallah for sharing this with us about your friend and please always feel free to ask anything you want.