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Asalam alykum

Have you ever lost someone you love? Was it willingly or unwillingly? How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it? And how long did that take?

Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.

Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses.
 
Brother I lost count of how many, since becoming muslim, not a single one alhamdulillah
 
- Qatada - said:
Asalam alykum

Have you ever lost someone you love? Was it willingly or unwillingly? How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it? And how long did that take?

Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.

Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses.
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Salaam. Yes and its a painful thing to go through especially when you know 'thats the one'. It took a while to get over it and in the end i realized there was no point in crying over spilt milk. Oh well you live and you learn i suppose
 
- Qatada - said:
Asalam alykum

Have you ever lost someone you love? Was it willingly or unwillingly? How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it? And how long did that take?

Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.

Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses.
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WalaikumAsSalam WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

You know its really really strange. I have thinking about this the last couple of daysimsad. Because there is someone trully i love. I miss her so much, that if i did have the chance again i would do everything i can do to make her happy for me........

........Yet i treat Ramadhan the same way. As if its come for the last time and for me to make the most it.

FiAmaaniAllah
 
^^^^brother I am sorry to hear this, may Allah heal the pain you feel, Ameen.
Hopefully things will work out for you insha'Allah
 
Najm said:
WalaikumAsSalam WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

You know its really really strange. I have thinking about this the last couple of daysimsad. Because there is someone trully i love. I miss her so much, that if i did have the chance again i would do everything i can do to make her happy for me........
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Salaam. I think its almost impossible to let go of someone you truly love. Love comes from the heart and if thats the way you feel then its going to be with you for a long time. You will always be thinking about the individual as i do nearly everyday... It is a weird feeling but you got to move on in life
 
Through Death I have lost nearly everyone I ever loved. I am now the oldest surviving male In my Family Tree.

I do have 2 surviving Aunts that are only a few years older than me. But both of them are very close to death.

Now how did the loses affect me?

My Father was the first I lost I was 7 years old. For many years I stayed in denial and until I was about 16 I kept expecting to see him come walking in the door every evening. Even then I still cried for him for a long time.

Then when I was 14 I lost both Grandfathers in the same year. I felt like I lost my best friend when My Grand Father on my mother's side died. He was my substitute father and taught me many things from how to shoe horses, milk cows, catch fish, shoot a rifle and handguns, pick up venomous snakes, how to swim and he gave me a love of languages.

From then on the loses became blurs, it seemed like I lost at least one loved one every month. The last hardest loss I had was my mother. Now, it seems like loss is normal and it is simply a part of life.

Now how did I get over the loses. I didn't, I do not have to. I reached the age of seeing death as being no more then graduation or flunking out from this life. May Allaah(swt) allow me to become one of the graduates.
 
Woodrow said:
Through Death I have lost nearly everyone I ever loved. I am now the oldest surviving male In my Family Tree.

I do have 2 surviving Aunts that are only a few years older than me. But both of them are very close to death.

Now how did the loses affect me?

My Father was the first I lost I was 7 years old. For many years I stayed in denial and until I was about 16 I kept expecting to see him come walking in the door every evening. Even then I still cried for him for a long time.

Then when I was 14 I lost both Grandfathers in the same year. I felt like I lost my best friend when My Grand Father on my mother's side died. He was my substitute father and taught me many things from how to shoe horses, milk cows, catch fish, shoot a rifle and handguns, pick up venomous snakes, how to swim and he gave me a love of languages.

From then on the loses became blurs, it seemed like I lost at least one loved one every month. The last hardest loss I had was my mother. Now, it seems like loss is normal and it is simply a part of life.

Now how did I get over the loses. I didn't, I do not have to. I reached the age of seeing death as being no more then graduation or flunking out from this life. May Allaah(swt) allow me to become one of the graduates.
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

SubhaanAllah!imsad......This dua and hadith is amazing........

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un
We belong to Allah and to Him we shall return.

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The Prophet (SalAllahu Alyhi WaSalam) said, "If any Muslim man or woman suffers a calamity and keeps it in his memory, even if it happened a long time ago, saying each time it is remembered, 'We belong to Allah and to Him do we return,' Allah, who is Blessed and Exalted will give a fresh reward each time it is said, equivalent to the reward when it happened." [Tirmidhi]

Its too hard to let go of the people you love

May Allah keep us alive while its best for us, and bring death when its best for us. Ameen

FiAmaaniAllah
 
Wa alikum muselam

OOO long list.


But the one I miss the most is my Father.

Then comes my little sister and my aunt.



When they're dead it's easier than to watch the world torture them. At the beginning I haven't shade a tear but in three days you realise that they're gone.

I was six when my father died, the hard thing is that I hate everyone else because they hate my father, I can't stand them!. Egnore this they're farrrrrrrrrr for good. I always dreamed to revenge but Islam doesn't allow me?

Islam cures it because you worry about yourself on the Qiyama.
 
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Salaam- firstly very sorry for everyones loss..in one way or another eveyone feels it at some point in your life whether its through death or via other means.

To expect to forget the person completely is asking for miricles but to force yourself to move on it also not doing yourself any favours. I found that praying excessively and telling myself it wasnt meant to be helped and after many months the pain dulls down.

Now everytime i think of the past i always see the good memories, small flashes of happines and in a way im glad to have experienced them but in others u wonder what ure life would have been like without ever experiencing any of that. Allah knows best.
 
my mum died when i was very young and my father felt he had no obligations 2us anymore.. The hardest thing was watching him with other women! Your skin gets thick after a while and you learn 2 accept it obviously its even still tough. You know when u wana make da bigest life decisionz of your life and your mum is not there 2 guide you. It sucks big time!!! But alhamdulilah i can't complain i have Allah almighty.
 
but falling in love and losing that person. Not being able 2 b with dat person for some reasons is da worst haha because you know they r still out there living
 
cat eyes said:
but falling in love and losing that person. Not being able 2 b with dat person for some reasons is da worst haha because you know they r still out there living
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Sister, Exactly. Thats why i said earlier its almost impossible to forget the one you love.
 
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There are a few people around me lost someone they love..like my friend who lost her father and her fiance to be in the same week. Sometimes i just don't know how to console them...

All i can say is Allah love them .

And also i have this one quote with beautiful background "Why people have to die? To make life important." ...and i email it to them...

Wassallam
 
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Sister, Exactly. Thats why i said earlier its almost impossible to forget the one you love.
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yes brother of course it actually feels warming and good talking about it to others who went through the same thingimsad
 
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Don't we all lose someone we love? Everyone has to die some day or another. Be it by force* or natural. I have lost many great humans in my 13 years of life. Some may think 13 is young but for me it carries devastated full of misery memories of the past.

My loses that were true to me: My grandfather from my mothers side when I was 11. My grandfather from my fathers side when I was 12. My aunts from both sides,and my great uncle. Alhumdulilah,no one else,insha'Allah Allaah will bless our families and the ones we love the highest rank in Jannah,ameen.

*:When Earth comes to an end and a cold breeze wipes away the believers soul,but for the non-believers/non-Muslims,allah knows.

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I recently lost one of my aunts, I love her very much. She had been sick for a year, but we all thought she was recovering. When my dad informed me the news of her death over the phone, I cried uncontrollably. Few relatives were around me to console, but in those few minutes I felt alone with my Lord. I found myself saying "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un" in my mind. Till then I had never learnt how to pray janaza, I had always skipped that section. Then I searched for a book on janaza prayers and learnt the dua and went to her house.

She died of an abdominal disease, I read that such a person will not have any punishment in the grave. She was once telling my mom that she had never done anything wrong in her life, very few people would be able to say that with confidence. May Allah forgive her and give her Jannatul firdaws. I console myself saying I would meet her again in the hereafter...insha Allah.
 
I actually don't remember losing anyone close to me, yet. Alhamdulillah... Though, I think it's a part of life that happens to everyone. Bit sad thinking about it though.
 
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the one person that really comes to mind is my dear old grandad. although he lived on the other side of the world, well kinda, i did live withhim for the first 5 years of my life, then they used to visit every couple of years :wub: and he was so funny and weird, i think thats where the family gets its weirdness from lo. i wasnt there for his funeral but had been there for the last few weeks of his life to see him alhumdulillah and it was like he wasnt 'gone' kinda thing. but last year went back there and he wasnt there in his room. and it was so different, the family wasnt the same. like he was the gel that kept it together or something lol. of course everything 'looked' the sameish, just he wasnt there.
i dont think about it really, except dua time or when i see/remember something...thats life you move on because you have to.

i pray that Allah gives my parents and family a long, happy, healthy life :wub: