My friend had to constantly request her guy to ask her hand in marriage. If a guy would answer me similarly 'why are you in such a hurry', I'd probably feel like I'm begging him (pretty low).
If a man truly loves you´he'd hasten marrying you. A real man makes his intentions clear. If he's unable to marry now, then why did he approach you in the first place? To keep him busy? He's unsure of you?
p.s. love how Mufti Menk tends to address big current issues affecting the youth.