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Hi guys

I'm having problems with my height. I'm 18 and 5'7, hopefully I'll grow a couple of more inches this year but I'm struggling with my height psychologically. It's destryong me inside out, psychologically it's killing me, I'm fighting it with my all but every waking thought I have is about my height and I know it's silly but I can't help it one bit. Any advice?
 
the way i look at it is it is dependent on who we are around and the type of society we live in. what i mean is that if we are around people who have the same characteristics/traits as us, then we would feel good about ourselves. in other words, its just that we dont conform to the "norm" (i.e we are the "odd" ones out) that is making us feel uncomfortable.

i also have a little problem in that i dont fit in with most people but i find comfort in knowing that if i was somewhere were the majority of people where like me, then i would feel comfortable and not looked down at. and likewise, people who dont have this particular trait, would feel uncomfortable in an environment where their little traits, etc where against the "norm."

another thing is you need to change you way of thinking. you cant control your height, so you have to work on accepting yourself the way you are. what are going to do about it? how are you going to change something that isnt in your control? you need to (i know this sounds super girly :hmm:) love yourself and appreciate yourself. just accept who you are. what are you going to lose? you need to put things in perspective as well i mean contemplate in what other ways you have you been blessed it would out weigh this "issue" that you have with your height.

you seem to have self-esteem issues aswell. do you get picked on becuase of it? i know you didn't mention, but im going to advise anyway dont worry about peoples nasty remarks becuase what can i do about other peoples stupidity? if they are so shallow as to judge on what appears to them, then why should that bother you and how is it your problem?
 
Tom Cruise is 5'6.

Al Pacino 5'6.

Emilio Estevez 5'7.


My own brother is 5'8 and is just as attractive to the opposite gender than any celebrity, if not more - without even being on TV!

It's not height alone that has any significance. It's the whole package. Confidence and friendliness are key. My brother can go up to the Queen and start talking to her as if he's known her all his life. And I bet he'd be invited for tea at Buckingham Palace. :P His confidence is magnetic and people adore him. (MashaAllah)


I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Worrying about it only makes you feel more introverted and so you 'disappear' altogether. Love yourself and believe in yourself and others will do the same. A tall man isn't necessarily a happy man.


P.S. If you're puny, then do some body building. Being skinny is less attractive than being short. No offence to skinny people out there.
 
dude how tall are your parents? and did you start weightlifting at a young age?
 
Hello bro

Brother, never worry about what you have.. i know its easier said than done but think about the people whom we term "freaks" the midgets, people with weird body. How would they feel. Aren't we lucky in the sense that God gave us a good body and kept us healthy ?

And don't worry about height a man with good character with 5'7 height is always than a man with a bad character and 6'2 height.

Be nice to others , thats all that ,matters
 
whats wrong with being 18 and 5'7? :-\
(i genuinely dont know what the issue is)
 
If it really bothers you, males can continue growing up to the age of 21-23 max. Drink skimmed milk and do some hanging exercises if you feel you really want to be taller.
 
i'll share my secret you have to have chapati made out of wholemeal flour and drink a glass of milk before bed everyday milk! you might hit 5 ft 9 inshallah!

hang in there bro!
 
Is height really a big issue with blokes?

It isn't for women, and being tall doesn't guarantee you'll find good woman or be any happier than if you're shorter.
 
Scents of Jannah said:
Is height really a big issue with blokes?

It isn't for women, and being tall doesn't guarantee you'll find good woman or be any happier than if you're shorter.
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it is if you are 17 - 25.....some girls like celebrities and they tend to be tall and handsome most of them anyway and now the girl will try and look for the best match that resembles her icon and if you're short you haven't got a cat in hells chance.


but thats the western way of things which is slowly creeping up into some muslims
 
Abdullahii said:
it is if you are 17 - 25.....some girls like celebrities and they tend to be tall and handsome most of them anyway and now the girl will try and look for the best match that resembles her icon and if you're short you haven't got a cat in hells chance.


but thats the western way of things which is slowly creeping up into some muslims
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thats not true recently i seen a very famous actor the other day going shopping with his bodyguard when i saw him i didnt care to be honest with u sure when they are on t.v they wear make up anyway and doll themselves up like girls. my brother is 5,8 and it dose bother him to. its weird to cos my grandad was 6,2 and my mums dad was 5,11 ud think we would follow after our grandparents :hmm:
 
cat eyes said:
thats not true recently i seen a very famous actor the other day going shopping with his bodyguard when i saw him i didnt care to be honest with u sure when they are on t.v they wear make up anyway and doll themselves up like girls. my brother is 5,8 and it dose bother him to. its weird to cos my grandad was 6,2 and my mums dad was 5,11 ud think we would follow after our grandparents :hmm:
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You'll also find girls who dislike tall men everybody is different i guess but when i was in school if you were short you were considered cute and cuddly,but if you had some height and you were lean then it was more than that
 
my mum tells me 2 eat this saggoor or i think thats wat its called but i dont get why u feel ashamed about your height :)
 
5'7 is alright, just work on your body and you'll have more confidence in yourself, I've seen 5'5 midgets that are strongly built and they have more presence than 6ft tall slim guys
 
yeah i do know girls who actually dont like tall men. there was a tall guy who went to my school and he was very tall and everyone use to bully him awwwwwww lol i think it was because the other boys were jealous but as you get older women actually can't get enough of tall men. i suppose they want to be protected but pakistani people have a good height what ever they eat lol
 
Tom Cruise is 5'6.

Al Pacino 5'6.

Emilio Estevez 5'7.


My own brother is 5'8 and is just as attractive to the opposite gender than any celebrity, if not more - without even being on TV!

It's not height alone that has any significance. It's the whole package. Confidence and friendliness are key. My brother can go up to the Queen and start talking to her as if he's known her all his life. And I bet he'd be invited for tea at Buckingham Palace. :P His confidence is magnetic and people adore him. (MashaAllah)


I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Worrying about it only makes you feel more introverted and so you 'disappear' altogether. Love yourself and believe in yourself and others will do the same. A tall man isn't necessarily a happy man.


P.S. If you're puny, then do some body building. Being skinny is less attractive than being short. No offence to skinny people out there.
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I think this is the best and most truthful advice given out so far. When people say personality matters, its not just a "saying",or something that should make you feel better,its really true.

Specially for us muslims. I don't about any other girls here, but I'll talk about me specifically,

height is absolutly nothing compared to your character traits. I'd take a 5'-6" guy with a solid Iman and a great personality over someone who is 6' and who's only so-so here and there, anytime!

And to be honest I see men (work,school,family,etc) who are 5'-7" to 5'-9" and they have absolutly no problem with their height. It's not really noticeable, and most girls are averagely 5'-4 or 5'-5, (women around me,anyway, even shorter), so I don't think 5'-7 is a problem at all for them.


Abdullahii said:
it is if you are 17 - 25.....some girls like celebrities and they tend to be tall and handsome most of them anyway and now the girl will try and look for the best match that resembles her icon and if you're short you haven't got a cat in hells chance.


but thats the western way of things which is slowly creeping up into some muslims
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Eh, some girls like tall men because they like tall men. Has nothing to do with celebrities, it's just what you find attractive, which anyway shouldn't be that relevant to muslims.

And I'm sure to most women, even if they like tall men, won't even put that on their lists when searching for a spouse, since it's a superficial physical feature.
 
Abdullahii said:
it is if you are 17 - 25.....some girls like celebrities and they tend to be tall and handsome most of them anyway and now the girl will try and look for the best match that resembles her icon and if you're short you haven't got a cat in hells chance.

but thats the western way of things which is slowly creeping up into some muslims
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As sis Houda said, It's more to do with personal choice and I believe it's due to the false belief that you are more protected if the man is taller. Some say it may be due to biological factors as wanting offspring that is taller fitter etc.
However, the bottom line is the it's not the height of a man that finally decides how protected and secure a female feels, it is his courage and love that will show what he is really made of.


my mum tells me 2 eat this saggoor or i think thats wat its called but i dont get why u feel ashamed about your height
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Thanks! I now remember that is true. Sago pudding made with milk can indeed help to attain a couple of inches. Two ounces everyday for 6 months for breakfast.



5'7 is alright, just work on your body and you'll have more confidence in yourself, I've seen 5'5 midgets that are strongly built and they have more presence than 6ft tall slim guys
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Aw don't call short people midgets bro. Terms like this is why people get an inferiority complex in the first place. But yes, you are right. I know a bro who is probably 5'3 and he looks as strong as a bull cuz he is so chunky. Chunky? I forgot the other word lol.



height is absolutly nothing compared to your character traits. I'd take a 5'-6" guy with a solid Iman and a great personality over someone who is 6' and who's only so-so here and there, anytime!
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Anyday!
 
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