Assalaamu alaikum True,
(smile) Welcome to the Forum. I hope you find something here to help you in your quest. (smile) Realize, though, that what you read here is not an ultimate authority, just people's (moderated) ideas and comments. (smile) Only God is an Ultimate Authority. We search for His Will through His Words, and the instructions of His prophet (PBUH), but it is each person's struggle to understand His Will that really counts. No one is perfect, and we may misunderstand, make mistakes, and plain misbehave sometimes. But if we try our best, God is very Kind and Loving.
Islam is a struggle to surrender to God's Will. You will find differing understandings of what His Will is, on this and other fora. (smile) That's ok. It's part of the richness of life, and part of our spiritual journey to have to think and choose what we feel is most pleasing to God. (smile) So I wish you all the best in this wonderful journey of discovery of Islam!
(twinkle) And don't feel you need to give your husband anything! If you are like most non-muslim women (and actually many reverts), you probably fell for the "the mehr is a token amount" line, and you don't have anything much to give back to your husband (I'm referring to An-Nisa 4). Many Muslim women don't accept a token amount. It can be an insurance policy against the difficulties of widowhood and divorce. It's probably too late for you, but any other woman reading this post should be aware of her rights. (smile) Of course the men prefer to get a good deal and get an awesome wife for practically nothing! But (sad), it may be necessary for you to have a bit of money put aside for rainier days.
May God, the Bestower, Bless you in your Islam and in your marriage.
eace:
