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:sl: Well said sister...............and i know i am not like this and the females in my family are not like this and the females i associate with are not this also....................:bump1::w:
seeker-of-light said:
sorry, but from my experience guys cheat on their wives much more commonly than women cheat on husbands. this is why i am paranoid about guys and marriage, because i have had an abusive relationship with a man previously that really affected me badly. i would suggest at least getting over your biases towards women though, while right now i am afraid of any kind of commitment to a guy i do have respect for them. while there are some bad women, not ALL women are bad. perhaps you have had some negative experiences, however i would not allow this to develop into dislike or general annoyance against women thinking that they are all like this. i know i am not like this=s
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Affairs are many problems why people are religious hermits...Islamic ones too).
 
It is not uncommon for a young man to feel he has no desire to get married. Being married is a big sacrifice and a person needs to have a good deal of maturity before stepping into it.

Many young men will find many excuses not to marry: Such as:: Women cheat, marriage doesn't last, I do not want a wife, I have never seen a good marriage etc etc etc

The simple fact is you may be mature enough to realize you are not ready for marriage. Seek first to assure yourself you are mature enough to marry. Once you know you are ready for marriage, your views about mariage will change.

It is probably a good thing, at this stage of your life, you have negative feelings about marriage. Take your time, be certain you are ready for marriage and after that decide if marriage is for you.
 
I think brother najm said everything quite nicely.

You seem to blaming all your problems on what you have seen and what you "perceive" women to be. Believe me not all the women out there are like what you think they are.

You say you don't wanna ever get married. That choice is completely your own and if you think you can steer clear of sin for the rest of your life then kudos to you. I;m not saying get married right now. Just that try to forget the girls/boys who verbally abused you and convince yourself that you are worthy enough to be loved and when a pious girl comes along, don't automatically say no.

I really sympathize with you and I wish you would learn to not be so harsh on women. No one is perfect. You have to accept their mistakes in order to be with them.

You say a shrink wont help you but it might. You can go and rant all you want to these people and believe it or not, it'll actually make you feel a lot better and you'll slowly get rid of these thoughts or at least understand why you are so bitter. God bless.
 
if everybody will think like u bro, the humanity will end soon

the problem is not with women, the problem is with the society in which they are brought up.

maybe u have not come across women who are taught Islamic morals and are Allah-fearing.

otherwise u might sacrifice a lot to marry one of them.
 
lol


bro as crazy as girls are, not all of them are bad.


fact


my own sisters/cousins etc are proof of that :)
 

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